Future MIL Rejected me

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Please bear with my long story,

I met this guy- not as motivated in life living with his parents. His mom runs the house.
We are about 31 same age.

As we started dating for marriage things were clear from the get go because I live in the east where dating marry is very common.
3 months into the relationship we discussed how we invest and save this guy I was seeing hadn’t saved or invested a penny at the age of 31. I told him because we are envisioning a serious future together with kids etc he should start investing. He went and told his parents this and his parents coaxed him saying it’s okay you are so young start now.

I run a business and he isn’t that fond of his work, he told me he wants to join my business and make it big with me. He said he wants to help build my dream. His parents told him not to mom made remarks like the business will always be your girlfriends, and sister made remarks like he would be just doing menial work.

His mother in one of the days told him to tell me to decide fast as I am getting older. When he came and said that to me I made a nasty comment back.

A few other incidents happened where he went and told his mother all about our private conversations. And she formed a judgement about me through those.

In a recent event we were having a discussion about how I would go to work from his place post marriage , and got into an argument he went to his parents to discuss the same. And they had an outburst calling me money minded, and that I would over power him with my ambitions and work.
Calling me names and not so good things.

Did I do anything wrong? I feel terrible

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