In a new relationship things are great so far, but she moans in bed really really loud, it kills my mood.
I have a house and my neighbors have left me a note. It was 1am and she was screaming like a banshee. I was worried the cops would get called. I mentioned something like the cops were going to show up one day and she said she didn’t care.
I want to be polite but I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to end the relationship over this but I don’t know what to do?
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In a new relationship things are great so far, but she moans in bed really really loud, it kills my mood.
I have a house and my neighbors have left me a note. It was 1am and she was screaming like a banshee. I was worried the cops would get called. I mentioned something like the cops were going to show up one day and she said she didn’t care.
I want to be polite but I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to end the relationship over this but I don’t know what to do?
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Gosh, what a problem to have….
Suffering from success is crazy. Look into thick black out curtains and sound absorbing wall foam
Pillow over the face? But gently
Kiff! I’ve made it with a woman. Inform the men.
Well stop laying pipe so damn good, bro.
Shut her mouth with one hand, maybe she‘s onto that, sigh… /s
First world problems.
I remember this problem!
Those were the days! 😂
Ball gag?
I got the same problem.
Ask her if you holding her mouth shut is okay.
Tell her to muffle her screams against your chest when you are over her.
Get a mouth gag.
Maybe get penis reduction surgery. 🤔
I open every window in my bedroom and have sex with her a 11 am on Saturday morning when I am sure the most neighbors will be around. After I bust a nut, I will put my clothes on and walk around the neighborhood…. Walking just a little bit taller with pride!
Get new neighbors and keep the girl lol
Back in 2008, I had a girlfriend who was really loud. So did my roommate. Every time we had sex at the same time, we would try to make our respective gf louder than the other guy’s. This had the unexpected and awful effect of causing us to think about each other during sex so we stopped competing.
I wouldn’t end the relationship over a woman being loud in bed but I always liked it and it sounds like you don’t.
Oh no, my steak is just too juicy and my sauce too buttery! My day too sunny my heart too light!
You put your goddamn hand over her mouth and make it an agreed kinky act to include trying to silence her.
tell her to bite her lips instead?
Have you tried cutting her vocal cords?
I had an ex like this. Pretty well had to do doggy and keep her face stuffed in a pillow.
Break up with her and let someone who appreciates her ride that ride.
Communicate your frustration
This sounds like a clown flexing.
This is what ball gags are made for.
Coach Brackett just put a sock in it.
Make her moan louder.
Some men drown while others die in a desert
This is why I love having a fence around my house and why I don’t have a friendly relationship with most of my neighbors. Keep the girl, get a fence, enjoy life.
just think of it the same way you would a standing ovation. That’s how I think of it with mine.
Oh no! My lobster tail is too succulent and my steak is too juicy!
She’s probably doing it cause she thinks it turns you on. If you tell her it doesn’t really do anything for you to hear her moan so loud I’m sure she’ll stop.
Tell her that your neighbors have complained and that really matters to you. Be solution-oriented and suggest a few options: ball-gag, sex at her place, or whatever?
Invite the neighbours to the party.
Get some ice, you’re gonna need it for all your hands after all the high fives you’ll get from neighbors.
Have you told her that it kills your mood? She probably thinks you like it but are concerned about getting in trouble for it. Id tell her you don’t like it. If she still says she doesn’t care, then you’ll need to consider if she’s the right fit for you.
Tell her it turns you on more if she’ll whisper moans in your ears.
Bro like why do they do that for real? Been there too
Just when she does it again say “baby you got to be quite. ”
Good luck. Was in the same exact situation 20 years ago. I tried covering her mouth but that made it worse. This was before the days of Reddit so I had to ask people in person which opened me up to ridicule. She found out I was asking for advice and dumped me. Tread carefully.
Wear that crown with pride.
Ball gag? Stuff her underwear in her mouth? Push her face down into a pillow, make her bite down on the bed sheets, you have options.
I came just to read the comments. I was not disappointed.
Enjoy it bruv, no need to overthink
Have a conversation with her about it. You’re an adult, aren’t you?
My solution was kissing.
My ex-girlfriend would moan so loudly my neighbors and my roomies could hear her.
Kissing solved this….. temporarily.
If you otherwise like the moaning, but don’t want to bother anyone, invest in those soundproofing panels or some other method. If you don’t actually like the moaning, have a discussion about it.
Hooked up with a younger girl a few years ago and she’d moan like no tomorrow. Whilst I was flattered I was old enough to know my dick isn’t that magical so enjoyed it for what it was then cut it off
Everyone commenting never hooked up with a girl that screams…
It’s distracting as fuck. It does kill the concentration, imagine you dog styling, she screaming like a pig, and you naked behind and inside her with a huge “WTF” in your face. It’s not fun.
Ask her if it’s okay if you spank her ass when she’s too loud.
i mean… there are solutions.
Ball gag
She might not be the one for you then cause she sounds awesome
You should definitely end the relationship. And give her my username.
Enjoy it.
Just talk to her about it, especially if the neighbours have said something.
Whimpering moans > loud obnoxious pornstar moans
Do it at her place….
She probably wants you to silence her with your hand, and just be more dominant
Get the (possible) hint mate
Assert dominance by moaning even louder 😎
Cover her mouth. Chances are she’ll fkn love it
You guys have this all wrong. Just tell her she’s way better in bed than her sister.
It sounds like a pretty serious incompatibility for you. You can’t make her change this part of her sexual response, and for her to try to keep a lid on things might stop her from relaxing into the sex. You need to assess whether this is a dealbreaker.
Personally, having been with someone very loud in the past, I’d encourage you to stop giving a damn. Try to take it as a compliment that you’re giving her what she needs. And see the funny side. At one point my ex and I set off the dogs across the street. It was hilarious. If we had ever received a note about the noise, I’m pretty sure we would have framed it.
Hate to say it but this is a dealbreaker. Essentially she’s making it so that you can’t relax and enjoy sex with her. That’s a form of sexual incompatibility. And that’s a dealbreaker.
Talk to her first obviously, but consider a ball gag or other apparatus to help keep her quiet. Or just jam her face into a pillow, with consent. I guess you could set up some soundproofing stuff in the room itself.
Moan, swear, curl your toes, convulse and roll your eyes to the back of your head like the Undertaker to re-assert your position.
cover her mouth. lmao shell get the point
Same thing I did with the man who would scream like a banshee into my ear while coming. The first time he tried that out on me, I got some hearing damage (literally–ear is not the same years later), asked him to at least scream into the pillow and not my ear. He couldn’t manage that. He explained that he needed the freedom. So that was the end of that.
You don’t get to damage your partner and let all the neighbors know when it’s happening without consequences. Take your fucking personal freedoms elsewhere.
You have to be direct, otherwise she is going to think that she is doing something you enjoy.
Cover her mouth, I love when my boyfriend does that!
Simply ask her if she can tone it down, that the neighbors are complaining and threatening to call the police.
Or do it at her place. LOL
Get her a gag ball or something.
Sounds like you’d better start going to her place, upset her neighbours instead.
Moan harder to assert dominance
We have noise cancelling headphones, shouldn’t we have the same tech for… other uses?
First off, you aren’t the first to be turned off by loud/obnoxious moaning. Shit can be annoying and totally take you out of it. I say that to validate your feelings on it – there is nothing wrong with it.
You need to talk to her though. Tell her your worried about the noise, and it takes you out of the mood. You gotta talk to her dude. Or, as another suggested, get a gag ball. I just use my hand to cover her mouth or push her into a pillow. Or use your dick
Why not just show her the note the neighbors left and tell her she has to be quiet
See if she’s into some mild rough play and/or s&m where you can either gag her or hold her mouth shut.
My wife had no control and was super loud, but also liked it when I forced her mouth shut with my hands. Easier said than done in some positions and of course you both have to be into it, but just my two cents.
go to her house. problem solved
Dude, if you cover her face with a pillow she will go off like a volcano.
Just go harder until she passes out!
Nah I’m just playing just try talking to her and see if you guys can come up with some creative solutions. There’s no way you guys can’t figure something out together.
It kills your mood? Damn
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You just need to immobilize her vocal cords
Woman here.
While some women really are loud, many feel pressured or have been conditioned to give a “performance”. A lot of guys say they’re really into that, so…
Regardless, just be direct. Tell her that while you love the enthusiasm, banshee screams kill the mood for you, not to mention cause you to have problems with the neighbors. Talk about some ways you can both work together to muffle it. Maybe she’d actually enjoy your palm over her mouth or a gag. Maybe she can bite a pillow. Or maybe, if she’s the performative type, it’ll take a little pressure off of her and she can feel comfortable enjoying herself more quietly.
Call a withcher
I had a screaming SIL. She loved being.the center of attention not only during sex. I eventually caught her with my husband. Red flag.
I can be pretty loud but I can also control it to an extent. There have been a handful of times it was so good I couldn’t but generally if we’re in the act and I’m getting a bit to loud for the neighbors my partner will tell me to be quieter. I honestly don’t know when I’m being too loud so that helps a lot.
I think just talk to her about it. I know it’s a new relationship but if you can’t communicate it’s not going anywhere anyway. Show her the note and talk it over.
You should break up with her. Oh, and just curious…What is her number?