Hi! My fiancé (32M) is in addiction recovery. He experiences a lot of related emotional blunting and is struggling a lot with figuring out if he loves me or not, and what love is even supposed to feel like in the first place.
It’d be really helpful to hear from other men what your experience of love feels like to you and how you conceptualize it. 🙂 I will show him every reply.
Thank you!
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Hi! My fiancé (32M) is in addiction recovery. He experiences a lot of related emotional blunting and is struggling a lot with figuring out if he loves me or not, and what love is even supposed to feel like in the first place.
It’d be really helpful to hear from other men what your experience of love feels like to you and how you conceptualize it. 🙂 I will show him every reply.
Thank you!
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Horny in my heart and my pants.
When I say I love you, It means I love everything about you. My world has now become complete and I have found my other half, I found a person who will help raise me up and experience all life has to offer together.
I love you means you’re my world.
Love is when she means more to me than myself. Long-term love is hard work and takes lots of grace compassion understanding. True love is very rare and worth fighting for every day. If you have it you must fight for it you must sacrifice.
Married 33 years. At the end of the road the grief is just love with no place to go.
I have no clue how to describe it. It’s just a feeling. It’s not like something you feel constantly every minute either.
it changes for everyone ya know, it’s such a broad feeling. but since you did ask for us in particular, for me, it’s that i will go out my way to make her feel good. she’ll be the first person i want to talk to in the morning and the last i want to talk to to cap the night off. i don’t get tired of being around her. obviously i’ll have my moments where i want or need space to myself, but more times than not, i want to be with her. just the cheesy shit you see in the movies in a nutshell lol.
No idea. In 33 years I’ve never felt desire for another human.
A warm hug with a special person who makes everything just a little easier to handle.
Hmm, so I’ve never been like deeeply/madly in love with anyone. But when I’ve loved my recent girlfriends, it felt like a ball of energy in my stomach/chest that felt strong enough to burst out of me and smother them with affection and compliments lol. I remember just feeling like King Kong beating on his chest to protect this woman at all costs. I looked forward to seeing them. Just seeing their smile and being in their presence made my day. I also liked telling them that I love them. It felt good to say it.
Love is an authentic, healthy connection with another human being. It is both a feeling and a verb.
The love I have for my daughter, parents, a co-worker, siblings, and my wife look differently. There are many commonalities. Listening without judgment. Boundaries respected. Compassion. Gratitude. Meaningful conversation. Those are all acts of love.
With my wife, I get to experience physical closeness that I don’t experience with anyone else. Each of us vested into meeting each orhers’ emotional and physical needs. That too is an act of love.
I don’t know else how to describe that feels except “warm” and “feather-light”.
For me saying “I love you” is meaningless words without action to back it up.
Being in addiction recovery shouldn’t make him unable to decide if he loves you. That’s alarming to me. Just the wording of it. I’m in recovery and I understood how bad anhedonia can get when your receptors are fried. It’s scary to not feel pleasure during formerly pleasurable experiences but he shouldn’t be unable to discern if he still loves you. That’s not something that should even be an issue.
Love for another person is a physical and mental and emotional and biological imperative. You feel it more than you think it. Words tend to diminish its enormity but it’s not ambiguous. When you love someone, you know.
I felt like my mind was focused and less scrambled with endless thoughts about the vast universe , we both tried to describe the same feeling we had but couldn’t. We both were aware that we had an indescribable connection that pulled us together .i can try and pry more if that helps you both
I’ve been with my fiance for 8 years. Especially in the last year, I think the biggest feeling of romantic love/partnership is someone to go through life with that makes it easier. The mundane, the hardship, the fun, all of it together. It forces you to be more accountable in some ways because you can’t hide your deficits from someone that close to you, but it makes you better. I am so grateful to have someone to review our day together. To make a meal. To sit in silence and watch TikTok’s lol. I think with long term relationships it’s the companionship that’s the best part.
It feels like the necessary mouth-noises I need to say in order to secure access to sex for a little while longer.
love and loyalty mean roughly the same to me. When I love someone, there isn’t much I wouldn’t do for them. I can only hope that’s enough.
It feels like relief – I can literally feel my body relaxing when she’s around. There’s also missing her when she’s not there. I feel excited when something happens at work that I know she’ll find entertaining because I can’t wait to tell her. I find that my mind wanders naturally to her and what’s she’s doing. I feel hopeful that she’s having a good day and feels the same towards me. I feel special when she looks at me the way she does. So, relief, excitement, missing her, thinking of her, wanting to share my day with her and listen as she shares hers, and hope. This is by no means exhaustive but that’s what I got off the cuff.
Some people feel actions say enough, but sometimes people just need it laid out simply, and be told “I love you.” It’s confirmation for me and them, as everyone lately is quick to forget what’s truly valuable to them in mome ts of stress, frustration, and the occasional despair.