Hi all, I went on a date with a guy I really like, and he did a couple of things like helping me put my coat on, opening a door etc.
How could I reciprocate? What’s the feminine equivalent of these?
What’s a gentleman thing a woman can do?
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Hi all, I went on a date with a guy I really like, and he did a couple of things like helping me put my coat on, opening a door etc.
How could I reciprocate? What’s the feminine equivalent of these?
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Hi all, I went on a date with a guy I really like, and he did a couple of things like helping me put my coat on, opening a door etc.
How could I reciprocate? What’s the feminine equivalent of these?
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You could help him put his coat on and open the door for him.
Hug at first, give him a squeeze like your happy to see him again
Kiss him on the cheek after he does something nice.
Pay the bill.
Suck his balls
Passionate hi and and goodbye with a warm hard hug and a passionated kiss
Just be polite, show interest, and maybe let him know you’re enjoying his company.
simple, really.
Simply saying thank you and just appreciating us, that’s all we really want
Make some pickles this weekend and give him a jar.
Open doors for others
Kill a fast roach for me so I can still finish my useless downvotes comment on Reddit.
Swallowing the whole load on the first date, milady
give him an unprompted compliment
maybe you notice he got a haircut, or he smells nice. or maybe his clothes look really good on him
make him feel like you’re really paying attention to him
This is going to sound counter intuitive but:
Im here for the lonely internet accounts to suggest sex.
Just smile and thank him. If he’s a real gentleman, that’s all he’s looking for.
Why would you want to do gentleman things for a man? Do you mean a ladylike thing?
Allow him to do things for you and be appreciative of it. If he gives you apples, you don’t have to give him apples back. Or even oranges. Show him you appreciate him by doing something for him that only you can do.
Pick up the tab on the second date
Gift him a ps5.
I love it when my wife pours the water or wine
I guess it revolves around being thoughtful and aware of others. Making situations easier for someone.
I can’t think of anything for dates specifically off the top of my head, but usually small thoughtful acts, taking care of something so someone else doesn’t have to.
In terms of a relationship, I know I’ve seen the idea circulating around about bringing him a beer (or soda, or whatever) and a sandwich when he’s working on something. (Which is not a reference to the sexist joke “sandwich” thing, just a genuine small nice unexpected thing.)
Small appreciative moments, acts of kindness that are just for their own sake.
Bjs are not required but really appreciated.
Be responsive to his sensibilities. For instance a man should always lead a lady downstairs and follow her upstairs, that way she has a man to fall on whether she’s going up or down.
If you take the lead when going upstairs and wait for him to lead going downstairs, he’ll notice it and see you as someone more compatible with him than he normally meets.
When he does these things touch his arm, look into his eyes, smile, and tell him that you really appreciate these little things he does. Tell him it makes you feel special, cared for, or whatever it makes you feel. If he’s not a horndog frat boy that’ll give him everything he needs in that moment.
take care of the check or at least attempt to.
…the feminine equivalent is letting him do those things and you showing appreciation for it.
Laugh at his jokes. Tell him he looks nice. Text him good morning everyday. I find guys really like that. Have the initiative to plan some dates.
Unlock his door when he puts you in the car first, cover the tip and offer to buy dessert.
Say “thank you” with a smile. That’s the equivalent, or rather the only think you should do. Be thankful for someone acting like a gentleman should.
Be appreciative. Be nice. Be consistent. We really don’t need much at all.
Just give a compliment
Initiating intimacy is something that a lot of women don’t do so it’s often a nice thing when they do but it’s possibly too early in the relationship for that so I think just a loving smile can carry a lot of impact.
Skipping the usual jokes. I think, old-school rules, how you’d reciprocate is notice that what he’s doing are ‘gentleman things’. Like, as a general category. There’d be a bunch of other social rules about keeping the conversation going and so on, but basically just letting him know you registered it as gentlemanly would be the big one.
Take his arm when you’re walking. That’s the simplest thing you can do. It’s feminine and tells a man all he needs to know.
Also, as others have said, a simple thank you and a smile. Really, just make him feel appreciated.
Alright, story time.
When I first started dating my wife I mentioned that I liked blueberry muffins.
I rented a cabin for my birthday for a vacation so we could just, get away. We were stressed.
She woke up early one morning, just to make me blueberry muffins.
Also, it’s small things. On Valentine’s Day, she hides little cards around the house, in my pockets, and in my laptop bag. Just so I can find them later. Also Post-it notes that simply say, “I love you”. I save them all.
I don’t know if this helps at all, but it’s just simple things. There’s no right or wrong. Smile, laugh, and live in the moment.
I dated a girl who’d always hold my shirt down whenever I took off a jumper so that it wouldn’t get caught and dragged up by whatever I was wearing. It was such a small thing but it really resonated with me
Wear a monocle and say “spiffing!” a lot.
Quietly accept his gestures and act helpless so it makes him feel strong and being silent a lot helps……
Comment and thank him for said efforts.
Grow a mustache, wear a monocle, a top hat, and a walking cane.
Bake him some banana bread.
The feminine equivalent is to say thank you. We don’t expect anything in return.