If you guys live in a city where you can walk to places or take public transport, would it be the same response?
How important is it to you that the person you’re dating has a car?
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If you guys live in a city where you can walk to places or take public transport, would it be the same response?
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Yeah…it’s non-negotiable.
For me, where I live, it’s a necessity. Public transportation is a joke around here, so if you can’t drive yourself, you’re not going anywhere.
Not at all important. It doesn’t even cross my mind.
If it’s just a temporary thing idc. But if it becomes long term, definitely a problem. I’m not interested in being somebody’s personal uber
I live in Houston so… yeah
When I was single and dating, it was very important.
listen i’m willing to be flexible if they don’t have one for the time being, but not having one ever is a dealbreaker
I wouldn’t date someone without a car. Deal breaker.
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As long as it doesn’t feel like I’ve become a chauffer I’m good with it.
Where do we live? I know people in cities with great transportation and no car. No problem. But if they can’t get from point a to point b on their own that would be a problem.
I think it depends on how old you are. When I was 20 I was a student and didn’t care at all. But 25 + I would think yes.
i couldn’t care less tbh
It’s required. I honestly just assume any man I meet has a car. I wouldn’t be interested otherwise.
very
I live in a walkable city and I don’t own a car. So I really don’t care. Obviously would be different if I lived in a more suburban area.
Important where I live
It’s not critically important but is far more important now than when I lived in a walkable city.
This will get downvoted but if you don’t have a car how do you expect to actually take anyone out on dates? If you aren’t financially able to have a car, how are you financially able to have a family etc. (assuming people are dating for serious relationships – also this doesn’t apply to cities where it’s the norm to walk I.e New York)
It’s honestly depends on the city you’re living in tbh. 🤷🏽♀️ In LA, no my partner must have a car. But in London no it’s not a necessity
I think it depends on where you are located. I live in Europe, near a big city where public transport is great. Only about 30% of the people I know use cars, mostly those who like going away on weekends. The partner I’ve had for the last 2 years has a car, but he only uses it when he has to go to other cities for work. I had a car for 7 years and sold it when I moved here because I don’t need it.
So, to answer your question, I have no problem dating someone who doesn’t have a car because it’s not needed where I live.
Deal breaker if they don’t drive.
Very
Not important, I don’t even drive
Kind of. I don’t like being a chauffeur. I don’t know why but the idea of having to pick him up and drop him off all the time doesn’t appeal to me. I don’t know if it’s gender roles. I don’t mind switching or every once in a while. But a constant sucks. And buses don’t work well
Depends on where you live, in the heart of Brooklyn or the heart of rural Alabama, big differences
It is essential
I wish it didn’t matter but it does, only because of where I live. If I had to drive everywhere to do anything with them, I’d be annoyed.
Prefacing this: I live in a country with a decent public transport infrastructure.
I wouldn’t date someone if they were reliant on their car. Like, babygirl, know your surroundings. A car is nice, but if you’re adamant on making a half-hour’s walk a 5-minute car ride, that seems wasteful to me. Independence is knowing how to ride a bus or a train. It’s orienteering and being able to navigate around a network that isn’t just FOLLOW GPS.
I found out it’s super important after dating someone without a car. Because I ended up picking him up and dropping him off every single time we’d hang out. Also ended up driving him around for his errands a couple times.
I don’t care if a guy drives a fancy car, but being someone’s chauffeur is just way more extra labor than I have time for.
My boyfriend doesn’t, i’d prefer if he did but at least I have one. I love him but putting that aside for some reason I only ever attract men that don’t drive 😅 my area doesn’t have public transport either but the age group is somewhat young I suppose
not at all. I’d have no problem with picking my girl up anytime I was able.
It’s a necessity here so it’s a must that he has a car. I don’t know anyone that doesn’t have their own car.
My partner lives somewhere where a car isn’t necessary, so not important.
If I was single and wanted to date locally however, it would be very important because there is no easy way to move around without a car and public transportation is laughable
Not at all. I live in a big European city, you really don’t need a car here. I have one, but I basically never use it.
Also I hate being in the passenger seat so whenever we needed to go somewhere together I would insist on driving anyway and then we’d automatically take my car.
A job snd a car would be nice, yes.
I can’t drive so it would be kind of hypocritical for me to care. My fiance has a car and wants to drive me as much as possible, but I’m always prepared to take public transportation or get a Lyft or something.
Cant do much without one where I live. And im not a car sharer.
I left home without a license or car and saved until i had all of the above. At my age, a guy is too old to not have one. And where I live, most people work 15-45min from where they live.
Yes, its a must where I live. Dating someone without a car would be so inconvenient I don’t even know anyone who doesn’t own one
It’s important. But I’ve never lived somewhere where a car isn’t needed to get around.
Extremely. I live in a big city and I spend enough time chauffeuring my kid around. Not gonna do it with a grown man.
Pretty important… perhaps not 100% a requirement IF they live right on my city’s metro line, don’t expect me to now drive them around because I have a car, and don’t expect me to always go to their area because I drive.
I did date someone who was licensed but didn’t own a car (made the decision to sell it) and it was mostly fine. But it does give me pause, especially since my city and the surrounding areas are really geographically large and commuting can be a PITA even with a car, let alone if you’re venturing into an area with inconvenient transit / transit times.
Having a car isn’t important but having a character is important.
I didn’t think it was a dealbreaker until I dated a guy who couldn’t drive. The only way it wouldn’t be a hindrance would be if he was financially stable enough to pay for his rides.
I work a lot and live in an area without predictable transport. It becomes a major burden to be the one driving two and from his house, or waiting around for him to get off of work. I also hate driving.
Very important. Having a car and license = independence to me, so having them means you value being self reliant.
Would likely be a deal breaker where I live (Perth, Australia).