Better to be transparent about being anxious from the beginning or try to hide emotions as much as possible?
(All that let’s say the girl is trying hard to work on herself and it doesn’t manifest as controlling/jaleousy but more as need to be reassured at times, due to fear of being rejected and abandoned)
Especially to avoidant (because bith tend to attract each others) – what could make you stay?
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Better to be transparent about being anxious from the beginning or try to hide emotions as much as possible?
(All that let’s say the girl is trying hard to work on herself and it doesn’t manifest as controlling/jaleousy but more as need to be reassured at times, due to fear of being rejected and abandoned)
Especially to avoidant (because bith tend to attract each others) – what could make you stay?
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Ive had anxious attachment from childhood wounds.
But I will NEVER have anything to do with an avoidant ever again.
I’m damaged. Yall are destructive.
How she ends up treating me in the relationship will ultimately decide whether I stay or leave. Is she still kind, loving and there is enough positive to work with I will stay. Are the insecurities causing really toxic behavior and cause conflict with no clear end in sight, its better to just leave for my own mental health as harsch as it may sound
Assuming that there is a good balance of similar interests/hobbies, new ones you want to share with each other, and some that are uniquely yours/hers, AND communication is good, there is no attempt at manipulation or control, (what I mean to say is that every other aspect of the relationship is good and healthy) having a solid plan of action for how to work through the anxious attachment or insecurities, probably with a therapist/counselor.
Her agreement to get herself immediately into professional psychiatric treatment.
I don’t have to do amything.
If both sides get along well enough and genuinely want to be together one or the other could come with an entire mariachi band 24/7 and it wouldn’t make a difference