People who say “thank you” and then, if you don’t respond right away, repeat “THANK YOU” pointedly/aggressively never actually intended to express gratitude. They just wanted to get a reaction out of you.
An authentic “thank you” is truly unconditional, no strings attached.
EDIT: I’m not saying “thank you” should never be acknowledged. If I’m busy/distracted so my reply is delayed by a few seconds, or if I reply with just a smile or nod, that shouldn’t agitate the thanker. My abusive ex in particular would try to force a verbal “you’re welcome” out of me, which is why I might have some PTSD around this issue 😞
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I done that because I wasn’t sure if they heard me the first time.
Am I understanding correctly that you are upset about not wanting to respond “You’re welcome” or “No problem” after someone expresses gratitude towards you?
Did they want a reaction or just an acknowledgement?
Feel like its a natural response to reply to someone saying ”thank you”
That is just another reason I hate politeness. I’m not interested in playing people’s social games of who can outpolite whom.
A couple days ago, I sneezed and someone walking by said “Bless you”. When I didn’t respond, they loudly yelled “BLESS YOU!” as if demanding I thank them for their pointless theatrics.
The whole thing is just exhausting. I’m not playing your stupid little game.
I say thank you to AI in hopes that if it ever decides to take over, it heard me being nice
It really does depend. A lot of people seem aggressive simply because they have raised their voice, and they may be raising their voice to ensure that they were heard.
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I disagree and you get my vote
I just thought about it, and I realized when I say thank you I don’t wait for a “your welcome”, I guess I agree with you somewhat after all.
I say “you’re welcome” but I don’t notice if someone says it or not, I said thank you to a coworker just not and I just realized she didn’t say anything back and it didn’t bother me
Similarly, saying “I love you” and getting upset to not hear it returned. Like, did you say it because you actually love that person & wanted to make sure they know, or were you just trying to feed your ego by coercing them into saying it back? It’s all the same shit. My dad does this all the time, so I am familiar with the game.
I never really said twice I said thank you and then I move on with my day. Why on earth would I want to repeat it?
Agree. I’m saying thanks to show my gratitude. If I have to rush off to do something, I’m not gonna wait around for the person to say “you’re welcome”.
A very close friend of mine will say (or text) “you’re welcome” after I say “thank you” for small things (e.g., he wishes me good luck with something, or expresses that he is glad to hear something). It’s just something that is be apparent to me in text messages.