I’m 32 and have lived cross-country from my family for 9 years now. I absolutely love where I live and everything that comes with it, but I have always struggled with the fact that I live cross country from my family, especially my mom. I make an effort to visit home at least twice a year, but I feel like I’m constantly in a battle of “living where I want to live vs. living close to my family.”
I’m very fortunate that my mom has supported me living my dream across the country, but I’m so close with her and the older I get, the more I fear that I’m not spending enough time with her. I don’t want to give up my entire life here just to move back to be closer to her, but as I watch people around me lose their parents, I’m noticing a crippling fear sneak in of losing my mom and feeling as though I didn’t spend enough time with her. I’m just not really sure how to navigate this and I’m curious if anyone else has?
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I’m in almost the exact same situation and I struggle with knowing the right answer, especially with my mom having cancer (in remission thank goodness). I just try to make any time I spend with her extra special, take lots of pictures together, and know that the memories I have with her are incredibly special. I also talk to her on the phone often.
My mom and dad are trying to move to a city closer to mine, so I’m not worried. If not I would be concerned that my son would mostly know them via Messenger.