Seeing a male psychiatrist is better than a female one, but it’s all still part of the same scam. I would rather express myself to a stuffy old man in a tweed coat than a bored 28 year old woman browsing H&M on her phone while pretending to listen to me, but it all leads to the same outcome: you’re just paying to talk to someone until you agree with them.
God forbid you have any opinions that contradict what is socially acceptable too, those seditious thoughts need to be excised by self-censorship and brain-fogging medication. No, thank you.
I’m biased af, but the first “psychiatrist” I saw was a guy and that dude did not give two shits about me. I came in for anxiety (beginning of covid triggered something in me) and he sat there and in 14 minutes he poked my stomach, asked if I was abused as a kid, told me I likely have a cancer mole on my back, and prescribed me two anxiety meds. FOURTEEN MINUTES. And sends me out the door without listening to me at all.
Then later I went to a female therapist who over the next two years helped me work through a lot of shit.
So my preference based on that is to go for women doctors and therapists and so far they have treated me better
I remember reading a study about this ill try and find it but typically men do better with male phycologists because of how men and women solve problems differently. Me personally tho I’d prefer a male because I think they’d understand me better if not anything else.
Had both, currently have a female doc. I really liked the guy, but he retired a couple years after I started working with him. Female doc’s great, and I think I connect a little better with her because we’re in the same age group – both young Gen X’ers.
I’d be fine seeing a male doc again, though. Dude was an old hippie, and that was cool.
Half honest answer? Makes no difference, it’s more about the individual, and building the trust, relationship, etc.
More honest answer? I’m probably doing better with my male therapist than I would a woman, because I’d be less honest due to wanting to impress a woman, and all that shit.
Which is fully about me, and stupid, but coming to terms with my own…let’s say tendencies so as not to be too negative… has been part of what’s been helpful.
I don’t have any experience with psychiatrists, but I do have a decent amount of experience with therapists. I found myself more easily opening up to female therapists, and the male therapists I’d done trials with tended to (when it’s a factor) assume my masculinity had largely positive or neutral impacts on my psychology.
For example: when I was first looking for a therapist, a male one I met with asked me about my relationship. I told him that I feel conflicted, because sometimes I feel kind of controlling or neurotic about the men she spends time with. He told me that was normal, and to not take it too far, but it’s normal for men to feel protective and I shouldn’t be worried about it… but I was worried about it. It felt dismissive, and kind of cheap to deflect it as a matter of my masculinity and not something that could be managed in some way.
The female therapist I met after (I had met one before, who was also not helpful) who I still work with instead chose to ask me 1) if that’s a common thing, and if this time it’s been worse/better than times before, and 2) how I communicate these feelings to my partner.
I found it way more helpful to try and actually break down those feelings of possessiveness to see if there were positive and healthy factors contributing to it, or if it was all rooted in insecurity and a sense of paranoia or a need for control. It led to an incredibly healthy conversation with that partner and helped me process the breakup better when it did happen.
That wouldn’t have happened if I had a male therapist simply telling me “it’s okay to be controlling, just don’t take it too far” because I didn’t have a good sense of what “too far” was yet, or if this was a toxic pattern I was developing.
That’s not to say all male therapists are like that either, it’s just been my own experience on top of me finding it easier to emotionally open up to women in general.
I have been to marriage counseling a few times with a partner. After breaking up/divorce I have gone to a man. The comments below are about 2 individuals. The man happened to be a good match. No all men would match like that. The woman happened to be a bad match. I do not think all women would be like that. It is one example out of close to a million possible experiences.
When I went with my wife, she picked a woman she liked. I felt like my issues were not addressed. When it was my turn to ask for something, or bring up an issue, I would start speaking and get interrupted. Then the discussion went off on a different track. The therapist did not take time to address my issues.
So I started seeing a man on my own as well as partner therapy as a couple. And he asked me two questions that I needed to hear. 1). Why do I keep going to this therapist that does not hear my issue? 2). Why am I married to this woman?
Both hit me like a brick when he asked. And as I thought about the answers I saw it in a new light. I spoke unto the therapist and she interrupted me and did not address my concerns. I decided I was not going to return to her. And I started to realize that I did not want to be married to this woman any more. And I knew it was time to let go.
And that was a huge positive.
I went to a different man after a different break up. He was very direct, and used the F word a lot. He was good for me because he would call me on bullshit. And he defended my ex when I wanted to trash her. Having a strong male role model tell me to cut the crap and stop dumping on the woman I fell in love with made a difference. It got me to face my part of the problems so I could grow and do better next time. At that time, I could see myself ignoring what a soft spoken woman would have told me, even if it was the same words. For some reason hearing it from a man who played football and lacrosse in college dropping F bombs made me feel like it was chatting with one of my college team mates, and not begging for help. It was the right person at the right time.
Overall I prefer a woman as my shrink. I’m more emotional than most men and women seem to have more experience properly dealing with emotions. Men seem to be able to relate to my anger issues more.
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See whomever is best.
Considering I wanna be a male therapist one day. I’d probably choose a male therapist first and stay if it fits. If not I’ll find another
Seeing a male psychiatrist is better than a female one, but it’s all still part of the same scam. I would rather express myself to a stuffy old man in a tweed coat than a bored 28 year old woman browsing H&M on her phone while pretending to listen to me, but it all leads to the same outcome: you’re just paying to talk to someone until you agree with them.
God forbid you have any opinions that contradict what is socially acceptable too, those seditious thoughts need to be excised by self-censorship and brain-fogging medication. No, thank you.
Does not matter. Most people see therapist btw. If it was specifically about a male only issue, then that may be a consideration.
Does not matter. Most people see therapist btw. If it was specifically about a male only issue, then that may be a consideration.
If they listen well and offer good advice, I really don’t care what’s between their legs.
I’d probably prefer it. Not because of the things that need to be said in therapy, but because of the things that wouldn’t need to be said.
Does not matter. Most people see therapist btw. If it was specifically about a male only issue, then that may be a consideration.
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I prefer a female therapist or psychiatrist. I just feel more comfortable talking to women, especially well-educated women
I’m biased af, but the first “psychiatrist” I saw was a guy and that dude did not give two shits about me. I came in for anxiety (beginning of covid triggered something in me) and he sat there and in 14 minutes he poked my stomach, asked if I was abused as a kid, told me I likely have a cancer mole on my back, and prescribed me two anxiety meds. FOURTEEN MINUTES. And sends me out the door without listening to me at all.
Then later I went to a female therapist who over the next two years helped me work through a lot of shit.
So my preference based on that is to go for women doctors and therapists and so far they have treated me better
I remember reading a study about this ill try and find it but typically men do better with male phycologists because of how men and women solve problems differently. Me personally tho I’d prefer a male because I think they’d understand me better if not anything else.
Had both, currently have a female doc. I really liked the guy, but he retired a couple years after I started working with him. Female doc’s great, and I think I connect a little better with her because we’re in the same age group – both young Gen X’ers.
I’d be fine seeing a male doc again, though. Dude was an old hippie, and that was cool.
Fine.
Seeing no psychologist works the best.
The quality of what they do matters more than gender.
I’ve seen both. Had good and bad experiences with both.
Doesn’t matter, a Psychiatrist is a Physician.
As long as that person understands or at least gives the answer I want to hear it doesn’t matter
Neither can help me
All of my psychologists in the past have been men. Worked just fine 👍
I think a male psychiatrist inherently has a small advantage in understanding problems that are more unique to men.
Half honest answer? Makes no difference, it’s more about the individual, and building the trust, relationship, etc.
More honest answer? I’m probably doing better with my male therapist than I would a woman, because I’d be less honest due to wanting to impress a woman, and all that shit.
Which is fully about me, and stupid, but coming to terms with my own…let’s say tendencies so as not to be too negative… has been part of what’s been helpful.
I’d think a male psychiatrist might be more understanding and able to relate to my male problems.
I don’t have any experience with psychiatrists, but I do have a decent amount of experience with therapists. I found myself more easily opening up to female therapists, and the male therapists I’d done trials with tended to (when it’s a factor) assume my masculinity had largely positive or neutral impacts on my psychology.
For example: when I was first looking for a therapist, a male one I met with asked me about my relationship. I told him that I feel conflicted, because sometimes I feel kind of controlling or neurotic about the men she spends time with. He told me that was normal, and to not take it too far, but it’s normal for men to feel protective and I shouldn’t be worried about it… but I was worried about it. It felt dismissive, and kind of cheap to deflect it as a matter of my masculinity and not something that could be managed in some way.
The female therapist I met after (I had met one before, who was also not helpful) who I still work with instead chose to ask me 1) if that’s a common thing, and if this time it’s been worse/better than times before, and 2) how I communicate these feelings to my partner.
I found it way more helpful to try and actually break down those feelings of possessiveness to see if there were positive and healthy factors contributing to it, or if it was all rooted in insecurity and a sense of paranoia or a need for control. It led to an incredibly healthy conversation with that partner and helped me process the breakup better when it did happen.
That wouldn’t have happened if I had a male therapist simply telling me “it’s okay to be controlling, just don’t take it too far” because I didn’t have a good sense of what “too far” was yet, or if this was a toxic pattern I was developing.
That’s not to say all male therapists are like that either, it’s just been my own experience on top of me finding it easier to emotionally open up to women in general.
In my experience I prefer female therapists and male psychiatrists.
I have been to marriage counseling a few times with a partner. After breaking up/divorce I have gone to a man. The comments below are about 2 individuals. The man happened to be a good match. No all men would match like that. The woman happened to be a bad match. I do not think all women would be like that. It is one example out of close to a million possible experiences.
When I went with my wife, she picked a woman she liked. I felt like my issues were not addressed. When it was my turn to ask for something, or bring up an issue, I would start speaking and get interrupted. Then the discussion went off on a different track. The therapist did not take time to address my issues.
So I started seeing a man on my own as well as partner therapy as a couple. And he asked me two questions that I needed to hear. 1). Why do I keep going to this therapist that does not hear my issue? 2). Why am I married to this woman?
Both hit me like a brick when he asked. And as I thought about the answers I saw it in a new light. I spoke unto the therapist and she interrupted me and did not address my concerns. I decided I was not going to return to her. And I started to realize that I did not want to be married to this woman any more. And I knew it was time to let go.
And that was a huge positive.
I went to a different man after a different break up. He was very direct, and used the F word a lot. He was good for me because he would call me on bullshit. And he defended my ex when I wanted to trash her. Having a strong male role model tell me to cut the crap and stop dumping on the woman I fell in love with made a difference. It got me to face my part of the problems so I could grow and do better next time. At that time, I could see myself ignoring what a soft spoken woman would have told me, even if it was the same words. For some reason hearing it from a man who played football and lacrosse in college dropping F bombs made me feel like it was chatting with one of my college team mates, and not begging for help. It was the right person at the right time.
Overall I prefer a woman as my shrink. I’m more emotional than most men and women seem to have more experience properly dealing with emotions. Men seem to be able to relate to my anger issues more.
As long as they’re qualified and want to and can help, I don’t care what gender someone is.