Long story short, my best friend’s girlfriend is a downright prick. She has done rude things and even treats him wrong. That’s not my business and I am not involved in that, so i never once told him how i felt about her and never will.
However, Im throwing a smallish get together and inviting a couple of my friends and their spouses. He already knows about this and keeps bringing it up in excitement but im not sure how to tell him he can either come and not bring her or not come at all. What would you do and have any of you guys been in this situation?
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Long story short, my best friend’s girlfriend is a downright prick. She has done rude things and even treats him wrong. That’s not my business and I am not involved in that, so i never once told him how i felt about her and never will.
However, Im throwing a smallish get together and inviting a couple of my friends and their spouses. He already knows about this and keeps bringing it up in excitement but im not sure how to tell him he can either come and not bring her or not come at all. What would you do and have any of you guys been in this situation?
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Sack up and be blunt with him. If you’re truly good friends you gotta say the harsh truth
Just be honest man. No good way to go about it
You’ve put yourself in a box of your own making. You say you will never tell him how you feel about his gf. This means you can never have this hard conversation with him. Personally, I think best friends, especially male best friends, should be brutally honest with each other. Brutal honesty isn’t great for everyone obviously, but for me, I like the brutal honesty. If you really don’t want her to come, you either have to break your self-imposed box or uninvite him too.
You can’t control other people’s feelings. You must choose your actions and accept the consequences.
You’ve got a few choices.
Speak up and deal with the fallout. This can include inviting him to attend alone.
Invite him with his gf, then call out her behavior publicly if it happens at the event.
Don’t invite him.
Quietly reschedule the event, and tell the other friends not to talk about it.
Cancel the event.
Number 1 is probably the right thing to do, but also the hardest. Number 2 is a gamble. She might behave, or you might embarrass her, your friend, or both.