How does a guy make a girl feel comfortable when bringing her to his place for the first time?
How does a guy make a girl feel comfortable when bringing her to his place for the first time?
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How does a guy make a girl feel comfortable when bringing her to his place for the first time?
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Saran Wrap all your furniture . Really let her know your nice and clean
Have a puppy waiting for her there
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Lock the door immediately when she walks in
A shrine dedicated to her In The living room
Make sure it is clean before she gets there, including the can. Lots of personal space and small talk.
Show her your vast collection of home made porn.
And if that doesn’t do it, tell her it’s a family tradition to make/keep it, “those VHS tapes on the top shelf are my great grand pappies.”
Show her your knife collection so she knows you’re willing and capable of protecting her and reassure her by using phrases like, “Don’t worry, I’m not going to hurt you.”
Get her drunk
Have food cooking on the stove and Gypsy Kings playing on your stereo when she comes over…
“Is that Spanish?” she’ll say… Oooooh, you’re so cultured!
Clean the house, especially the toilet. If you’re expecting any action make sure the sheets are clean. Give her space to move to you, don’t automatically sit right next to her really close. Put absolutely zero pressure on her to do anything and offer her a beverage.
Lights on, tidy once, clean bathroom. Something non-alcoholic to drink. Blankets
Lined trashcans with a lid in the bathroom.
Keep it clean, but still home-y. Have things around your home that invite conversation. Offer a snack/drink, but when you list out the drink options, make sure water is one of them.
Here’s a great guide from 16 years ago.
I usually lay a drop cloth covering the ground to hide the previous stains. I also find putting plastic liners on the walls and ceilings hides the dust! She’s gonna like you!
Just don’t be weird
Candle…
offer her a drink? No diddy..
Let her explore the space, don’t loom over her. Also relax, remember she is there because she wants to be there.
Let her know this is a safe space to fart and lead by example
Just act normal. If she’s going to your place alone then she’s already comfortable with you.
I let her in and make sure the lights are on and if I want to turn one or all of them off while we watch tv, I’ll ask her if it’s okay. Wherever she sits on the couch on sit more than arms distance, I’ll ask if she wants something to drink and don’t be shy to ask to use the bathroom. Then talk about some bs and funny shit instead of trying to smash immediately. Treating women like regular human beings like they are will take you far.
Clean before you do it.
Day time. Just do day time.
Windows open if possible. I live right next to a big and always very populated park. If I wanted someone to feel safer here, I’d just open the windows. If she screams, 1000 people will hear her.
Timelines. “She will leave at this time”. This gives her security. She’ll come, she’ll stay for a time, she’ll leave. She knows when, she’s ready, she doesn’t feel trapped.
But in the end, there’s only so much you can do. Comfort comes from within. You can make an effort, but it’s on her in the end to feel comfortable.
Make sure your folks are gone🤣🤣🤣🤣
turning down the lights and inviting her to get naked with him, relax and remove those constricting clothing. lol
Clean, have pillows and a throw blanket so it feels cozy. Lamps instead of overhead lighting for the same reason.
Clean your toilet and bathroom sink. Have soap and a clean hand towel. Have a trash can with a lid so she doesn’t ever feel like she has to be responsible for hiding/discretely disposing of used period products.
Her being comfortable at your place is more about being comfortable with you than anything else.
Some tips though are to make sure the place is nice and tidy. If you have a patio or balcony have a drink outside at some point early on, it doesn’t need to be alcoholic. If you sit on a couch together, don’t crowd her. Let her move closer to you if she feels like there is too much space… though you don’t have to sit at the opposite end of a three seater.
Just be yourself and be mindful of the vibe, it should be all good.
whip it out right when u close the door
I always found it best to have other friends over, a small social gathering and letting her know that in advance. Make food, nothing more comforting than food and let her make/open her own drink
If she is driving herself over and you live somewhere where parking is not easy, please give some tips on where to park. If there is a parking meter, tell her to text you the info so you can pay for the meter and when she leaves walk her to her car.
By not being a creep?
She said yes to going to your place. She’s comfortable with it.
I’m going to give you a girl’s perspective:
clean and tidy
light a scented candle (you’re used to your house smell, but it might smell funky to other people)
have drinks and snack available
have a clean fridge
make sure you have normal toiletries available (toilet paper, toothpaste, shower gel etc)
have some personal stuff that shows a “normal person” life e.g. photos, books, plants
have fresh sheets on the bed and fresh towels
I don’t, not because I dont care to make somebody comfortable, man or woman. But its not as simple as that with bringing somebody to my place.
I live in a place out the way, down a private road with no lights, then it’s getting to my house itself. I have heavy duty doors, a CCTV system, 10 ft high walls, and 2 trained dogs. My home is my sanctuary, and thus, im very conscious about protecting it.
My current girlfriend, for example , wasn’t as simple as bringing her home. I had to explain everything and wanted to introduce her to my dogs so they can get used to her. She thought it was weird to begin with. But now, when im at work and she’s at mine. She tells me she’s never felt more relaxed being on her own anywhere. So does that count as making a girl feel comfortable lol?
You mean like chloroform, bro?
Maybe offer to make her a sandwich. Sing her a song.
Clean it before she gets there
Stop and buy snacks before going to your place.
Just be normal. Men and women both could get a lot farther with that 1 simple rule.
Women like guys with a lot of friends. They also like being the center of attention. So have some friends hide in a closet with a camera. She won’t complain, because of the implication.
Reading some of these responses makes it glaringly obvious why so many Redditors have zero luck with Women.
Nothing, I literally do nothing out of the ordinary. She is already coming over, if she wasnt already comfortable with me she wouldn’t be. Acting any different than the way you already act is just going to throw her off.
I like to go to the bathroom right when i get home and tell them to help themselves to whatever and then come out completely naked to set the tone
You don’t, just be clean and STFU, she’ll judge you, it won’t be good ever and that’s that. Also, get some.
I bring out my assortment of human skins.
Hide the gloves and duct tape ?
Um. These comments. 😆😅🤣 I love you guys soooooooooo much!!!!
Clean and organize your house. Make the bed, do your laundry, clean the toilet.
A clean and organized house is a good start. Music, drinks, and candles also help set the mood.
Make sure your place is clean and vacuumed. Don’t forget air freshener as well. Cooking for them always seems to get me a good response 😄
Take out the handcuffs and lube.
Start her up a new playthrough of Dark souls 2
Take your underwear of the radiator
Don’t overdo it with the candles, and buy some actual shower products.
I live in a shed, bringing woman back to the shed is hilarious because you can see it on there face what a horrible choice they made once they see it’s actually a shed 😂😂😂
First off, have a huge bowl filled with condoms, and place in the entrance, then she’ll know u really do indeed “fuck my dude”
Next up, make sure u have a carpet made of bear hide, gotta make sure she knows where u stand on that from the get go
Lastly have a few bouquets of plastic flowers ready to go, bitches love flowers
Alternatively u could keep repeating “I Swear I’m not a weird-o” whenever u think she might be getting uncomfortable, if it feels like its too much, go get a knife look her all serious in the eyes and say “dont mind me, just trying to cut this tension up abit” while doing a few cutting motions
Hand her body lotion and say in a real creepy voice “it puts the lotion on it’s skin”
Start off by not locking the door immediately after she enters, JK /s
In all seriousness just ask her “you made sure to let someone know you’re at my place right? In case a fire or break in happens I wanna make sure someone knows where you’re at…”
THE BEST you could also do is send them a picture of your ID to send to someone else like “hey I’ll be with this guy at the listed address, just in case something happens to me LOL”
Ask her what her allergies are just in case you have it in your home,
But seriously don’t lock the door immediately after she enters,
Try not to be a creep, controlling, or hounding, give her space, let her do her thing so she can get herself comfortable,
Have a clean good smelling living place, like actually clean it, and not just toss things into some closet,
Put on a kettle and tell her you’re going to have some tea, would she like a cup too?
I used to have a large selection of cute and funny mugs I collected from thrift stores so it was also fun letting people pick their mug.
Hold the door for her as we enter because I know I straightened up before I left! 🤭😂😂
Request that they remove their shoes… “because I don’t want to track dirt through my place”. 😈
Offer them a drink or dessert if we didn’t have any while we were out.
Then try to recap a conversation that we were having before we got to the door.
While these comments are funny, I’ll tell you what I’ve done. For context, I’m 52 and 2 years out of a 20 year marriage, so am very rusty and unsure.
Clean the place, like really clean it and open windows for a while if you can. If she walks in and it’s clean, tidy and smells fresh it tells her that you have some discipline and some respect for yourself and guests.
Don’t crowd her but try not to act too nervous and stand offish.
If you have any art, or a stand out piece of furniture or, in my case a big Lego Colosseum she will probably notice it and mention it. It gives you something to break the ice over that doesn’t involve anything personal or intimate.
Offer a drink and just chat. I assume you’ve been talking for a while, so just talk like you naturally have. Let it flow from there.
Don’t expect anything sexual to happen, just go with it. The less pressure vibes you give off, the more comfortable and safe she will feel.
Good luck and enjoy yourselves.
Buy her waffles
Make sure it’s clean and doesn’t smell for one.
Have your place clean and keep your bedroom door shut.
Let them pet your cats
Clean and have a nice candle going
A super tidy place and I didn’t make any moves until I knew she was on the same page. I gave her her space and respected boundaries
Make sure it’s clean, have snacks ready, don’t get too touchy too fast.
have someone else take a sniff test in your room to see if there is any freaky smell
Lock the door behind you as soon as she enters and breathe loudly without saying anything at all.
Unbreakable eye contact also helps.
Some women freak out when you bring them over and they see the bedroom. I’ve had it happen a couple of times. It’s not like I can’t just have sex on the couch.
Give her some cheese. She will be ok. Make sure the bathroom is clean and doesn’t have other girls stuff in there. Clean sheets, made bed. Food in the fridge/ cabinets.