Hi I’m a listener of two hot takes! I’m a 26 year old female who recently got married to the love of my life (25 year old straight man). And also just to preface I would never ever cheat on my husband just something he said to me the other day made me question my self haha and I think he meant it as a joke.
I have recently gotten into watching the girl group katseye specifically the “gnarly” dance. Idk what it is but i genuinely can’t stop watching. I wanted to show my husband some of the fan cams and dancing videos and told him i thought Manon and Dani were super beautiful and I liked watching them do the gnarly dance. And then he asked me if I thought they were hot and i said yes but doesn’t everyone think they are? I know my husband would support me regardless it’s just is the band katseye making me question my sextuality? Idk
Also other background my husband knows before I got with him i used to kiss girls (nothing sexual) mainly when i got drunk at parties i would go around kissing everyone guys and girls and I kissed girls in middle school when we played spin the bottle but didn’t think anything of it. Honestly thought everyone did that and it was normal but maybe it’s not??
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Backup of the post’s body: Hi I’m a listener of two hot takes! I’m a 26 year old female who recently got married to the love of my life (25 year old straight man). And also just to preface I would never ever cheat on my husband just something he said to me the other day made me question my self haha and I think he meant it as a joke.
I have recently gotten into watching the girl group katseye specifically the “gnarly” dance. Idk what it is but i genuinely can’t stop watching. I wanted to show my husband some of the fan cams and dancing videos and told him i thought Manon and Dani were super beautiful and I liked watching them do the gnarly dance. And then he asked me if I thought they were hot and i said yes but doesn’t everyone think they are? I know my husband would support me regardless it’s just is the band katseye making me question my sextuality? Idk
Also other background my husband knows before I got with him i used to kiss girls (nothing sexual) mainly when i got drunk at parties i would go around kissing everyone guys and girls and I kissed girls in middle school when we played spin the bottle but didn’t think anything of it. Honestly thought everyone did that and it was normal but maybe it’s not??
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>And then he asked me if I thought they were hot and i said yes but doesn’t everyone think they are?
This sentence is in every bi person’s realization story, including mine. Yes, straight people can recognize when the same gender is attractive. That’s different than being attracted to them.
That’s really the only question. Not whether you like watching them, but whether you find them attractive and the idea of kissing them (hypothetically, not in a cheating way) appealing.
If the answer is yes, don’t overworry and overthink it. You can be a attracted to just one woman, or most of them, or none of them. Your life continues as before, nothing bad happens. But also don’t feel like you have to meet a minimum standard of gay, or that if you are only attracted to some people you have to call yourself straight. Be yourself, and use whatever label works for you.
Idk. I’m the straightest person ever and I can recognize a super hot woman.
I watch every single one of those dance videos because I think it’s just cool choreography.
I do believe sexuality is a spectrum. I don’t label myself as bisexual because I’ve never had a relationship with a woman and I don’t really want to. If I met someone who I was interested in in a romantic way that could change. The other thing is that men and women view things very differently. It’s not “gay” for a woman to think another woman is hot. I tell my girl friend all the time that they look hot but I don’t want to fuck them.
I don’t think anyone can answer this question for you but yourself.
Do you want to be with a woman?
Do you want a relationship with a woman?
Is this something that you’ve felt about yourself prior to this conversation?
I grew up (even into my 30’s) being offended by boob shots in movies. Turns out it just made me uncomfortable because I’m bi. Once I accepted that I was attracted to woman my life because easier. I would also never cheat on my partner and I don’t feel the need to try that part of me out but it sure is fun to look at hot woman and banter about it with him!
I’m gay, and I thought I was bi because me and my sister (also bi at the time) agreed that everyone thinks women are hotter than men. Turns out straight women don’t and both of us are gay.
I would say it might be worth looking in to if it matters to you, but it definitely sounds a bit non-straight. My straight sister thinks women are hot in an “I would like to look like that” kind of way, not in a “daaamn” way, haha!