I’d be more concerned with how they manage their money more than the number itself.
Obviously when you’re trying to build a life together, especially in HCOL areas, there’s a desire for both of you to earn a higher income. But a bad spender will be a bad spender at $50K and at $200K, and I wouldn’t hitch my wagon to either horse.
Doesn’t matter as long as they can support themselves. It only matters how they view money and whether or not you’re on a similar page especially when talking about future plans/goals.
But more important to me is someone who balances responsibilities with a good time. I find a lot of people struggle with that regardless of salary. If we cant have a fun time after bills are paid, I’d rather date someone else. I dont live to work, life is short and unpredictable.
I pay bills, I invest, I save, and still have a good time. I prefer the same.
I’ve dated many, many men with no money. Like $20K a year, barely getting by. Most women, including myself, are looking for love. I can’t financially support another person, but as long as he can cover his basic needs, I’m good.
They need to be self sufficient and mature with their spending. There is a difference between a man that doesn’t make a high wage and a lazy man. In life, pay will change, as will health. Pick based upon shared values and harmony and find someone with the same work ethic as yourself.
It is more about their financial philosophy. Do they live within their means? Do they have a plan for how they will retire someday? Do they have an emergency fund? Do they take care of themselves and their household or will they be relying on me to do everything?
I make plenty of money to fund the household and then some. I don’t want someone who doesn’t contribute and who then also needs me to mother them.
I’m in my late 30’s. At this point, a person’s salary doesn’t matter per se, but I need any potential serious date to be fully established and funding their own lifestyle that makes them happy. They could be living on disability with roommates. They could be in a mansion they inherited. I don’t care. What matters is that they like their life and don’t expect me to fund a different one. Because I’m never funding somebody else’s life again.
When I was younger I was way more “how much they make doesn’t matter as long as they’re responsible with money.” But I don’t think I really thought about the way that, if my partner makes 1/5 of the money I make, we have to decide how we’re going to deal with that. Are they going to watch as I save my money and retire early and go on vacations without them? No! That’s crazy! Am I going to pay for our life while they do more of the housework? No, they work full time too, that’s not fair, I don’t want kids, I’m not going to let a person risk their career to leave work and be a homemaker for 2 adults. When you date a person who makes significantly less than you, you are signing up to pay almost all the cost for a life that is half what you want, and half what they want. That’s not a little difference that doesn’t matter. That’s a big thing to figure out in a relationship and come to terms with if you don’t want to resent each other.
At this point in my life, I find it really hard to imagine ever having a true partnership with another person, unless they had a reasonably similar salary to me, or we were at an age where it was more of a “let’s ride out our golden years, make sure we don’t fall down the stairs and break a hip, and let whoever survives longer inherit the other person’s stuff.”
I don’t think there’s a specific number for income, but it matters to me that my partner has a similar amount of discretionary income as me so that we can enjoy going to dinner, bars, events, and the occasional vacation together. The income needed to have that would vary depending on their expenses. I still have a lot of student loans, so someone without debt could make less than me but have the same ability to spend on fun stuff. My boyfriend does make more than me but not by a lot.
Like 50k. I want someone who’s able to support themselves without having to penny pinch and who’s able to save for their future and go on a like a vacation every once in a while. I’d say where I live 50k is the minimum for that.
And obviously it also depends on how they handle their money. I know people who make 100k and have less financial security than people making 50k because they spend their money on dumb ass shit. So just being a sensible person when it comes to money is also very important.
And it matters to me b/c I’ve had people become a lot more interested or invested into dating me after finding out my financial situation. It became clear that really wasn’t OK for me, and not dating people of highly different financial status is just the easiest way to avoid that.
Enough for them to live their life independently and that our lifestyles can meld smoothly.
I’m at the point in my life where I’m not rich, but I am financially independent. I don’t care about dollar amounts so much as us being able to build a life together where no one feels taken advantage of or massively off balance.
Like, I could meet a guy that makes 200k a year (which is like 3x ish more than me), and we still wouldn’t vibe if he never splurged on anything or pinched every penny.
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do they pay their bills on time?
can they afford gas and groceries?
do they have some fun money leftover?
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I’d be more concerned with how they manage their money more than the number itself.
Obviously when you’re trying to build a life together, especially in HCOL areas, there’s a desire for both of you to earn a higher income. But a bad spender will be a bad spender at $50K and at $200K, and I wouldn’t hitch my wagon to either horse.
Doesn’t matter as long as they can support themselves. It only matters how they view money and whether or not you’re on a similar page especially when talking about future plans/goals.
I don’t really mind as long as they’re not gonna pull me into a financial black hole.
It doesn’t matter.
My husband has no income at all, and it didn’t stop me from the relationship or marriage.
Can they cover their bills? Pay their rent, buy their own groceries, put gas in their car?
As long as they can support themselves and have a healthy understanding of money, the number doesn’t matter to me
For me, at least, it would be more of a question of how responsible they are with their money than how much they make.
Same as me or more (I dont make 6 figures).
But more important to me is someone who balances responsibilities with a good time. I find a lot of people struggle with that regardless of salary. If we cant have a fun time after bills are paid, I’d rather date someone else. I dont live to work, life is short and unpredictable.
I pay bills, I invest, I save, and still have a good time. I prefer the same.
I’ve dated many, many men with no money. Like $20K a year, barely getting by. Most women, including myself, are looking for love. I can’t financially support another person, but as long as he can cover his basic needs, I’m good.
it’s never about how much they make, it’s about what they do with it. whether it’s 10k a year or 1m.
They need to be self sufficient and mature with their spending. There is a difference between a man that doesn’t make a high wage and a lazy man. In life, pay will change, as will health. Pick based upon shared values and harmony and find someone with the same work ethic as yourself.
It is more about their financial philosophy. Do they live within their means? Do they have a plan for how they will retire someday? Do they have an emergency fund? Do they take care of themselves and their household or will they be relying on me to do everything?
I make plenty of money to fund the household and then some. I don’t want someone who doesn’t contribute and who then also needs me to mother them.
My ex made $130k and was still broke. It matters more about their financial responsibility and ability to sustain their livelihood.
I’m in my late 30’s. At this point, a person’s salary doesn’t matter per se, but I need any potential serious date to be fully established and funding their own lifestyle that makes them happy. They could be living on disability with roommates. They could be in a mansion they inherited. I don’t care. What matters is that they like their life and don’t expect me to fund a different one. Because I’m never funding somebody else’s life again.
When I was younger I was way more “how much they make doesn’t matter as long as they’re responsible with money.” But I don’t think I really thought about the way that, if my partner makes 1/5 of the money I make, we have to decide how we’re going to deal with that. Are they going to watch as I save my money and retire early and go on vacations without them? No! That’s crazy! Am I going to pay for our life while they do more of the housework? No, they work full time too, that’s not fair, I don’t want kids, I’m not going to let a person risk their career to leave work and be a homemaker for 2 adults. When you date a person who makes significantly less than you, you are signing up to pay almost all the cost for a life that is half what you want, and half what they want. That’s not a little difference that doesn’t matter. That’s a big thing to figure out in a relationship and come to terms with if you don’t want to resent each other.
At this point in my life, I find it really hard to imagine ever having a true partnership with another person, unless they had a reasonably similar salary to me, or we were at an age where it was more of a “let’s ride out our golden years, make sure we don’t fall down the stairs and break a hip, and let whoever survives longer inherit the other person’s stuff.”
I don’t think there’s a specific number for income, but it matters to me that my partner has a similar amount of discretionary income as me so that we can enjoy going to dinner, bars, events, and the occasional vacation together. The income needed to have that would vary depending on their expenses. I still have a lot of student loans, so someone without debt could make less than me but have the same ability to spend on fun stuff. My boyfriend does make more than me but not by a lot.
Like 50k. I want someone who’s able to support themselves without having to penny pinch and who’s able to save for their future and go on a like a vacation every once in a while. I’d say where I live 50k is the minimum for that.
And obviously it also depends on how they handle their money. I know people who make 100k and have less financial security than people making 50k because they spend their money on dumb ass shit. So just being a sensible person when it comes to money is also very important.
Needs to be in roughly the same bracket as me.
And it matters to me b/c I’ve had people become a lot more interested or invested into dating me after finding out my financial situation. It became clear that really wasn’t OK for me, and not dating people of highly different financial status is just the easiest way to avoid that.
Enough for them to live their life independently and that our lifestyles can meld smoothly.
I’m at the point in my life where I’m not rich, but I am financially independent. I don’t care about dollar amounts so much as us being able to build a life together where no one feels taken advantage of or massively off balance.
Like, I could meet a guy that makes 200k a year (which is like 3x ish more than me), and we still wouldn’t vibe if he never splurged on anything or pinched every penny.
As someone who is retired, as long as he/they are responsible and not looking for me to help, i don’t care
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