Is it irritating to have that and it’s not followed by sex?
Or is it satisfying on its own?
How do you feel about non sexual touch like cuddling, kissing, hand holding?
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Is it irritating to have that and it’s not followed by sex?
Or is it satisfying on its own?
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Is it irritating to have that and it’s not followed by sex?
Or is it satisfying on its own?
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Love it tbh
it can be both
Just never really been into hand holding other stuffs fine.
Love it even better than sex, and will never be frustrated cuz there is no sex after, its not cuz we cuddle that I will automatically want sex..
Ofc!
It’s awesome, with or without sex.
Satisfying on its own
Satisfying on its own
I have to admit, while I like it, the natural progression is sex. Doesn’t have to be always but it certainly heads that way
Satisfying on its own
Those are all important parts of a relationship.
Would love all of these things, but I feel like it’s an assumption that all guys want this to end in sex. Another misunderstood fact about us
Love it. It’s still intimacy and being with my gorgeous wife.
Just never really been into hand holding other stuffs fine.
Sounds nice.
You could at least buy me drinks first
I love it, I miss it more than sex when I’m single. Wanking fulfils enough to the desire for sex but hugging myself doesn’t solve wanting touch.
weird if its a stranger
2/3 of these aren’t non sexual lol
We long for human contact. Even more so, from someone we like.
I agree there’s always time for sex and you’ll know if both parties wanna go further. Sometimes it’s really nice to just come home from work and cuddle on eachother. Have long hugs. Cute short kisses while looking eachother in the eyes. Sometimes the little things mean so much more. I agree that it’s what you miss when single too. Masterbation fulfills that portions (not as good as the real deal) but it’ll do
I’m really affectionate, so I love it all, with or without sex. But sex pretty much always makes it even better.
Makes you feel truly connected to somebody else and that you aren’t alone.
It’s nice
That all depends on context. Kissing and cuddling can be great on their own, but it can also be irritating. If we are cuddling on the couch watching a movie that’s great. If you are wearing an outfit you know turns me on and instead of just cuddling you are going out of your way to rub up against me and it goes nowhere that’d be irritating as shit.
I like the whole spectrum whether it leads to “more” or not.
Tbh, u should try intentional teasing. Sexual touching but delayed for days. The build up is wild when it does happen!!
The older you get the more you want it.
I’d love that but I get none and am single so touch starved sucks when it’s your love language 🤔
It’s important for its own sake. It’s also NOT a substitute for sex.
I love it
Love it myself.
I find it to be more intimate than actual sex. Lying together snuggling leads to conversation, and sometimes in our hectic lives we forget about how important it is to be a part of your significant other’s day to day existence. Sex is great, but I’m old and out of shape, I tend to fall asleep pretty soon after the lovemaking has finished. But just relaxing and cuddling can last most of a Sunday.
When you don’t have any sex at all for a while, those things can irritate, not going to lie. Otherwise I am all for little lap dance without hands. It’s not nonsexual of course, but it doesn’t lead to ejaculation.
That depends on whether you have koodies or not. 😉
It’s my favorite thing ever. Sure wish I could get some more of it sometime soon.
I crave it
I think it really just depends on the situation. If we are out on a walk at her families house and we do some hand holding, sit on a park bench and cuddle a little and then maybe some kissing, that would be perfectly satisfying. If we are in bed alone and we do a little hand holding, some cuddling and then kissing and she then goes to sleep, I’d be a little disappointed.
It’s cool on its own. I’m getting older now, and not every physical touch by my girlfriend makes me ‘ready’. I’m glad it isn’t that easy nowadays because that was an exhausting time.
It’s important. But it’s little drops in the bucket. Sex fills the bucket so it can be emptied and start over.
With someone I have trust and affection for, nonsexual intimacy is a wonderful thing.
With anyone else I prefer zero contact, though I will tolerate a handshake.
Depends on the situation but overall I’m fine with it
In a romantic relationship: It’s very Ok, and “not followed by sex” isn’t relevant.
Outside of a relationship, these are no-no’s for me.
It’s satisfying on its own, but it’s not good enough for sexual exclusivity. It’s only irritating when someone thinks this kind of touch can maintain a romantic relationship. You’ll have to always clear some minimal frequency of sex in addition to this kind of touch to convince me to be monogamous.
I used to dislike kissing but then I had to do it in multiple instances so I got good at it and now I like it. Cuddling and handholding is really nice also.
And no, those don’t always have to be followed by sex.
Love it. Always have. Now that I can’t function sexually, it’s especially important.
I fucking love it. I just started seeing someone and basically told her I’m a stereotypical teddy bear. She responded that we should schedule some weekly cuddle time. In my head I was like, “did I just fall in love?” Haha. Not really. But kinda. Anyway, the sex is off the charts amazing but if I didn’t get any snugs I’d be unhappy.
Not a fan.
>Is it irritating to have that and it’s not followed by sex?
That’s highly contextual. Some situations and intensities of intimacy make it extremely odd if a sexual encounter is not desired after engaging in them, while with others it would be weird to try to initiate a sexual encounter in them.
Very happy with it if I’m sitting, lying or otherwise stationary. If I’m moving or doing something, not so much.
My wife loves to molest me while I’m cooking. Usually at the most inappropriate moment. “Do you want this sauce to burn?”
You mean making out on the sofa but stopping there? Or you mean more generally? If the former, it’s irritating if I want sex. It’s satisfying if I’m not up for sex. If the latter, then no, its not irritating. I have no expectation of sex just because I held my wife’s hand in the store.
They can be even better than sex or on the level of it.
Some good kissing, cuddling, grinding, edging or even just like a memorable running around hand holding can be the best moments in life. I think it is often missunderstood even by women.
On their own, all of those are great. Paired with sex is good too
I feel they are essential. That everyday intimacy just have to be there for me.
It’s nice but no substitute for sex. Like it just exists on an entirely different plane…
You can kiss hi and bye you can hold hands walking and you can snuggle up and watch a movie those are all fine things that are part of a relationship…
But they do absolutely nothing to fulfill the connection that sex provides.
Love it but only with my wife.
I’m excited to experience any one of the above! I feel ready to hold hands but I have no clue how to kiss
Like it.
Kissing can most definitely be sexual touching
That’s all sexual to me
It’s beautiful in it’s own right.
I know my own feelings are based in my desires in the moment. There are moments where a hug or kissing or cuddling fill my cup, and others where those actions would leave me feeling irritated. There’s no particular right answer than to listen to my inner voice about how it feels and what it wants.
Cuddling and kissing are somewhat sexual on their own.
I LOVE it. It’s the best.
No it’s my love language. Maybe I’m naive but when I see a guy just sitting there and not holding his wife/gfs hand, how? I’d be holding it so much.
Love it. My wife is very tactile and touches me in one way or another many times a day.
Im probably the exception here, but i have a limiter on non sexual touch.
I can deal with a certain amount (depending on what type of touch it is) and even enjoy it. But after that limit, I get desensitised, numb to it and seems to set my teeth on edge.
For example, i can maybe deal with cuddling with a movie to start with. But after about 40mins to an hour. I start feeling restricted, hot, uncomfortable and need a bit of a space break before I can continue again. With my exes, when I did that, I’d get a look like I slapped a puppy. My current GF is super understanding about it.
Coming from my wife? Limitless boundaries here. Ill eat it up, can’t get enough.
I love it
Sure. Let’s get tacos after.
Shit’s lit. It’s different than sex. They both have their place
What is that. Who does that. Not me.
it’s aight
Shiiiiit cuddle me up girl 🥄.
No, all of those things definitely don’t have to be followed up by sex. It’s a really special form of affection.
I do like my personal space though too so don’t take it personally if it’s not something your man is always down for.