I’m a 31-year-old woman and have noticed something about myself that’s remained pretty consistent over the years: I’ve always been attracted to men roughly my own age.
When I was 20, I liked 20-year-old guys. Now at 31, I’m mostly drawn to men who are also in their 30s. Of course I notice younger/older attractive men too, but I am not particularly attracted to them. I just look and notice.
It made me wonder: is it the same for men?
I often hear (or see online) that men, especially as they get older, tend to prefer younger women, like even into their 40s or 50s, they still find women in their 20s the most attractive. Is that actually true for most men?
So this is especially for men 40 and up:
- Do you still find women around your own age attractive?
- If you’re 40+, are you genuinely attracted to women in that same age range, or are you mostly looking at younger women?
- How has your taste changed as you’ve gotten older (if at all)?
Would love to hear some honest, respectful insights. Thanks in advance!
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I’m a 31-year-old woman and have noticed something about myself that’s remained pretty consistent over the years: I’ve always been attracted to men roughly my own age.
When I was 20, I liked 20-year-old guys. Now at 31, I’m mostly drawn to men who are also in their 30s. Of course I notice younger/older attractive men too, but I am not particularly attracted to them. I just look and notice.
It made me wonder: is it the same for men?
I often hear (or see online) that men, especially as they get older, tend to prefer younger women, like even into their 40s or 50s, they still find women in their 20s the most attractive. Is that actually true for most men?
So this is especially for men 40 and up:
Would love to hear some honest, respectful insights. Thanks in advance!
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I don’t think my taste has changed, but I will say that lassies under say 30 seem like kids to me now.
I’m 32. I tend to date younger (about 5 years or so) because they’re the women who are interested in me. Women in their early 30’s around me are either in LTR’s/getting through a divorce/sleeping with men in their 40’s.
Granted, there are exceptions, I dated a 35 year old woman last year and i’ve slept with 31 year old women recently, so i think my standards are mostly “is she hot” and “is she into me”. “Can she hold a conversation” might come into it if I want the dating to be a serious thing.
In terms of taste changing as i’ve gotten older, I just wouldn’t have dated someone in their 30’s when I was 25, whereas I would now.
Personally speaking I like when ladies are either around my age or a bit older. I appreciate the (generally speaking) more maturity emotionally and less game playing. Like we know what we want and don’t waste time being anything less than genuine.
I share that. When I was young, I used to look at older women and couldn’t imagine how anyone could still be attracted to them. But I definitely look different at that now that I’m older. I can easily see beyond their age; even though I can see the wrinkles etc, I also see the other things: the beauty they certainly once had (and that really is still there), and the maturity their gained. Older women are way more self aware, more confident, more direct and no-nonsense. It fully compensates for the physical aging. Plus, of course – I’m aging too. My dad bod is not attractive to younger girls, and I’m fine with that. We’re just in a different league now. A better league in many ways, to be sure. Sex in your 20’s is fun, but really, you ain’t seen nothing yet.
I have noticed that as I get older women are the same age remain attractive to me.
Cross-culturally men of all ages are most physically attracted to women in their early 20s. Women are consistently the most attracted to men 3-4 years older than themselves on average but the effect decreases slightly with age.
In terms of partner selection men are generally likely to aim younger on the whole although obviously it tracks with age as well. Anecdotally I’ve seen men beyond 40 generally pursue relationships with women around a decade younger.
I lost my virginity at 14. Fucking gross thinking about it. I’ve nieces that age now. I sort of have a 10 year +/- rule and am also in my 30s. I’ve met women in their 40s that I find very attractive still.
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I’m 41m and figuring out what age someone is in 2025 is really difficult.
You see someone that you find attractive and she could he 40 looking 30 or 25 looking 30. There are so many factors from body type to style to level of make up etc.
It’s very difficult.
For me though the issue is short term vs long term.
I could be attracted to a 20 year old for the short term but not the long term. The completely normal immaturity of someone so young would be a turn off after a short while.
Yet initially it is very easy to be drawn to someone younger as they haven’t been hurt like us older people have and they are so loving from early on.
On the other hand, someone my own age may be harder to fall for in the short term as when we get older it is harder to just be open from the start.
Yet when I get to know them, that long term attraction can take over.
Basically it’s complicated.
I’m married and 37.
My wife is 35 and hot as shit.
That said, if we separated, the most important thing to me is vibes. And that seems to be women 25-35. I couldn’t see myself trying to date women in their 40’s. Ever.
But, unfortunately women have all the power in their 20’s and 30’s, then men seem to have the power after that. Time/society isn’t as kind to women in general as it is to men.
>is it the same for men?
I often hear (or see online) that men, especially as they get older, tend to prefer younger women, like even into their 40s or 50s, they still find women in their 20s the most attractive. Is that actually true for most men?
I am not sure there is any reliable information on the percentages but for a significant percentage it is not.
A reason for why a man may be attracted to women that age may be (and there surely are more possible reasons) that they were rejected by women when they were that age. But as they got older, they and their lives changed enough that now women in their 20s became interested in them. So basically its them finally doing what they wanted to do for years. I suspect that getting there at some point will result in their age preference going up, too.
But yeah, I think for some of those who prefer younger women it is about that.
Again, I am 100% sure that there are other reasons for other men in that category, some of them fine, some of them probably dodgy at best or straight up degenerate. But going through a whole list is too much for a reddit post.
I try my very best to date women 35-45 but as a child free man it’s almost impossible in my city. But nah, any under 35 is a no go for me.
I am in my mid 30s. Before, I had no problem seeking people in wider ranges of age (specially older women) than I am now. Now I see women in their 40s and even 50s as attractive at times, but If I was single, I want to be with women in her 30s.
Also, a thing that happened is that I thought women in their 40s would be more mature and decisive. I no longer think that now, as I feel that whenever I got with an older women I was very, very lucky.
Im 33 my range is from 26 to about 31-32 and I’m most attarcted to women that take care of theirselves. Healthy body and mind – I love it when a girl has strong hair, good skin and toned physique, add to that a calm and grounded personality and I’m going for the ring.
i’ve dated younger women but they all share the same flaw. they lack shared life experiences. for example sometimes i want to talk about the london of 30 years ago you had to be there.
I am over 40.
There are two things.
Do I think that women in their 20 are more physically attractive than women around 40?
OF COURSE.
Am I attracted, or have a preference for younger women? Absolutely not. Because I would look for a partner that shares some of my expiriences, have aligned plans etc. Attractive women around my age would be women I would aproach.
And those attractive 20 something years olds? They should have fun with atractive 20-s men.
If you want kids it makes sense to aim closer to 26-30
Pregnancies become harder after 35, not just to conceive but also the toll of delivery on the woman.
Assuming you’ll need a few years before deciding it’s time for children, it just makes sense to go for women under 30.
When I was in my 20s I liked 18-21 year olds. Now at 32 I like 21-24, mostly because theyre socially a bit more mature than teens.