She invited me and a few others to a luxury weekend getaway, spa hotel, fancy dinners, the whole thing. I was upfront and said it was out of my budget, but I’d love to take her out to dinner another time. She ghosted me for weeks then posted about how real friends show up and money isn’t an excuse. I honestly thought we were close. Apparently not.
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Backup of the post’s body: She invited me and a few others to a luxury weekend getaway, spa hotel, fancy dinners, the whole thing. I was upfront and said it was out of my budget, but I’d love to take her out to dinner another time. She ghosted me for weeks then posted about how real friends show up and money isn’t an excuse. I honestly thought we were close. Apparently not.
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What a bitch. Good riddance.
What advice do you need? She did your job for you. Nobody needs trash like that in their life to shame them over being fiscally responsible. And I bet you half the folks that went aren’t even her good friends
Good, the garbage took itself out.
Her definition of “real friends” lives inside her head alone.
Well, the good thing is she exposed HERSELF!
Consider yourself lucky 🍀 you don’t have to deal with her one more second.
And DO NOT let her weasel herself back into your life. I have a hunch she will try.
Because those around her will drop like flies.
Oh!!! And perhaps she needs more exposure. Do a screenshot of her post and put it on your page with the caption
It’s ME she’s talking about! I couldn’t afford her birthday trip. It’s just not in my budget right now. She’s talking poo about me! Yay!!!
That’s cruel and kind of sick, really. I have friends from all walks of life and we would never exclude let alone drop someone. Darling, she’s not a real one. She’s heartless. Ask a real friend to go to dinner and treat them like you were going to do for bday wench. When they ask what the occasion is tell them it’s to celebrate real friendship.
I would have commented on the post “Real friends don’t expect their friends to skip rent/utility payments for an event.”
you didn’t lose a friend. you lost someone who thinks affection = transactions. she can keep her overpriced robe and emotional immaturity. meanwhile, you’re out here being financially responsible and emotionally available — she can’t relate.
She did you a favour! Bye-Bye!
To be clear, when you are *invited* somewhere, the inviter should be hosting you. This woman threw a birthday party for herself and expected the guests to pay their own way. She sounds like a friend you’re best rid of.
She’s not a friend.
The trash took itself out. Enjoy the rest of your life without her in it. Never, I repeat never take her back. Block her everywhere and move on.
She did you a favor. You shouldn’t want out of touch selfish friends.
You found out she really wasn’t your friend, and is selfish and childish. Painful lesson, but people who care about you don’t drop you over something like this.
You’re the winner in this story.
Great story and attention to detail
She’s not your friend
That’s not a friend. That’s a shallow bitch who wants nice pictures for ig, not real friendships!!!
Yikes. Sometimes the toilet flushes itself.
Don’t invite the poop back into your life.
She isn’t your friend. Real friends would understand. Time to block her.
Goooood riddance in my culture we say kol Khara w Rje3 la wara !! Which translates to eat shit and make ur way to the back 😅😂
Since money is no excuse, let her pay! You’re rid of an idiot.
You saved more than money on this!
Trash took itself out. You dodged an expensive adulthood. Years of Bridezilla choosing absurdly expensive Bachelorette weeks, paying for the most expensive bridesmaid gown, hair and makeup. Oh, and getting stuck with the bridal shower costs.
Can you imagine the level of bridezilla tantrums at each step ? Nor for love or money would I go Bridal gown shopping with that one.
It was a crappy friend, personally I would never organize a weekend with friends if it exceeds someone’s budget, a weekend that everyone can afford is much more fun and enjoyable, because then everyone feels welcome and can enjoy the festivities more.
Or, if one person can’t afford everything, we can all help pay the difference.
That garbage took itself out! You’re lucky!
She isn’t your friend.
I remember when my “best friend’s” boyfriend went through something life threatening, and i would stay up all hours of day and night, making sure she was okay. I would hang out with her and even give her advice and tell her it’s okay when she was trying to figure out what she wanted to do within the relationship in case he didn’t get better. She would tell me about how im the “only one there for her.”
2 weeks later, she posted on social media a photo of her and another female saying, “Thank you for always being there for me through this hard time. Thank you for showing me how a real friend acts.”
Sorry that happened OP. Friend grief sucks.
“Money isn’t an excuse”
OP didn’t you know you were supposed to rob a bank in order to cater to her ego? /s
Not a friend
Real friends with real money and real manners know if you invite someone to something expensive, you pay.
Look at the silver lining. Now you know she really wasn’t much of a friend after all.
She sucks
Count your blessings she’s not in your life anymore. Had, yes HAD a friend like that..always telling people what she spent on someone’s gift, birthday or other.
If money isn’t an excuse, then why didn’t she pay for your weekend getaway?
Oooh, dump her. She is soooo not a real friend
And money is a very valid excuse if she’s choosing something superexpensive and does not foot the bill for guests.
It’s all about her ego and control. She wants to know that she can get people to spend $$$ for her
Ik it sucks a lot but down the line you’re gonna realize you dodged a bullet and you didn’t waste thousands of dollars on someone like that.
Apparently