Always have to think about someone else’s needs. Always have to plan stuff to do. Always have to be able to perform in bed or at least satisfy her. Always have to make sure she’s not thinking your cheating
Stinks. Literally. I swear every girl has irritable bowel syndrome, is lactose intolerant, and has the worst diet on the planet. You’re better off just jerking it every day and keeping your piece.
The memories are fading, but mostly I felt busy all the time because I’d see her twice a week, and happier because I liked spending time with her. Cuddling on the couch or in bed and watching a good show is one of the most peaceful things in the world, doesn’t even have to be a good show.
I spent more money than I otherwise would have, maybe more than I would’ve liked, but she didn’t break the bank by any means.
Having a bad gf/relationship: like being a caregiver to an abusive parent
Having a good gf/relationship: like having someone around who won’t let you spiral on the bad days and who will check your ego when you’re being a dick.
A good relationship changes your life. Haven’t exactly experienced a bad one yet, bad endings. But when it’s good my god you feel like you can do anything.
It is comforting – I think that’s the best word for it. When things go well, you have someone close by to celebrate with, and when life sucks, you’ve got someone to lift your spirits.
Becomes normal, like they’re a part of your life now. You stop doing the mental thing of “oh I’ve got a girlfriend yay” and just treat it like any other relationship with family or people you know
When it’s great it’s really great and when it’s bad it’s really bad. The highs and lows are generally higher and lower than being single which can be an adventure itself.
Exiting a bad relationship though… it’s like coming up for air just before you drown. The feeling of relief is palpable. Being single has never felt better. It’s like you didn’t realise just how much weight and pressure was on you. To have that whip away in a short time is like walking on clouds.
I feel at peace when I’m with my girlfriend. We make each other laugh, smile, and we listen to each other when we need to. I want to make and share memories with her.
Hey Bro, also 33 here and never been in a relationship. Kinda scared now as I really Don’t Know what to do. I’ve also never experienced an intimate kiss. It seems more frightening than a job interview I swear.
The 5 cumulative months of my.38 year existence where I was in a relationship were the happiest ever. They exceeded my expectations. They were perfect and each girl had flaws. But some weeks were just like heaven.
There’s many “bads” that come with having a girlfriend but the addition of her to your life (granted she’s the right one) makes everything better. Fully positive things like vacations feel more fun and worth it with her, and bad experiences like my bad days are better with her to come home to. Many things in life are awful but having her makes it tolerable since I do it all to see her smile.
Simultaneously the best thing ever, and the most stressful thing you’ll ever do. At least in my limited experience you need to have the tact and patience of a hostage negotiator as anything you say can and will be used against you, and many of the things you do can be issues out of nowhere. That said, the good times are REALLY good. Having a cuddle buddy, someone who want to make their time, your time and vice versa. Birthdays and anniversaries feel so special. Everything you plan and work towards has someone helping you the whole way. Feeling wanted and not from obligation is a truly intoxicating experience. Family and friends will always be there for you and make you feel welcome, but a girlfriend will make you feel wanted/desired. I really hope I can find someone again one day.
It’s like imagining you own a yacht. It’s a beautiful yacht. You are excited for all the use you’ll get out of your yacht. Then you pull away from port the anchor drops and the power shuts off and an alarm never stops going off. Now you’re stuck on what was supposed to be a dream but it won’t stop annoying you and killing your dreams.
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Expensive….
You ever had a Tamagotchi? Kinda like that, except way more expensive.
Will cost you.
Always have to think about someone else’s needs. Always have to plan stuff to do. Always have to be able to perform in bed or at least satisfy her. Always have to make sure she’s not thinking your cheating
Stinks. Literally. I swear every girl has irritable bowel syndrome, is lactose intolerant, and has the worst diet on the planet. You’re better off just jerking it every day and keeping your piece.
The memories are fading, but mostly I felt busy all the time because I’d see her twice a week, and happier because I liked spending time with her. Cuddling on the couch or in bed and watching a good show is one of the most peaceful things in the world, doesn’t even have to be a good show.
I spent more money than I otherwise would have, maybe more than I would’ve liked, but she didn’t break the bank by any means.
It’s ight.
It’s a long, arduous process, and just when you think things are going your way, nothing happens.
Depends.
Having a bad gf/relationship: like being a caregiver to an abusive parent
Having a good gf/relationship: like having someone around who won’t let you spiral on the bad days and who will check your ego when you’re being a dick.
Fun.
And for those complaints about the money part. You either pay directly or indirectly, it’s part of the game.
A good relationship changes your life. Haven’t exactly experienced a bad one yet, bad endings. But when it’s good my god you feel like you can do anything.
It is comforting – I think that’s the best word for it. When things go well, you have someone close by to celebrate with, and when life sucks, you’ve got someone to lift your spirits.
Becomes normal, like they’re a part of your life now. You stop doing the mental thing of “oh I’ve got a girlfriend yay” and just treat it like any other relationship with family or people you know
When it’s great it’s really great and when it’s bad it’s really bad. The highs and lows are generally higher and lower than being single which can be an adventure itself.
Exiting a bad relationship though… it’s like coming up for air just before you drown. The feeling of relief is palpable. Being single has never felt better. It’s like you didn’t realise just how much weight and pressure was on you. To have that whip away in a short time is like walking on clouds.
I feel at peace when I’m with my girlfriend. We make each other laugh, smile, and we listen to each other when we need to. I want to make and share memories with her.
Hey Bro, also 33 here and never been in a relationship. Kinda scared now as I really Don’t Know what to do. I’ve also never experienced an intimate kiss. It seems more frightening than a job interview I swear.
Everything has an equal and opposite reaction. With ups, come downs.
Good with the bad.
If anyone tells you having a girlfriend is all roses and champagne, they are lying. Whether they are lying to you or to themselves.
It’s great though, just like all of life.
If I asked you what it is like playing video games, or enjoying your favorite hobby, what would you say?
Time consuming.
The 5 cumulative months of my.38 year existence where I was in a relationship were the happiest ever. They exceeded my expectations. They were perfect and each girl had flaws. But some weeks were just like heaven.
God damn it I miss my ex wife.
There’s many “bads” that come with having a girlfriend but the addition of her to your life (granted she’s the right one) makes everything better. Fully positive things like vacations feel more fun and worth it with her, and bad experiences like my bad days are better with her to come home to. Many things in life are awful but having her makes it tolerable since I do it all to see her smile.
Depends on the girl and can change moment to moment. Anywhere from amazing to awful.
annoying mostly……but sex!
Well considering mine treated me like crap. It was not a fun time.
Simultaneously the best thing ever, and the most stressful thing you’ll ever do. At least in my limited experience you need to have the tact and patience of a hostage negotiator as anything you say can and will be used against you, and many of the things you do can be issues out of nowhere. That said, the good times are REALLY good. Having a cuddle buddy, someone who want to make their time, your time and vice versa. Birthdays and anniversaries feel so special. Everything you plan and work towards has someone helping you the whole way. Feeling wanted and not from obligation is a truly intoxicating experience. Family and friends will always be there for you and make you feel welcome, but a girlfriend will make you feel wanted/desired. I really hope I can find someone again one day.
Depends on the girlfriend. And you.
Nobody can answer that but you, and after you had a few girlfriends.
Constantly worrying but gaslighting yourself into believing you’re not worried.
And sex
We weren’t right for each other so it wasn’t the best.
I’m going back into nursing school at 31, hope to meet someone there
U would want to be single again.
Woman are emotionally beings never argue with them because you won’t win
I really enjoyed it! It was a lot of fun! We were both weird and goofy so it worked out well.
It’s like imagining you own a yacht. It’s a beautiful yacht. You are excited for all the use you’ll get out of your yacht. Then you pull away from port the anchor drops and the power shuts off and an alarm never stops going off. Now you’re stuck on what was supposed to be a dream but it won’t stop annoying you and killing your dreams.
Amazing. Idk what they all talking about expensive because when they move in your expenses actually decrease.