What is your relationship with your mom like, and how do you think it impacts your romantic relationships (if at all) ?

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What is your relationship with your mom like, and how do you think it impacts your romantic relationships (if at all) ?

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  2. Ratakoa Avatar

    Nonexistent. It doesn’t.

  3. kalelopaka Avatar

    It was very good. If it impacts it in any way it is that I have a lot of respect for women.

  4. zipcodekidd Avatar

    Took off at 17 because of her. I had no relationship with her for a long time, but now as an older man I feel compelled to help her in her final years. Only effect I can recognize is that I have not tolerance for ladies that do nothing but complain and make shit worst for themselves. These ladies make me ride the white horse in the opposite direction.

  5. Hrekires Avatar

    We’re close but I don’t think it impacts my relationship at all.

    To whatever extent I care about her opinion, no one gets a vote on how I live my life unless they’re paying my bills.

  6. Ok_Lebanon Avatar

    I respect women because my mother, she thought me how to respect them even if I hate some of them. I have very good relationships with my mother.

  7. symca09 Avatar

    My birthmom is a saint but sadly mentally unfit, my adopted mother is a narcissist asshole who I want nothing to do with. Sadly I have to have her in my life as she’s my birthmoms sister. Until I’m rich enough to have my mom live with me I’m stuck with her. The narc mom taught me a lot of patience, but all of hers is cashed out. Had some ex’s hear me have a argument with my narc mom and it affected it negatively “how could I talk to a women like that” well if you knew the amount of manipulation, pitting my siblings against each other, leaving my mother’s kids (my siblings on the poverty line) while spoiling her birth children was great.

  8. Tolerant-Testicle Avatar

    Not sure how it impacts romantic relationships but I think having a healthy family relationship in general helps people a lot. Understanding what is healthy will allow you to more easily find it (not easy, easier).

    I always feel bad for those who were raised in undesirable conditions as that’s such a sad way to spend your childhood.

  9. broadsharp2 Avatar

    It was not good. Single mother of 4.

    Not exaggerating when I say, I was ignored. Pretty much left to raise myself. Which I did. When she passed away, it was like going to the funeral of a distant relative.

    The need for any type of attention took over. Sleeping with as many women as I could. Move on and repeat. From 15 to 27. That was most of my life.

    Thank goodness I met my wife. Something snapped in my brain. That dim light bulb flickering. Some subconscious voice telling me to be better. So, I became better.

  10. nomnomyourpompoms Avatar

    My mother was mentally unfit and extremely neglectful. She told me many times that she wished I had never been born.

    I definitely spent a few years craving desire and acceptance from any woman I could.

  11. Dustanddreams96 Avatar

    Its very good, however my mom got pregnant at 16, father at 17-18 because of pregnancy. As much as I dont excuse my father for his actions in can absolutely see why ubwouod freak out around 30-35 in that situation realise you signed your whole life away and it no one’s fault but yours. So I didn’t really see my dad much after 13 making me closer to my mom but also making me understand what a burden lifetime commitments you aren’t prepared for can be…. because of that I have very carefully navigate my relationships to avoid marriage and children. It’s tough though because I wonder if im missing out but I value freedom more than anything…( oh i also spent about 1 yr in prison when I was 18, which is the other reason I value freedom so highly, I know what it like to not have it) and honestly as many women

  12. saviorself19 Avatar

    My mom is tough as old boot leather and I think that had an influence on my taste in women because I generally prefer strong willed women with their own opinions and hobbies. I don’t want a pet or a follower or a bang maid I need a peer.

  13. at1991 Avatar

    Well my mom was absent my whole childhood. She passed away in 2022. She was only 61. If she was around today she would be my biggest cheerleader and just love anyone I loved. I think since she failed as a mom, she became a cheerleader in the small amount of adult life I always able to have with her.

  14. ThicccBoiiiG Avatar

    My Mom is the most important person in the world to me. We get along fantastically and I visit her atleast once a week.

    I don’t think it’s had any sort of impact on any of my relationships.

  15. K_N0RRIS Avatar

    My mom was and still is awesome to us. She loves us and took care of us and did everything the stereotypical mom would do. I looked for characteristics of my mom in the women I dated. But thats about as far as it goes.

  16. GAYPORNANDWARCRIMES Avatar

    Total no contact. She disowned me when she found out I was gay.

  17. SloperzTheHog Avatar

    Good relationship but mom never respected boundaries as kids (or adults) and thus I struggled with enforcing boundaries in previous relationships

  18. AWildLampAppears Avatar

    Solid relationship. She’s the most important person in my life.

  19. ThatsMe086 Avatar

    We are all waiting for that horrible bitch to die sooner rather than later.
    So never let it affect any romantic relationship.

    I think a lot of us 90s kids had 1 terrible parent if not 2
    Or 1 that was good but was never there

  20. Expert-Hyena6226 Avatar

    My mom past away last fall. I took care of her for 6 years as she had dementia. I watched my mom slip away a piece at a time over the course of 6 years. I love my mom.

    I don’t equate my relationship with my mom with any other relationships. I haven’t had a healthy intimate relationship with a woman in 20 years or so. As you may have guessed, I’m older. Pretty much given up on any kind of love relationship. I’ll die alone, fine. At least it will be peaceful.

  21. Leather_Addition2605 Avatar

    Not very close. Nothing happened, no animosity or anything, just after my folks divorce I lived with my grandparents.

    We’re friendly. I love her. I help her out if she needs it. We just don’t have much in common and go long periods of time without talking sometimes. It doesn’t help she’s several states away.

    I don’t think it impacted my relationships at all.

  22. Awkward_Intention_15 Avatar

    Maybe unpopular opinion but i truly love my parents so much. I’m so fortunate to have an amazing mom and an amazing dad, they’re both very well alive and in good health. I know this isn’t the case with everybody. In terms of my mom I have a very close and exclusive relationship with her that I wouldn’t have with any other woman. I do my best to be as nice as I can to her and not stress her out and even when she’s upset, yells at me, or says something that I may misinterpret I don’t yell or try to say something that may hurt her as she’s my only true mom.

    If I were to go against my mom and continue my life, it would bring a lot of anxiety and make me feel emotionally held back unless me and her are on good terms. This isn’t to get mixed up with exercising my independence but just speaking in terms of big life changes.

  23. KinkyMillennial Avatar

    I love my mom. I live a few hours away from my folks now but I see them when I can and we chat almost daily. I don’t think she’s had much of an impact on my relationships though. Her and my dad are kinda traditional in their marriage. Most of my romantic relationships have either been men or dominant women. Y’know, basically the polar opposite :3

  24. rollercostarican Avatar

    My mom is dope. Women have told me they can tell I was raised by a woman because of how respectful I treat other women and they like that about me. So it definitely helps.

  25. Sensitive-Loan-9257 Avatar

    Gotta hear 👂 these lies

  26. BMoney8600 Avatar

    I have a good relationship with my mom. She has passed her values on to me and I know I want to meet a woman who shares those values.

  27. Dexter_313 Avatar

    I always had a bias for my dad (M40%-D60%} but my dad always treated my mom right and listened to her. It unconsciously make me respect her and help her as much as i can since my dad passed away.

    At 28 I see how my mom has impact and influence my life for good. Her counselling is on point and her vision in life is very balanced. She had some 1 or 2 years of promiscuous time but after that she went to look for a life that really involves true happiness and meaning to life. Went celibate until she met my dad and enjoyed and discovered the rest of her sexual life with him. So knowing how to pursue a good life, she has influenced how and who could be a great partner for me. Looking back, she has been right on how she sees certain lady and what potential life I could get whit them. She does not obligates but offers an opinion that has proved to be Toyota like reliable. Even my now wife gets counsel and opinions from her regarding big decisions. Again, she does gives her opinion but do not actively push us to do as she says.

  28. NovelFarmer Avatar

    She’s a great person, but an absolute dog shit mother. The way she raised me completely ruined my romantic relationships, as in I couldn’t get any because of how she shaped my mind. I’m slowly fixing it and I don’t like her.

  29. Mean-Manufacturer681 Avatar

           Complicated. I loved my mother but I dont believe she ever should have had children with the litany of issues she had. Shes been dead a little over 5 yrs now and I’ve been able to (mostly) come to terms with and move past the problems we had. It most definitely impacted my romantic life given the enmeshment trauma and preferring to keep people at arms length for the most part. I’m proud of myself for the progress I have made in learning more about myself and accepting myself, however, still have a long way to go. 

  30. mikess314 Avatar

    It’s fine. I love her and she’s a good person. But with each year she’s getting more and more boomer and difficult to have a conversation with. I probably should catch a flight out and visit her though.