We age better đ and plenty of young women are into stable hard working matured men. But not many men are into emotional baggage with 3 baby daddies.
If I donât want to date someone, I very easily turn on a dime and forget her, no feelings felt. I cancel any get together that feels like something’s changed and she just wants a free meal or outing. I feel women are hesitant to do that in certain circumstances.
Less chance of choice paralysis when thinking about what to wear. No make-up routine to worry about. Not having to walk in heels. Less worrying about things being too bushy down there (although some trimming doesn’t go amiss.) Not having to worry about what time of the month it is if things start getting amorous. Also all the safety concerns aren’t as severe for men typically.
Physical safety has been mentioned a few times so I’ll say less pressure to find someone to settle down. Even if I were 40+ and single and still wanted kids I can usually date younger if I need to. Men don’t have that biological clock ticking loudly.
If you can learn how to accept being alone as not having to mean being perennially lonely, make some great friends, pick a career path that you can tolerate and sometimes even enjoy, get in good physical shape in your 20âs and into your 30âs
One day you kinda just look up and go âwait, sheâs interested in me? And her too? And her too? This is very different from when women ignored me most of my lifeâ
Physical prowess: we don’t have as much to fear in terms of safety (even though I think many people way overblow the actual risks for women by focussing on extreme examples).
As others have said, we have to learn to deal with rejection early in life, so we are better at coping with that.
I honestly can’t think of any others that don’t apply only to the most attractive men.
I mean idk. I bet there is some like physical power and such. Maybe money. Though I canât really think of much else. Itâs hard dating as a single male. You really just got throw your shit up and hope it sticks.
Literally nothing. Unless you are conventionally very attractive and they approach you, you literally have no advantage in the dating world if you don’t rely on being scumbag.Â
Such as lying and manipulating, which I would never do.Â
conventionally attractive men get their pick of the litter in a way conventionally attractive women dont. dont get me wrong the latter obv has options but an attractive man its just on another level.Â
also if youre physically attractiveâŚ.their other standards are SO low. you dont gotta get em flowers, spend too much on them, have a clean house, stuff like that. women themselves admit that the bar is in hell (once you pass the looks test of course).Â
While not 100%, my biggest fear as a guy going into a first date is usually whether the girl looks like her photos, her biggest fear is that I’m not a serial killer.
Also as others have said, men don’t have a biological clock
As a guy dating in my 40s itâs honestly like shooting fish in a barrel.
Especially as my kids are young adults and I donât want more.
To be really basic about it and stereotype terribly, women seek men with resources and status, men seek women who are beautiful and bring peace.
Iâve worked hard to be a good father, to be physically fit, mentally fit through reading vs TikTok, and a strong career trajectory means I have all the material stuff like good house, cars, disposable fun money for holidays and trips etc and itâll only get better for the next 20 years fingers crossed until I down tools for a luxury retirement.
So I attract women from late 20s upwards. And can then vet and select from there based on my preferences.
And this isnât a brag as such, because I certainly didnât attract much attention from the opposite sex in my 20s. Just surprised these days how bloody easy it is. Maybe the competition is just useless and making it easy where I live in London haha.
Additionally I think older men who donât want more kids are actually pretty good at being single, we like sex and companionship, but donât care for boring shopping trips âto keep the wife happyâ type shit. Weâve done the family thing, and are now into boats and cars and travel and fixing things etc. so I donât really need anyone. My tolerance of drama, or stupidity is very low and I exit those people swiftly. I think women of a similar age do seem to always be âlooking for a right guyâ. Maybe itâs an instinctive thing to have a partner for better physical protection etc, who knows. Maybe they just get bored more easily and want someone to talk at, not sure.
But if youâre in your a man in your 40s, have your shit together, and live in an area with decent population density, life is pretty sweet.
The downside is it can make one a bit of a tart, and actually being in a relationship often never happens for long because something else looking delicious just seems to turn up making clear sheâs single and ready to mingle. Fuck it though, only live once eh đ
Some men Iâve known have whatâs called the shotgun method. They blast any female within range and usually one of them gets hit. Seen it quite a few times. Woman on the other hand donât prefer this method.
While there are exceptions to everything of course, the following are generally true:
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Men are held to lower standards of beauty.
Men are held to lower standards of hygiene.
Men are held to a lower standard of fashion.
Men are less judged by their body count or number of past relationships.
Men have less social and personal shame attached to their sex and dating lives in general.
In the event of an unwanted pregnancy, a significantly greater set of responsibility and risk falls on the woman by default.
There is a greater default responsibility placed on the women to be proactive about contraceptive and sexual safety than there is on men.
It is generally easier and more common for older men to be able to attract and date younger women.
It is generally true that women are more accepting of dating someone who is somewhat less attractive than themselves.
Men are VASTLY, less likely to experience damaging violence at the hands of a woman than vice versa.
Men are VASTLY, less likely to be killed by a female romantic or domestic partner.
Men are VASTLY, less likely to be drugged or date raped by a woman than vice versa.
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So, again, there are exceptions to everything, but all of these above are true. There’s a ton more than just these, but these seem like big ones that are a good start.
Probably far less likely to be physically or sexually assaulted by a woman who doesn’t take rejection well
I said Probably guys. I know some women are assholes about rejection. I just don’t think it happens to men as much as it happens to women unfortunately. Nor am I saying men are the only ones who can’t handle rejection well.
The top 5-10% of men on the apps are SO spoiled for choice, if they have the bankroll to do it, they can be going out on a new date, with a new woman, pretty much every day of the week.
Also, since men are the ones that have to approach, we get to take initiative and be in control. We don’t have to wait around and hope someone (or the one) we’re into comes up to talk to us, we get to go do it ourselves. Which means we don’t have to send lip bite/hair toss signals. We just get to ‘do’.
No real horror stories. A tactless or classless woman I date will just dine and dash or use me for sex and leave. I’m never really concerned for my own personal safety on a date. Some of my female friends have real horror stories.
Men are in control of commitment, and that’s usually the #1 thing women seek.
Often, men gaslight themselves with fears about scarcity and offer long-term commitment far too easily.
Women have all kinds of manipulation tactics to push us in that direction – and they can be SCARY good at it.
If we stop thinking with our dicks for a minute and just slow down the pace of our commitment to our relationships, we can discover that we actually hold MOST of the leverage once we’re past the very earliest stages of a relationship.
…AND, this gets even easier and MORE POWERFUL as we get older. In their 30’s, more women are eager to “lock something down.” In our 30s, men are (hopefully) more mature, more confident, more self-aware, and have hopefully built a very stable life, social network, and financial situation. That shit is fucking gold for a woman looking for someone to attach herself to long term.
Far less physical danger. Violence from women is less likely to result in serious bodily harm and women are less likely to commit date rape.
Men don’t get pregnant.
Men are less likely to contract STDs.
Less stigma on men who are promiscuous.
As the primary initiators men generally only date women they are already attracted to, and don’t have to just hope the person they are into makes a move. Women don’t either, they are free to initiate, and will generally have much higher success rates than men when they do, but they often think they can’t or shouldn’t.
Lack of periods means there is no time when you have to deny sex just because of the time of the month.
You get homecourt advantage. You often get to pick the place and budget, which sets things up in your favor. Some of my most successful dates were planned around going to places I already liked. Record stores. Cool, but not overly expensive local restaurants. Some of the pressure was off because I was already in a place I was familiar and comfortable with. Women have to basically adapt to the dates they go on.
At least in my experience, when I decline advances and/or request space, most of the time they have respected it. No one sees me walking home at dawn and thinks- âWalk of shame!!!â. When I walk home late at night I might fear getting robbed. But I definitely donât fear getting robbed AND raped.
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Generally dont have to fear violence/physical threats/rape from women.
Safety is about it.
Time.
We age better đ and plenty of young women are into stable hard working matured men. But not many men are into emotional baggage with 3 baby daddies.
If I donât want to date someone, I very easily turn on a dime and forget her, no feelings felt. I cancel any get together that feels like something’s changed and she just wants a free meal or outing. I feel women are hesitant to do that in certain circumstances.
Men aren’t on a biological clock like women, in general.
Less chance of choice paralysis when thinking about what to wear. No make-up routine to worry about. Not having to walk in heels. Less worrying about things being too bushy down there (although some trimming doesn’t go amiss.) Not having to worry about what time of the month it is if things start getting amorous. Also all the safety concerns aren’t as severe for men typically.
While I try to stay safe I do not have a overwhelming fear for my life
Physical safety has been mentioned a few times so I’ll say less pressure to find someone to settle down. Even if I were 40+ and single and still wanted kids I can usually date younger if I need to. Men don’t have that biological clock ticking loudly.
For the most part, men control who get’s asked out and asked for marriage.
Time, women burn bright but fast. Men a slow but longâŚyou can literally have a messed up 20âs fix yourself in your 30âs and have a chance.
Also thereâs never ever been this much single women in the history of the world..all probably aiming after the top percent of menâŚ
Huge difference, also as women earn more their options decrease
Itâs the opposite for men
Rejection is nearly always for reasons a man can change.
Less reliance on physical appeal.
Time as someone else said
If you can learn how to accept being alone as not having to mean being perennially lonely, make some great friends, pick a career path that you can tolerate and sometimes even enjoy, get in good physical shape in your 20âs and into your 30âs
One day you kinda just look up and go âwait, sheâs interested in me? And her too? And her too? This is very different from when women ignored me most of my lifeâ
You can take a piss and wash it off đ
Only if they’re dating another guy
We run faster.
The bar is super low.
Much more desensitization to rejection and being single. Some guys still get salty and resentful about it, but it’s just a statistic for me.
Generally gets easier as you age. You just have fewer options available to you
Time, a 40 year old man will have better luck dating than a 40 year old woman.
Physical prowess: we don’t have as much to fear in terms of safety (even though I think many people way overblow the actual risks for women by focussing on extreme examples).
As others have said, we have to learn to deal with rejection early in life, so we are better at coping with that.
I honestly can’t think of any others that don’t apply only to the most attractive men.
None.
Time
We donât risk getting pregnant.
I mean idk. I bet there is some like physical power and such. Maybe money. Though I canât really think of much else. Itâs hard dating as a single male. You really just got throw your shit up and hope it sticks.
We get to lead
Literally nothing. Unless you are conventionally very attractive and they approach you, you literally have no advantage in the dating world if you don’t rely on being scumbag.Â
Such as lying and manipulating, which I would never do.Â
conventionally attractive men get their pick of the litter in a way conventionally attractive women dont. dont get me wrong the latter obv has options but an attractive man its just on another level.Â
also if youre physically attractiveâŚ.their other standards are SO low. you dont gotta get em flowers, spend too much on them, have a clean house, stuff like that. women themselves admit that the bar is in hell (once you pass the looks test of course).Â
While not 100%, my biggest fear as a guy going into a first date is usually whether the girl looks like her photos, her biggest fear is that I’m not a serial killer.
Also as others have said, men don’t have a biological clock
Oh and no periods to work around each month
As a guy dating in my 40s itâs honestly like shooting fish in a barrel.
Especially as my kids are young adults and I donât want more.
To be really basic about it and stereotype terribly, women seek men with resources and status, men seek women who are beautiful and bring peace.
Iâve worked hard to be a good father, to be physically fit, mentally fit through reading vs TikTok, and a strong career trajectory means I have all the material stuff like good house, cars, disposable fun money for holidays and trips etc and itâll only get better for the next 20 years fingers crossed until I down tools for a luxury retirement.
So I attract women from late 20s upwards. And can then vet and select from there based on my preferences.
And this isnât a brag as such, because I certainly didnât attract much attention from the opposite sex in my 20s. Just surprised these days how bloody easy it is. Maybe the competition is just useless and making it easy where I live in London haha.
Additionally I think older men who donât want more kids are actually pretty good at being single, we like sex and companionship, but donât care for boring shopping trips âto keep the wife happyâ type shit. Weâve done the family thing, and are now into boats and cars and travel and fixing things etc. so I donât really need anyone. My tolerance of drama, or stupidity is very low and I exit those people swiftly. I think women of a similar age do seem to always be âlooking for a right guyâ. Maybe itâs an instinctive thing to have a partner for better physical protection etc, who knows. Maybe they just get bored more easily and want someone to talk at, not sure.
But if youâre in your a man in your 40s, have your shit together, and live in an area with decent population density, life is pretty sweet.
The downside is it can make one a bit of a tart, and actually being in a relationship often never happens for long because something else looking delicious just seems to turn up making clear sheâs single and ready to mingle. Fuck it though, only live once eh đ
Some men Iâve known have whatâs called the shotgun method. They blast any female within range and usually one of them gets hit. Seen it quite a few times. Woman on the other hand donât prefer this method.
While there are exceptions to everything of course, the following are generally true:
__
Men are held to lower standards of beauty.
Men are held to lower standards of hygiene.
Men are held to a lower standard of fashion.
Men are less judged by their body count or number of past relationships.
Men have less social and personal shame attached to their sex and dating lives in general.
In the event of an unwanted pregnancy, a significantly greater set of responsibility and risk falls on the woman by default.
There is a greater default responsibility placed on the women to be proactive about contraceptive and sexual safety than there is on men.
It is generally easier and more common for older men to be able to attract and date younger women.
It is generally true that women are more accepting of dating someone who is somewhat less attractive than themselves.
Men are VASTLY, less likely to experience damaging violence at the hands of a woman than vice versa.
Men are VASTLY, less likely to be killed by a female romantic or domestic partner.
Men are VASTLY, less likely to be drugged or date raped by a woman than vice versa.
__
So, again, there are exceptions to everything, but all of these above are true. There’s a ton more than just these, but these seem like big ones that are a good start.
Probably far less likely to be physically or sexually assaulted by a woman who doesn’t take rejection well
I said Probably guys. I know some women are assholes about rejection. I just don’t think it happens to men as much as it happens to women unfortunately. Nor am I saying men are the only ones who can’t handle rejection well.
And no one should be dealing with it either.
The top 5-10% of men on the apps are SO spoiled for choice, if they have the bankroll to do it, they can be going out on a new date, with a new woman, pretty much every day of the week.
Also, since men are the ones that have to approach, we get to take initiative and be in control. We don’t have to wait around and hope someone (or the one) we’re into comes up to talk to us, we get to go do it ourselves. Which means we don’t have to send lip bite/hair toss signals. We just get to ‘do’.
None
Men on average have more confidence and are expected to be the ones to initiate. Men have less to lose.
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Men have less dating value than a young women, but men’s value stays higher over a lifetime. Women drop off a cliff at certain age.
No real horror stories. A tactless or classless woman I date will just dine and dash or use me for sex and leave. I’m never really concerned for my own personal safety on a date. Some of my female friends have real horror stories.
Men are in control of commitment, and that’s usually the #1 thing women seek.
Often, men gaslight themselves with fears about scarcity and offer long-term commitment far too easily.
Women have all kinds of manipulation tactics to push us in that direction – and they can be SCARY good at it.
If we stop thinking with our dicks for a minute and just slow down the pace of our commitment to our relationships, we can discover that we actually hold MOST of the leverage once we’re past the very earliest stages of a relationship.
…AND, this gets even easier and MORE POWERFUL as we get older. In their 30’s, more women are eager to “lock something down.” In our 30s, men are (hopefully) more mature, more confident, more self-aware, and have hopefully built a very stable life, social network, and financial situation. That shit is fucking gold for a woman looking for someone to attach herself to long term.
More time to play the game.
Advantages to what purpose? Dating isnât about advantages. Itâs about connection. You canât be one up in a pursuit where you need to be genuine.
Far less physical danger. Violence from women is less likely to result in serious bodily harm and women are less likely to commit date rape.
Men don’t get pregnant.
Men are less likely to contract STDs.
Less stigma on men who are promiscuous.
As the primary initiators men generally only date women they are already attracted to, and don’t have to just hope the person they are into makes a move. Women don’t either, they are free to initiate, and will generally have much higher success rates than men when they do, but they often think they can’t or shouldn’t.
Lack of periods means there is no time when you have to deny sex just because of the time of the month.
Men control access to the marriage, women control access to the bedroom
You get homecourt advantage. You often get to pick the place and budget, which sets things up in your favor. Some of my most successful dates were planned around going to places I already liked. Record stores. Cool, but not overly expensive local restaurants. Some of the pressure was off because I was already in a place I was familiar and comfortable with. Women have to basically adapt to the dates they go on.
In dating specifically? None. Literally none.
Because weâre expected to take the initiative we usually get to pick stuff
It’s easier to be sexually satisfied.
Men donât have to worry about their physical safety in the same way women do.
The advantage of not trying whatsoever.
Not much other than the fact that we don’t have to give birth. That shit looks painful af
Men do have advantages over women but when it comes to dating I would say there are none.
In dating? None honestly.
Dating is an area where I think women have the advantage, not men.
After 30. Still not really an advantage but the dynamic often times flip around 30-35 years old
At least in my experience, when I decline advances and/or request space, most of the time they have respected it. No one sees me walking home at dawn and thinks- âWalk of shame!!!â. When I walk home late at night I might fear getting robbed. But I definitely donât fear getting robbed AND raped.
If youâre tall, complete advantage