Any date where the guy wouldn’t shut up about himself and didn’t ask me much about myself. One guy interrupted me a couple times. I never got to finish what I was saying.
we got dinner and he then proceeded to tell me (i am brown with immigrant parents) about how racist his family was, how they’d hate me/hated immigrants, and how I could never go around them (he said all of this with a smile I think he thought it was funny?) and then proceeded to call me Mommy later on in the date (this was a first date btw). I had to block his number because he wouldn’t stop texting me even after I made it explicitly clear that I did not want to see him again.
I must preface this by saying I was 18, incredibly stupid, and had no boundaries at all.
I met a guy on an app who lived an hour from me. he wasn’t that attractive but he was fun to talk to and he said he liked visiting my city, & he proposed going on a date. he picked me up at my house, and got out of the car to give me a big hug, which was off-putting in its own way but he was also wearing way too much cologne.
when we got in the car he was playing bad techno very loudly. he asked if it would be okay to go to the mall, which is about the most unspectacular part of my hometown, and I said yes. on the way there he mentioned having a kid; interesting since he had previously told me he didn’t have any.
we got there and walked into the food court where there was a simple Chinese food spot run by a Chinese family. after I placed my order, my date started his with “yeah, do you have any dog? no? how about cat? I heard it’s leaner and I’m on a diet.” said this DIRECTLY to the Chinese teenager who was taking the order, without skipping a beat. jesus fuck
we walked downstairs to get some ice cream and while in line, we were behind a larger woman. he said to me loud enough so she could hear, “wow. she should be in line at the gym, not to get ice cream” 🤮 what the fuck
at this point I desperately wanted to escape but had no way to get home, so I was trying to lure him back out to the car, but he insisted at stopping inside a shoe store. he asked the sales guy if they had a certain shoe in another color, because “this color scheme looks like a n****r shoe.” when I heard that I just left and literally ran out to the parking lot ready to walk hours back to my place just to get the fuck away from him.
he caught up to me and said “what’s wrong? where are you going?” I told him his blatant racism was disgusting and I wanted him to stay the hell away from me. he cornered me and insisted that I hear him out while he drove me home. I got in his car and he ranted about how he drove all the way up here to see me, and I wasted his time, and he thought it was funny to say the things he said, why didn’t I think it was funny too, etc.
after he dropped me off, I ran inside and locked the door. a day later he messaged me asking if we could be fuck buddies.
Guy I was seeing was still living with his parents. He invited his friend to our dinner to try an ask him to move in together. The friend had just gotten engaged and of course wanted to move in with his fiancé. Guy I was talking to didn’t understand that his friend did not want to live with him. He also for some reason got up and vomited right out side the restaurants door instead of going to the bathroom, leaving me there awkwardly with his friend. Friend and I were so confused.
met online, first date, both of us in a foreign country. he slipped something into his own drink when i wasn’t looking and offered me a taste. i had a tiny sip.
about 20 min later i start feeling it and realize what he did and call him out, he admits it and thought i’d think it was fun and spontaneous.
i found it neither. luckily i made it home before it really took hold. had to call out of work the next day but in the end the worst that happened was i tipped the taxi driver who got me home (and let me smoke in his car) 200%
My friends peer pressured me into asking him out because I thought he was kinda cute. When I saw him up close I noticed he was older (I was only 18 and he was like 26) than I thought and not as cute as I thought. I was horribly shy and almost had a panick attack before going. We had nothing in common and he was nothing like I imagined.
Also people at the table next to us were drunk and loudly played a game of replacing words of movie titles with sexual words, which was distracting
It was overall very awkward. I will never ask anyone I don’t know at least a little bit on a date ever again.
Guy looked at his phone every 5 minutes then insisted on leaving after barely 30 minutes if that. Shockingly, he ghosted me right after 🙄 He was the one who insisted on meeting up right away too. I normally like to talk for about a week before meeting just to see if we even can talk and not be awkward. I made an exception and met after 4 days. Also, he did not look exactly like his photos 🙄 Yet I guess he thought he was too good for me 🤷♀️
I’ve never been on a date, so if that somehow ever did happen, it would be the worst by default. Though if you’re an optimist, it would also be the best.
There was this guy who approached me in my ambulance and he seemed nice so when he asked for my number I gave it to him. He then invited me on a coffee date and we started to chat. (He did not pay for my coffee btw on this date he asked me out to) Anyways, I dressed very modest and no matter what I wear it’s obvious that I have very large breasts. He started talking to me about his past life and how he was in prison… (I’m very open minded so that didn’t bother me) but as the conversation continued he stated that he used to be a crackhead and has been sober for 2 years. I commended him on that but as he was saying all of this he was looking all around us as if he was looking for someone… he also started to twitch and have weird movements as if he has schizophrenia…. I’m a paramedic so I can see a mental illness like this a mile away.. but in my head I’m like (I’m 29, single, no kids and never been married I’ll continue to sit here and converse despite the red flags coming up) He then started to mention how big his hands were and stated that God made his hands this way so that he can fully grasp big breasts like mine… 🥴 Mind you, I gave him no indication that I was looking for sex.. Him mentioning that made me cringe. I most definitely didn’t reciprocate what he was trying to do. Then he was like Heyy.. come back to my place.. I’m like HELL NAHH in my head! I played it cool because I have no clue how stable this man is mentally. I politely declined and never texted or spoke to him again. He was just showing one red flag after another. 😂
I went to dinner with a guy I’d been out with before and had been talking to for a bit. He told me out of the blue at dinner that he was talking to someone else but really couldn’t choose just yet, but that he thought he liked her a little bit more. Then told me he couldn’t pay the tab. I paid and left as quickly as I could. Such a waste of time.
I also went to dinner with a guy and it was nice. He walked me to my car and started making out with me out of nowhere. It was weird af and suddenly everything felt off. We said goodbye after I politely ended the kissing and agreed to another date. I thought maybe he was just nervous or something. He ghosted after that and messaged me again two years later.
I think the absolute worst was when my ex boyfriend right after high school came to pick me up and made me put gas in his car, after telling me his mom warned him that I was just out for his money since he received veteran benefits. I had never met the lady. He never actually served either, but that’s not my story to tell. Needless to say that relationship crashed and burned quickly.
Don’t do it. You’re just going to make it worse. You gain nothing but a pointless hookup. Rn, you’re not the bad guy. She didn’t communicate her feelings with you, then slept with your friend instead. That’s on her. But if you go and sleep with her too, knowing how you feel, knowing how she feels, you’re now also the bad guy. Because I’m sure she would think you wanting to sleep with her would mean you want more than that as well and that her plan to make you jealous worked, and you’d be at fault for her believing that.
Guess this wasn’t horrible comparing to some of the stories I heard.
Dated a guy who kept telling me he can teach me stuffs (you wanna try tennis? I can teach you! You wanna skate? I can teach you!), I found it extremely annoying.
We went skiing he was trying to mansplain the whole time. I told him I can ski advance runs and he didn’t believe me till we came down one, and he was like oh I didn’t think you meant it because every time someone else told him they can do advance runs they actually can’t, like wtf? Did you just call me a liar to my face!?
He was also trying to baby me the whole time maybe some women like this but again it was SO annoying to me like I can take care of myself stop asking me if I’m ok every 5 minutes
After dinner we stopped at this new sports field at a local college. On my way back to the car, my foot slid on something but I didn’t think anything of it. A few mins later we both smelled something similar to dog shit. And then I realized that it was DOG SHIT that I stepped in. We were halfway to the bowling alley but it was too late and I tracked it into his car.
I spent half an hour in the bowling alley bathroom scrubbing the bottom of my shoe in the sink with those crappy (pun INTENDED) paper towels and that cheap hand soap.
He spent the next day scrubbing his car interior. Needless to say, I never heard from him again. If you’re old like me, you’ll remember Chris O’Donnell the actor -this guy looked just like him. His name was Chuck. Chuck, if you’re reading this-I’m sorry 😂.
Met a guy on bumble, we went for dinner and he was eying up the waitresses (I only clocked it after the date), we made out, he tried to sleep with me, I told him I wasn’t comfortable with any type of sex, he still pulled it out, I said no. He got annoyed and then said he was going home I said it’s okay
He then ghosted me … this was about 2 years ago and the last date I went on cause I’m terrified
He showed up in the passenger seat of his friends car. No big deal I tell myself. Maybe his car had an emergency and he didnt want to cancel the date? No, he had a DUI he didn’t think to tell me about upfront. I stupidly decide to go on the date anyways, because he was really nice and getting his license back the next week.
Get to the restaurant, we order a nice fancy meal. And then he starts drinking. A lot. I let him know that I wasn’t comfortable and would be ending the date early and not go to the movies. Bill comes. His wallet is not in his pocket. I pay, just to get out of there. He’s 2 sheets to the wind, piss drunk and cant remember his friends number- could I possibly get him a cab? His wallet’s at home and he can pay for his own fare. I call the cab. Cabbie arrives and says “he’s not getting into this car without you. I dont want him soiling himself or my car.”
Get him home, a 20 minute ride from my house on the other side of town, and ask him to get his wallet to pay the fare. He can barely walk. Get him out of the cab, and the cab leaves without me. Get him up to the front step and his dad comes running out of the house after me for ruining his son’s 6 months of sobriety. I ran three blocks to the nearest bus stop and it took me almost two hours to get home.
I am so happy i’m not a dumb 19 year old any more.
I met a guy at a concert. We had a few drinks together and exchanged numbers. The next day he asked me if I wanted to grab breakfast. I said sure, he came and picked me up in his BIG ASS truck. I lived downtown near the venue lol. Got in his truck and he complained the whole time about parking. After driving out of downtown I asked where we were going and he named a breakfast spot NEAR MY HOUSE? I was like… ok. He pulls into a liquor store. It’s 9am. Stores closed. He boots the door and comes back to the truck angry. At this point I’m frightened. I’m like why did I do any of this. He asks me if I know anywhere to get booze and I do so I name it. We go there. He buys a bottle of fireball and downs a couple shots and offers me some and I say no, he gets mad, so I take one. I saw him crack the seal so I know I’m not going to die. Yet. We drive back downtown and get to the restaurant. We go in and he orders mimosas for us. I sip mine and he chugs his like a shot. He had four before our meals got there. I ate my food and excused myself to the bathroom. I went to the kitchen and told a random cook I was frightened and he let me out the back door and told me he would deal with the guy. I RAN HOME. Thankfully only a couple blocks. I guess the guy got kicked out. He starts circling my block honking. I stay holed up in my apartment building. Cops show up. He gets arrested for drunk driving. His truck was parked outside my apartment for three days and I got it towed lol.
Don’t get in an unknown man’s truck for a first date. Don’t be like me.
I was 18. We had been dating for a while. He picked me up to take me to dinner and pulled over to do a drug deal on the way. I did not know he was a dealer until that moment. The buyer was my older sisters best friend who had known me since I was 10. It was incredibly awkward at the time, but now when I look back at it, it’s hilarious.
So his friend called me a bitch before i met him and i didnt know he was friends with him. When we met face to face, we found out that we both know him and i told him that his friend called me a bitch and said many slurs even tho were not close, he was like “ye he says that to anyone.” And started to tell the story how they met and i found out that they met thru telegram for +18 content and i cut my intentions with him immediately
This is just one of MANY haha. I had TERRIBLE boundaries as a closeted queer woman. I pushed myself to “like” a lot of the things men were doing because I felt bad or confused that I didn’t so I ended up getting exposed to a lot of rough scenarios. Men always say the most insane stuff to me and I have slow reaction times so I just sit there and say Oh okay hahahaha.
This particular guy I met on an app and I really wanted out first date to be in a normal, public place like a cafe or similar (obviously) I think he might have been on a budget or something?? So he was very insistent that it not be so. He was very pushy about me getting in his car and taking me somewhere- which I didn’t like. But I used to second guess myself all the time back then and thought maybe I was being too paranoid? Newsflash ladies you never are. If you’re uncomfortable that’s enough to say no even if that means you’re gay hahaha.
Anyways, so I relent. I get in his car and he takes me to the carpark of his apartment building where he picks up a tent from his storage cage, puts it in the back. Apparently we are going to a well known local hill where we will… sit I guess? He drives us there he sets up the tent and I am not really ready to be… enclosed with this guy. But he is insistent on getting inside the tent like I thought we were here to watch the sunset and have an awkward conversation? Apparently I am just here to get my nipple touched non-consensually by a stranger in a tent on a hill.
He drives me home and basically takes me on a guided tour of all the houses in the neighborhood where he had group sex with the inhabitants. I was wondering if he was telling that to put me off? Like it’s fine I was already off him lol I blocked him as soon as I got out the car.
No more Scorpios for me! I dated another one where we went to a bar and I thought we were not clicking AT ALL but then while we were leaving he just pushes me against a wall and kisses me and I was like sir? I thought you hated me? Apparently not enough to not molest me. Obviously I just went along with it cos is that what a straight girl would do?? Probably not lol. But yeah. Not a fun time. Honestly there were worse ones but this one is pretty silly and a good lesson to trust your gut.
I used to date someone from Japan and we had a long distance relationship for several years before he visited my country. He decided to come to my city for a day to meet me and….. nothing. I mean, we greeted each other and remained silent until he left at 5pm (8 hours later, the longest hours of my life). I tried to break the ice and ask questions but he would barely answer. Maybe not the worst date but definitely the most boring one lmao
A partner at a law firm! He brought a friend without telling me (that “friend” was the guy he was mentoring at the law firm) then he spent the whole night making racist and derogatory remarks about me and his coworker and checking out any woman that walked past by.
Words that came out of this man’s mouth:
When we have kids, it’s going to be really hard to WIPE OUT your eye dark color! I thought you were white until I saw how dark your eyes were. (He wasn’t getting a second date; much less a child from me.)
Do you ever wonder about how much further you would have gone in life if your were born white?
He then asked me to drive him home and critiqued my driving for the entirety of like 3 blocks to his apartment.
When I got home, all I could do was laugh because what on God’s green Earth was that date???
I thought he knew how old I was, apparently not. He was so mad I was his age instead of under 18 that when I walked out he tried to hit me with his car.
guy and I went to a bar for drinks and darts. we got along golden.
we go back to my place, because it was around the corner and he was driving.
we smoke a cigarette in my driveway, and he gets a phone call. he excuses himself and walks a few steps away. I can sort of hear the beginning of an argument. my lady neighbor comes out and smokes with me. we chat, and grow concerned about the guys phone conversation.
he is now pacing and flailing his arms and yelling on the phone.
I tell my neighbor lady i’m going to head inside and lock my door. I tell her to do the same, and text me.
he doesn’t notice we are gone, and he is screaming at the person on the other line, which I now realize is an ex wife or girlfriend.
twenty minutes pass and he realizes i’m gone and he starts ringing the bell, knocking and eventually pounding on the door. hes screaming at my door. he’s blowing up my phone. he heads to my back yard and starts kicking the back door.
his texts say we are meant to be together and there’s no one like me and i’m the only one that understands him.
He showed up in dirty clothes, talked loudly at the table about subs/doms, slid his phone over to me mid convo that showed a fully naked woman, told the waiter we were deciding whether to have sex or not (we were not, and I would never with that cretin), pulled out a huge knife and shaved it down my arm when I said I still felt oily from my (just before the date massage). He did that to prove there wasn’t oil on the knife blade or my skin?
This was all with 20 mins of meeting him. I left. He tried to follow, I told him to get the fuck away from me.
Picked me up & immediately started talking about how much money he makes. How well he does. How much he travels. His breathe was disgusting, you would have thought the date was a surprised with how gross his breathe was. Went for dinner and he put it on the company card after bragging about how well he does for himself. Didn’t message him after that.
It was just a simple dinner date and she drank a bunch. She said she was just nervous because it was her first date with another woman. She got sloppy drunk. I don’t drink at all. Then she puked on me in my car when I was driving her home.
I met a guy off hinge at a board game cafe. First of all, he didn’t look anything like his photos. He also was so unwashed, I had to hold my breath when I walked behind him. He wanted to ply a very complicated game and sat reading the rules out loud for like 15 minutes before I finally asked if we should play something easier. He agreed. While we played, I asked lots of questions, all of which had an answer that revolved around his dogs. He didn’t ask me anything.
I unmatched him while I walked back to my car after the date.
He tried negging me. He tried making fun of everything about me my name, clothes, appearance, job and then kept trying to laugh it off as a joke. Then would start bragging about himself and how amazing he thought he was. I waited until I was done drinking my coffee. Then I got up and he looked confused and asked me if I wanted to join him for dinner since coffee went so well? He then tried to schedule a date for the next day. I said no. And he was super confused by now. I was honest. This was a horrible date. I don’t know why he thought negging would actually work on anyone. It was so pathetic that he thought that highly of himself when he had nothing to be proud off and his way of talking to others is disgusting. No one in their right mind would ever date him. He then told me something I get told a lot. That I was too independent and well put together and that it was women like me that made nice guys like him turn bad. We exchanged a few other words and I left. He txt later on that day to see if I had come to my senses yet and go with him on a date the next day. I blocked him. I’ve had other bad dates but this was my most annoying.
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Any date where the guy wouldn’t shut up about himself and didn’t ask me much about myself. One guy interrupted me a couple times. I never got to finish what I was saying.
Met the guy for a dinner date, things were going great till he tried to order for me. I didn’t say a word, I just got up, walked out, & went home.
We got high in his apartment and I saw a hentai sticker on his water bottle. Insanely graphic.
I can’t even make this up. He told me I was pretty except for a zit on my face.
I ended up leaving, but being stoned with both of those things happening was well….something.
we got dinner and he then proceeded to tell me (i am brown with immigrant parents) about how racist his family was, how they’d hate me/hated immigrants, and how I could never go around them (he said all of this with a smile I think he thought it was funny?) and then proceeded to call me Mommy later on in the date (this was a first date btw). I had to block his number because he wouldn’t stop texting me even after I made it explicitly clear that I did not want to see him again.
I must preface this by saying I was 18, incredibly stupid, and had no boundaries at all.
I met a guy on an app who lived an hour from me. he wasn’t that attractive but he was fun to talk to and he said he liked visiting my city, & he proposed going on a date. he picked me up at my house, and got out of the car to give me a big hug, which was off-putting in its own way but he was also wearing way too much cologne.
when we got in the car he was playing bad techno very loudly. he asked if it would be okay to go to the mall, which is about the most unspectacular part of my hometown, and I said yes. on the way there he mentioned having a kid; interesting since he had previously told me he didn’t have any.
we got there and walked into the food court where there was a simple Chinese food spot run by a Chinese family. after I placed my order, my date started his with “yeah, do you have any dog? no? how about cat? I heard it’s leaner and I’m on a diet.” said this DIRECTLY to the Chinese teenager who was taking the order, without skipping a beat. jesus fuck
we walked downstairs to get some ice cream and while in line, we were behind a larger woman. he said to me loud enough so she could hear, “wow. she should be in line at the gym, not to get ice cream” 🤮 what the fuck
at this point I desperately wanted to escape but had no way to get home, so I was trying to lure him back out to the car, but he insisted at stopping inside a shoe store. he asked the sales guy if they had a certain shoe in another color, because “this color scheme looks like a n****r shoe.” when I heard that I just left and literally ran out to the parking lot ready to walk hours back to my place just to get the fuck away from him.
he caught up to me and said “what’s wrong? where are you going?” I told him his blatant racism was disgusting and I wanted him to stay the hell away from me. he cornered me and insisted that I hear him out while he drove me home. I got in his car and he ranted about how he drove all the way up here to see me, and I wasted his time, and he thought it was funny to say the things he said, why didn’t I think it was funny too, etc.
after he dropped me off, I ran inside and locked the door. a day later he messaged me asking if we could be fuck buddies.
Guy I was seeing was still living with his parents. He invited his friend to our dinner to try an ask him to move in together. The friend had just gotten engaged and of course wanted to move in with his fiancé. Guy I was talking to didn’t understand that his friend did not want to live with him. He also for some reason got up and vomited right out side the restaurants door instead of going to the bathroom, leaving me there awkwardly with his friend. Friend and I were so confused.
met online, first date, both of us in a foreign country. he slipped something into his own drink when i wasn’t looking and offered me a taste. i had a tiny sip.
about 20 min later i start feeling it and realize what he did and call him out, he admits it and thought i’d think it was fun and spontaneous.
i found it neither. luckily i made it home before it really took hold. had to call out of work the next day but in the end the worst that happened was i tipped the taxi driver who got me home (and let me smoke in his car) 200%
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My friends peer pressured me into asking him out because I thought he was kinda cute. When I saw him up close I noticed he was older (I was only 18 and he was like 26) than I thought and not as cute as I thought. I was horribly shy and almost had a panick attack before going. We had nothing in common and he was nothing like I imagined.
Also people at the table next to us were drunk and loudly played a game of replacing words of movie titles with sexual words, which was distracting
It was overall very awkward. I will never ask anyone I don’t know at least a little bit on a date ever again.
Guy looked at his phone every 5 minutes then insisted on leaving after barely 30 minutes if that. Shockingly, he ghosted me right after 🙄 He was the one who insisted on meeting up right away too. I normally like to talk for about a week before meeting just to see if we even can talk and not be awkward. I made an exception and met after 4 days. Also, he did not look exactly like his photos 🙄 Yet I guess he thought he was too good for me 🤷♀️
i passed out and got molested 💀
I’ve never been on a date, so if that somehow ever did happen, it would be the worst by default. Though if you’re an optimist, it would also be the best.
There was this guy who approached me in my ambulance and he seemed nice so when he asked for my number I gave it to him. He then invited me on a coffee date and we started to chat. (He did not pay for my coffee btw on this date he asked me out to) Anyways, I dressed very modest and no matter what I wear it’s obvious that I have very large breasts. He started talking to me about his past life and how he was in prison… (I’m very open minded so that didn’t bother me) but as the conversation continued he stated that he used to be a crackhead and has been sober for 2 years. I commended him on that but as he was saying all of this he was looking all around us as if he was looking for someone… he also started to twitch and have weird movements as if he has schizophrenia…. I’m a paramedic so I can see a mental illness like this a mile away.. but in my head I’m like (I’m 29, single, no kids and never been married I’ll continue to sit here and converse despite the red flags coming up) He then started to mention how big his hands were and stated that God made his hands this way so that he can fully grasp big breasts like mine… 🥴 Mind you, I gave him no indication that I was looking for sex.. Him mentioning that made me cringe. I most definitely didn’t reciprocate what he was trying to do. Then he was like Heyy.. come back to my place.. I’m like HELL NAHH in my head! I played it cool because I have no clue how stable this man is mentally. I politely declined and never texted or spoke to him again. He was just showing one red flag after another. 😂
I went to dinner with a guy I’d been out with before and had been talking to for a bit. He told me out of the blue at dinner that he was talking to someone else but really couldn’t choose just yet, but that he thought he liked her a little bit more. Then told me he couldn’t pay the tab. I paid and left as quickly as I could. Such a waste of time.
I also went to dinner with a guy and it was nice. He walked me to my car and started making out with me out of nowhere. It was weird af and suddenly everything felt off. We said goodbye after I politely ended the kissing and agreed to another date. I thought maybe he was just nervous or something. He ghosted after that and messaged me again two years later.
I think the absolute worst was when my ex boyfriend right after high school came to pick me up and made me put gas in his car, after telling me his mom warned him that I was just out for his money since he received veteran benefits. I had never met the lady. He never actually served either, but that’s not my story to tell. Needless to say that relationship crashed and burned quickly.
Don’t do it. You’re just going to make it worse. You gain nothing but a pointless hookup. Rn, you’re not the bad guy. She didn’t communicate her feelings with you, then slept with your friend instead. That’s on her. But if you go and sleep with her too, knowing how you feel, knowing how she feels, you’re now also the bad guy. Because I’m sure she would think you wanting to sleep with her would mean you want more than that as well and that her plan to make you jealous worked, and you’d be at fault for her believing that.
Guess this wasn’t horrible comparing to some of the stories I heard.
Dated a guy who kept telling me he can teach me stuffs (you wanna try tennis? I can teach you! You wanna skate? I can teach you!), I found it extremely annoying.
We went skiing he was trying to mansplain the whole time. I told him I can ski advance runs and he didn’t believe me till we came down one, and he was like oh I didn’t think you meant it because every time someone else told him they can do advance runs they actually can’t, like wtf? Did you just call me a liar to my face!?
He was also trying to baby me the whole time maybe some women like this but again it was SO annoying to me like I can take care of myself stop asking me if I’m ok every 5 minutes
We talked for 90 minutes and he didn’t ask me a single question in that entire time.
After dinner we stopped at this new sports field at a local college. On my way back to the car, my foot slid on something but I didn’t think anything of it. A few mins later we both smelled something similar to dog shit. And then I realized that it was DOG SHIT that I stepped in. We were halfway to the bowling alley but it was too late and I tracked it into his car.
I spent half an hour in the bowling alley bathroom scrubbing the bottom of my shoe in the sink with those crappy (pun INTENDED) paper towels and that cheap hand soap.
He spent the next day scrubbing his car interior. Needless to say, I never heard from him again. If you’re old like me, you’ll remember Chris O’Donnell the actor -this guy looked just like him. His name was Chuck. Chuck, if you’re reading this-I’m sorry 😂.
Met a guy on bumble, we went for dinner and he was eying up the waitresses (I only clocked it after the date), we made out, he tried to sleep with me, I told him I wasn’t comfortable with any type of sex, he still pulled it out, I said no. He got annoyed and then said he was going home I said it’s okay
He then ghosted me … this was about 2 years ago and the last date I went on cause I’m terrified
He showed up in the passenger seat of his friends car. No big deal I tell myself. Maybe his car had an emergency and he didnt want to cancel the date? No, he had a DUI he didn’t think to tell me about upfront. I stupidly decide to go on the date anyways, because he was really nice and getting his license back the next week.
Get to the restaurant, we order a nice fancy meal. And then he starts drinking. A lot. I let him know that I wasn’t comfortable and would be ending the date early and not go to the movies. Bill comes. His wallet is not in his pocket. I pay, just to get out of there. He’s 2 sheets to the wind, piss drunk and cant remember his friends number- could I possibly get him a cab? His wallet’s at home and he can pay for his own fare. I call the cab. Cabbie arrives and says “he’s not getting into this car without you. I dont want him soiling himself or my car.”
Get him home, a 20 minute ride from my house on the other side of town, and ask him to get his wallet to pay the fare. He can barely walk. Get him out of the cab, and the cab leaves without me. Get him up to the front step and his dad comes running out of the house after me for ruining his son’s 6 months of sobriety. I ran three blocks to the nearest bus stop and it took me almost two hours to get home.
I am so happy i’m not a dumb 19 year old any more.
I met a guy at a concert. We had a few drinks together and exchanged numbers. The next day he asked me if I wanted to grab breakfast. I said sure, he came and picked me up in his BIG ASS truck. I lived downtown near the venue lol. Got in his truck and he complained the whole time about parking. After driving out of downtown I asked where we were going and he named a breakfast spot NEAR MY HOUSE? I was like… ok. He pulls into a liquor store. It’s 9am. Stores closed. He boots the door and comes back to the truck angry. At this point I’m frightened. I’m like why did I do any of this. He asks me if I know anywhere to get booze and I do so I name it. We go there. He buys a bottle of fireball and downs a couple shots and offers me some and I say no, he gets mad, so I take one. I saw him crack the seal so I know I’m not going to die. Yet. We drive back downtown and get to the restaurant. We go in and he orders mimosas for us. I sip mine and he chugs his like a shot. He had four before our meals got there. I ate my food and excused myself to the bathroom. I went to the kitchen and told a random cook I was frightened and he let me out the back door and told me he would deal with the guy. I RAN HOME. Thankfully only a couple blocks. I guess the guy got kicked out. He starts circling my block honking. I stay holed up in my apartment building. Cops show up. He gets arrested for drunk driving. His truck was parked outside my apartment for three days and I got it towed lol.
Don’t get in an unknown man’s truck for a first date. Don’t be like me.
I was 18. We had been dating for a while. He picked me up to take me to dinner and pulled over to do a drug deal on the way. I did not know he was a dealer until that moment. The buyer was my older sisters best friend who had known me since I was 10. It was incredibly awkward at the time, but now when I look back at it, it’s hilarious.
So his friend called me a bitch before i met him and i didnt know he was friends with him. When we met face to face, we found out that we both know him and i told him that his friend called me a bitch and said many slurs even tho were not close, he was like “ye he says that to anyone.” And started to tell the story how they met and i found out that they met thru telegram for +18 content and i cut my intentions with him immediately
This is just one of MANY haha. I had TERRIBLE boundaries as a closeted queer woman. I pushed myself to “like” a lot of the things men were doing because I felt bad or confused that I didn’t so I ended up getting exposed to a lot of rough scenarios. Men always say the most insane stuff to me and I have slow reaction times so I just sit there and say Oh okay hahahaha.
This particular guy I met on an app and I really wanted out first date to be in a normal, public place like a cafe or similar (obviously) I think he might have been on a budget or something?? So he was very insistent that it not be so. He was very pushy about me getting in his car and taking me somewhere- which I didn’t like. But I used to second guess myself all the time back then and thought maybe I was being too paranoid? Newsflash ladies you never are. If you’re uncomfortable that’s enough to say no even if that means you’re gay hahaha.
Anyways, so I relent. I get in his car and he takes me to the carpark of his apartment building where he picks up a tent from his storage cage, puts it in the back. Apparently we are going to a well known local hill where we will… sit I guess? He drives us there he sets up the tent and I am not really ready to be… enclosed with this guy. But he is insistent on getting inside the tent like I thought we were here to watch the sunset and have an awkward conversation? Apparently I am just here to get my nipple touched non-consensually by a stranger in a tent on a hill.
He drives me home and basically takes me on a guided tour of all the houses in the neighborhood where he had group sex with the inhabitants. I was wondering if he was telling that to put me off? Like it’s fine I was already off him lol I blocked him as soon as I got out the car.
No more Scorpios for me! I dated another one where we went to a bar and I thought we were not clicking AT ALL but then while we were leaving he just pushes me against a wall and kisses me and I was like sir? I thought you hated me? Apparently not enough to not molest me. Obviously I just went along with it cos is that what a straight girl would do?? Probably not lol. But yeah. Not a fun time. Honestly there were worse ones but this one is pretty silly and a good lesson to trust your gut.
I used to date someone from Japan and we had a long distance relationship for several years before he visited my country. He decided to come to my city for a day to meet me and….. nothing. I mean, we greeted each other and remained silent until he left at 5pm (8 hours later, the longest hours of my life). I tried to break the ice and ask questions but he would barely answer. Maybe not the worst date but definitely the most boring one lmao
A partner at a law firm! He brought a friend without telling me (that “friend” was the guy he was mentoring at the law firm) then he spent the whole night making racist and derogatory remarks about me and his coworker and checking out any woman that walked past by.
Words that came out of this man’s mouth:
When we have kids, it’s going to be really hard to WIPE OUT your eye dark color! I thought you were white until I saw how dark your eyes were. (He wasn’t getting a second date; much less a child from me.)
Do you ever wonder about how much further you would have gone in life if your were born white?
He then asked me to drive him home and critiqued my driving for the entirety of like 3 blocks to his apartment.
When I got home, all I could do was laugh because what on God’s green Earth was that date???
I thought he knew how old I was, apparently not. He was so mad I was his age instead of under 18 that when I walked out he tried to hit me with his car.
Went to his place, he showed me his miniature toy setup thing like some army battle or something says he does this for several hours a day loves it.
I said that’s great and I’m glad you’re passionate but is this our evening?
He said yes? This is what I’m doing tonight.
I left.
guy and I went to a bar for drinks and darts. we got along golden.
we go back to my place, because it was around the corner and he was driving.
we smoke a cigarette in my driveway, and he gets a phone call. he excuses himself and walks a few steps away. I can sort of hear the beginning of an argument. my lady neighbor comes out and smokes with me. we chat, and grow concerned about the guys phone conversation.
he is now pacing and flailing his arms and yelling on the phone.
I tell my neighbor lady i’m going to head inside and lock my door. I tell her to do the same, and text me.
he doesn’t notice we are gone, and he is screaming at the person on the other line, which I now realize is an ex wife or girlfriend.
twenty minutes pass and he realizes i’m gone and he starts ringing the bell, knocking and eventually pounding on the door. hes screaming at my door. he’s blowing up my phone. he heads to my back yard and starts kicking the back door.
his texts say we are meant to be together and there’s no one like me and i’m the only one that understands him.
one date.
Was talking to a dude online. We made arrangements to meet up at a coffee shop I visit frequently so the staff knows me.
Who shows up to the date? Not the dude but his mother and aunt. They brought a ring sizer and bridal magazine. I bolted.
He showed up in dirty clothes, talked loudly at the table about subs/doms, slid his phone over to me mid convo that showed a fully naked woman, told the waiter we were deciding whether to have sex or not (we were not, and I would never with that cretin), pulled out a huge knife and shaved it down my arm when I said I still felt oily from my (just before the date massage). He did that to prove there wasn’t oil on the knife blade or my skin?
This was all with 20 mins of meeting him. I left. He tried to follow, I told him to get the fuck away from me.
Never dated since. I’m out 🙌.
Picked me up & immediately started talking about how much money he makes. How well he does. How much he travels. His breathe was disgusting, you would have thought the date was a surprised with how gross his breathe was. Went for dinner and he put it on the company card after bragging about how well he does for himself. Didn’t message him after that.
It was just a simple dinner date and she drank a bunch. She said she was just nervous because it was her first date with another woman. She got sloppy drunk. I don’t drink at all. Then she puked on me in my car when I was driving her home.
I met a guy off hinge at a board game cafe. First of all, he didn’t look anything like his photos. He also was so unwashed, I had to hold my breath when I walked behind him. He wanted to ply a very complicated game and sat reading the rules out loud for like 15 minutes before I finally asked if we should play something easier. He agreed. While we played, I asked lots of questions, all of which had an answer that revolved around his dogs. He didn’t ask me anything.
I unmatched him while I walked back to my car after the date.
I hooked up with a guy, he came in me and then bursted out into tears and began venting about his ex…
He tried negging me. He tried making fun of everything about me my name, clothes, appearance, job and then kept trying to laugh it off as a joke. Then would start bragging about himself and how amazing he thought he was. I waited until I was done drinking my coffee. Then I got up and he looked confused and asked me if I wanted to join him for dinner since coffee went so well? He then tried to schedule a date for the next day. I said no. And he was super confused by now. I was honest. This was a horrible date. I don’t know why he thought negging would actually work on anyone. It was so pathetic that he thought that highly of himself when he had nothing to be proud off and his way of talking to others is disgusting. No one in their right mind would ever date him. He then told me something I get told a lot. That I was too independent and well put together and that it was women like me that made nice guys like him turn bad. We exchanged a few other words and I left. He txt later on that day to see if I had come to my senses yet and go with him on a date the next day. I blocked him. I’ve had other bad dates but this was my most annoying.
He took me to a family BBQ at a remote family property. Got into a fight with his mum and drove off… Leaving me there .
God bless his Grandmother who told me “You can do better sweetheart”
Awkward 2 hour car ride home with his parents.