Every time I see someone post a long rejection message, you’d think they just told the person they have stage 4 cancer. I’ve gotten exactly one of those messages years ago and I was left thinking that person was in love with themself. I NEVER leave them for people I don’t want to see anymore.
“Hey *name*, I’ve been thinking and, I don’t mean to break your heart and leave you emotionally crippled, but I don’t want to see you anymore. I know you LOVED hanging out with me, but I just don’t like you like that. Please don’t cry forever, you’re a great person who is obviously going to make someone with lower standards very happy.”
Like bro just hit her with a “Hey name I’m don’t wanna go out anymore” and if they ask why tell them HONESTLY. It’s more to the point and doesn’t jerk yourself off as much as a long one does. I always see people calling it “mature”, but I see the opposite. Maturity in rejecting someone is just saying what you mean bluntly while trusting the other person to understand it.
This whole parade motherfuckers put on when they reject someone makes them look like a self important douchebag. They’ll be fine without you.
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I mean…It depends on the long rejection message. There are definitely respectful ones that try to make it hurt as little as possible. There are confused ones. There are guilty ones. There are ego stroking ones. The message being long doesn’t say an awful lot about the context. This is especially a weird one considering you have had exactly one of those years ago and have such a strong opinion on it.
Also, I don’t think just hitting with a ”Hey, I don’t wanna go out anymore” is very respectful. Both parties invested just as much to each other. They deserve an explanation and the option to consider compromises. Especially if we’re talking about a long term one.
Most rejection messages I see put blame on themselves and not the other person unless the other person was awful. People will blame themselves for things to not make the other feel bad and women will especially do it to avoid confrontation that can be dangerous. Sometimes turning a dude down gives you a stalker or worse.
Stuff like
“It’s my fault I’m just not ready for a relationship”
And
“Things just didn’t work out between us and it is probably something having to do with me”
shouldn’t that be a face to face conversation? are people breaking up via text on the reg?
I’ve sent one long rejection. It paid out how I didn’t appreciate how she talked to me or treated me. It sparked because I sent a short one and she demanded answers. But she wasn’t too happy I didn’t take well to being told she hated me and that I was ugly up until I took her home early.
This is one of those posts where you can tell that OP is just not properly emotionally process something that happened to them personally.
This isn’t an opinion dude, it’s a failure to cope.
I mean, if the rejection didn’t hurt, what does it matter that they sound like an egotistical jerk? Do you need them to understand that actually it doesn’t hurt at all and you’re better off without them anyway? And if they’re so mediocre that losing them means nothing, why aren’t you the one rejecting them?
I feel this in my soul!!!!!!
Who is sending these kinds of messages? Does this happen? I’ve never had a serious break up that wasn’t in person. Any dating app people just ghost them or get ghosted lol so yeah, I can’t relate.