I like to go to the beach by myself sometimes, and I dont want men to think that Im unapproachable. What are some signs that say Im approachable without being slutty or desperate? I read something about bringing some extra food/drinks, reading a book or build a sandcastle for starters. I have resting bitch face naturally so trying to work on correcting that and smile when we make eye contact.
What are some signals to let men know Im approachable at the beach?
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I like to go to the beach by myself sometimes, and I dont want men to think that Im unapproachable. What are some signs that say Im approachable without being slutty or desperate? I read something about bringing some extra food/drinks, reading a book or build a sandcastle for starters. I have resting bitch face naturally so trying to work on correcting that and smile when we make eye contact.
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Tits out. Or try doing the approaching
Positive body language, including a wave/beckon I think will help you đź‘Ť
>I read something about bringing some extra food/drinks, reading a book or build a sandcastle for starters
lol
Try talking to them
Be a normal person, but dressed attractively. Critically, dressed atractively to your target demographic. Trying to get fucked? Tiny bikini. Want a devout Muslim? Burkini.
Make visible eye contact with men and wave and say hi. If you don’t make it explicitly clear that you want to talk to that specific person, no one except creeps will talk to you.Â
Man here
There’s no way in hell I’m approaching you at the beach, not because I’m a pussy, but the beach is not really a place I would feel comfortable approaching a woman and not making her feel uncomfortable
The squeaky wheel greased
Go to the beach and if you see a guy you like go up to him
Fact is you need to initiate the contact in some fashion if you want to meet people.
If you bring extra food they’ll think you’re waiting for a person that you’re with. If you read a book the good ones will just leave you alone to read.
Sandcastle one might work (or a massive fuck off hole lol) but you should simply approach the ones you like.
Just start digging a massive hole. Dig it and they will come.
I’d never approach a woman on a beach, I think it would make me look creepy. If ever a lone female wanted to talk to me, she’d have to make the first move.
Approach people
Wiggle your feet seductively at them. Let them know that you’re open to the idea of them rubbing suncream into your feet and toes.
Honestly with the way men have been shamed and conditioned in today’s society you can not be viewed as approachable at the beach.
Your option is smile at a guy who looks at you and wave.
Pretty simple and low effort on your part but men are terrified to make the first move particularly at a place like the beach.
Because all it takes is you having an axe to grind and a cellphone where you video him approaching then calling him out as a sexual predator and upload it to tiktok and you can ruin him.
Probably have to go up and approach the guy. Kind of a stay away for guys to approach a girl that is alone at the beach
Men are not likely to approach. Make the first move… initiate conversation.
A big sign on a pole, with APPROACHABLE in 800 point bold font, with an arrow pointing a you
A literal sign explaining this. We are dumb
I would say a friendly wave to someone you find attractive could be a great signal.
Approach them first.
Give em a REALLY excessive wink when you make eye contact.
Why do you feel like its men that have to do the approaching? If I go to the beach to read a book, I sure as shit don’t want to be bothered by randos, and I assume the same about anyone else reading. If you bring excess food, I assume you are with someone. Â
Beaches aren’t generally spots people go for a chat up.
Bring a sign that says “Hey guys, it’s okay to approach me (with romantic intent)”
You can’t
Bring two shovels and start digging a hole. The men will come.
Well, come to a beach in Croatia.
When you spot the one(s) you’d like to talk to, send up a flare. I mean light up the sky like you birthed a new sun, write “Hey hot stuff” in it too (or however people drop lines these days), bc that might be just enough to make it known you’re approachable
Have a little table with a notebook and a sign saying free poems.
You can either write one for them or insist they write one.
You’re an adult, use your mouth and talk to them. They’re not mind readers and guys these days generally don’t want to bother chicks minding their own business. You don’t need to wait for them to make a move, it’s 2025 get with the program.
How about just approaching them
it’s best to single somebody out and make eye contact, smile, wave etc. it’s simple yet direct. an unavailable female would NOT do those things to a random guy. if i’m single and in public and see a woman do one of those things while looking at me that would be a clear sign she’s open to a conversation. which is now on me to make happen. if the guy doesn’t act on your signal then he may not be available or even interested but it’s best to give a LITTLE hint to a person like hey im noticing you here at the store, at the beach, at the gym, at the bar, etc.
Get into a sports argument. Guys will talk to you all day.
Hold up a sign that says “need a man” and some men might figure it out.
u can do small waves;
I def think the beach is a young persons pick up arena… i just can’t see a non Dbag dude who’s 35-40+ just walking up to single women on the beach to say hello…
Repeated eye contact, smile, wave, or just go up to someone.
Start building a sand castle.
For one, don’t be wearing a bathing suit. Any decent guy would be afraid of interfering with your privacy.
Find a guy you like and ask him to help you put sunscreen on. A chick did this to me at a beach in Hawaii and later confessed she only did it to get me to talk to her. Totally worked, she was cool as hell and we ended up hanging out the rest of the day
Smile. Seriously why a beach? And will you be alone? How high are the sand-dunes?
I will tell you why I ask. Beaches are dangerous places – particularly in some countries. Not many people know that. People have been murdered on beaches. It has happened here in New Zealand – I recall one morning – to the wife of one of our school teachers. Take care of yourself and be careful of strangers. I don’t want to make you nervous around men, but always be “situationally” aware.
Write “I’m single, it’s fine” in the sand.
Build a sandcastle of a 3 bed town house and a little you out front, ask guys if they want to help finish it.
When a guy walks past you want to speak to, open your mouth and say hi.
Wave excessively at them and gesture them to come over.
Bring a friend who can be your wingman, someone to shout over “she thinks you’re cute” and ducks out.
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Sorry, there is no way after men have been told a gazillion times how creepy and annoying it is to approach women especially in places like that where the assumption is they just want to be able to sunbath in peace.