This may seem a bit juvenile but I am fairly antisocial so no advice is too obvious.
As university has progressed the past few years, my social life has withered quite a bit, especially with other men, as my degree (pre-med) and volunteer work happen to be with mostly women. My sister recommended reconnecting with an old friend and I had one in mind who I was really close with in high school but life had just taken us down different paths. I’ve not talked to him in 2 years. However it occurred to me that I have no idea what to even ask him.
If he was a girl, we’d get lunch or something, but men don’t seem to have the same “date” culture in friendships that I’ve gotten used to. I imagine the default is to just get a beer, but I don’t drink and it feels weird to go out where he’s the only one drinking.
The few times I’ve hung out with guy friends recently, we just studied or wander aimlessly on campus or in their dorms but he doesn’t go to my Uni.
If we had some solid shared hobby, I’d do that, but back when we were teens, we’d just hang out at each other’s houses, play video games, or bike/drive around – nothing that seems natural in our 20s, especially as I haven’t played a video game in a long time and don’t know if he does either.
I may just be getting in my own head with expectations of how to act, and there may be no way to do this that doesn’t feel weird, but I’d still appreciate the advice.
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This may seem a bit juvenile but I am fairly antisocial so no advice is too obvious.
As university has progressed the past few years, my social life has withered quite a bit, especially with other men, as my degree (pre-med) and volunteer work happen to be with mostly women. My sister recommended reconnecting with an old friend and I had one in mind who I was really close with in high school but life had just taken us down different paths. I’ve not talked to him in 2 years. However it occurred to me that I have no idea what to even ask him.
If he was a girl, we’d get lunch or something, but men don’t seem to have the same “date” culture in friendships that I’ve gotten used to. I imagine the default is to just get a beer, but I don’t drink and it feels weird to go out where he’s the only one drinking.
The few times I’ve hung out with guy friends recently, we just studied or wander aimlessly on campus or in their dorms but he doesn’t go to my Uni.
If we had some solid shared hobby, I’d do that, but back when we were teens, we’d just hang out at each other’s houses, play video games, or bike/drive around – nothing that seems natural in our 20s, especially as I haven’t played a video game in a long time and don’t know if he does either.
I may just be getting in my own head with expectations of how to act, and there may be no way to do this that doesn’t feel weird, but I’d still appreciate the advice.
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I’ve been through this before, try calling your friend and see where it takes you from there