Married women: are you genuinely happy in your marriage? What makes you happy/unhappy?
Married women: are you genuinely happy in your marriage? What makes you happy/unhappy?
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Married women: are you genuinely happy in your marriage? What makes you happy/unhappy?
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I’m super happy with my husband of 14 years. My husband is my best friend, my greatest cheerleader, my partner in life and a wonderful father to our baby. There’s no one who knows me better, who lets me be the best most genuine version of myself. He makes my life easier in so many ways. We have the same values and want the same things in life.
Yes, I’m very happy.
My husband is the best person I know, he’s caring, emotional, supportive, cute, funny, intelligent, cares deeply about others, lives his ethical beliefs each day. He’s my best friend, my best lover, my best person on the planet. He’s my everything!
We share values, interests, views….. We’re so much aligned we’re basically the same person in two bodies.
We’re together for 15 years, married for 7.5 years.
Very happy. We’ve been together for 8 years, married 3. He’s my best friend, my partner in everything. We each bring different strengths to the table. There’s a lot of yin and yang that makes our relationship successful. We rarely fight or disagree. Trust is everything
Yes.
Sometimes I wonder if it’s bc she’s a woman lol.
But we’re happy bc we each cherish our relationship 13 years later, try to make life easier for one another and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. We also have common life goals. We also each put in effort to effectively communicate.
Life can get hard with 2 small kids and counting but we’re having a lot of fun!
I am, because it’s my second marriage and third serious relationship, and both of those previous ones taught me a lot about who I am and what I want and need in a relationship, and I know that what I have with my husband is finally the right connection. My marriage to my ex-husband taught me that a relationship that’s very amicable but pretty much entirely platonic will leave me feeling empty because I need sexual and romantic intimacy as well. Being great friends only won’t keep it alive as a marriage. My relationship with my ex-girlfriend taught me more or less the opposite — that true friendship needs to underlie everything else, you need to really really like each other as people, not just sexually and romantically desire each other, and that trust and stability are absolutely essential. It also taught me that it’s sometimes difficult to identify emotional abuse.
I slowly fell in love with my now-husband over the course of a couple years of friendship. We were on opposite sides of the Atlantic (UK/Canada) and all we had was writing. You learn a lot about who someone is just writing (increasingly long and emotionally intimate) messages to each other for several years. And then rather unexpectedly, things got… not so platonic one evening haha. That was very early in the pandemic, and after four and a half years of long distance (with a number of visits of course), we’ve been living together since last autumn and we got married last month. He’s my best friend. He makes me laugh more than anyone else ever has, understands me better than anyone else ever has (and listens if there’s something he doesn’t understand very well), he’s compassionate and supportive when it comes to my various struggles with my mental and physical health, I’ve never felt more loved or more sexually desired in my life, we love tons of the same music and have really great conversations (from silly or nerdy to vulnerable deeper things), no one has ever made me feel safer and more secure, and any conflicts that come up occasionally are things we properly talk about and navigate respectfully — even when pissed off lol. I’ve also never felt before like someone really wanted and needed the things I could give in my specific ways. Like, never felt like I was truly good for someone. But my husband has mentioned the ‘safe’ feeling too, which he says he’s never had before with anyone else. And feeling more loved and wanted than ever before.
When you find your Person after relationships that weren’t the right fit, I think you often just know. And I think I picked up on that potential really early on in our friendship. So yep, I’m happy.
Happy. We are a team and we both choose each other actively. You know that phrase “if he wanted to, he would”, well, he does! Consistently shows up every step of the way.
My favourite thing to tell him is “I love you, on purpose”.
Yes, I am happy. My husband is supportive, caring, funny, our sex life is good. We dont fight over dumb stuff. It’s a good marriage.
My husband and I are different in so many ways. I am a dreamer and he is more grounded, I am super lazy in the kitchen and he loves to cook, I am neat and he is messy. In the beginning of our relationship our differences caused us to have so many stupid, unnecessary little fights, but with time we have found ways to make those differences a strength in our relationship. He keeps me more grounded, I keep him more organized. We are both willing to put in the work to be good partners for each other. We share the same core values, and we communicate really well, and those are the things that really matter. He is my best friend and biggest supporter, and being with him not only makes me want to be the best version of myself, it actually makes me better. He also looks really good naked. So yes, I am very, very happy in my marriage.
The partnership the child u brought to this word the security blanket its all benefits of marriage i think marriage is win win situation always
Very happy. We’ve been together 32yrs. We raised 2 amazing kids and are now empty nesters. He’s still my best friend . We have an active sex life that has never really slowed much. We shower together most days, still hold hands, cuddle and flirt. I feel loved and I hope I make him feel the same. Our early years of learning each other are long behind us and now we have the kind of easy relationship that just is. We laugh often and rarely disagree. I followed his military career for 26yrs and now he’s retired so I get to persue some things I had been putting off and he’s encouraging me to be my best self. I think I’ve had a really good life so far.
I’m incredibly happy and genuinely happy. It’s all because of the man my husband is and the life we’ve built together. Since we got married, everything has felt more grounded, more meaningful. I feel loved, safe, and completely understood. He’s my best friend, the one who knows me better than anyone else (even better than my own parents).
We share the same values, the same dreams, and I know it’s real love because the best part of my day is hearing him walk through the door after work.
We met when I was 16 and he was just 15. We started dating and spent 8 years in a long-distance relationship (in different countries) before finally getting married last year.
I’ve always believed in soulmates, and now I know for sure: he’s mine.
Yes. We’ve been married 32 years and I am truly happy, content and at peace.
What makes me happy? Almost everything about our life. We have a great relationship with our adult son. We are financially secure. I love our home and our community. We have a loving family and good friends.
Yes. Incredibly so and that happiness has been consistent throughout the 2 decades we’ve shared together so far. What makes me happiest about my marriage is enjoying both of us getting to spend our life journeys adventuring with our loving best friend and partner. Everything is better in a life shared with my partner. I enjoy us.
Absolutely! We’ve been together 25 years, married for 18, and we’re still in love. We approach life as a team, a united front, and work together to face obstacles. The only thing about it that makes me unhappy is knowing that we’re both 53 and likely only have 30-40 years left together.
Very happy. Together 29 years at this point. He’s loving and caring, brings me coffee every morning and balances me in many ways. We are very different – I’m more ambitious career wise, he is more spontaneous in the fun department. We have shared life goals and shared values so it works.
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I’m okay. Sometimes we have great days. We fight a good deal. He prioritizes work and his alone time. He’s not often interested in sex. He drinks a lot.
Sometimes yes, sometimes not
I am very happy with my husband. We’ve been married 5 years this summer and have known each other since we were 16.
I think being good friends before we got into a relationship has helped give us a really good foundation of communication and respect. We are each willing to listen and learn and grow together.
So far this year has been one of the most difficult we have faced together, but we are facing it Together. No matter what is going on in our work lives or with other people, we are always there for each other and are ready to support and listen to what is needed.
Together 19 years and married for 15. It’s like getting to live with your best friend and do whatever you want.
Love seeing this. Not married but tired of the rhetoric across platforms about unhappy people. Happy for all of you. I love love 🙂
Yes. I am happy in my marriage. Not all day everyday, that is unrealistic, but overall bone deep happy. It’s not a roller coaster of highs and lows. It’s a solid base of happy.
It takes work. We respect each other, we both make efforts to had the unfun conversations instead of letting it build up, and genuinely care about the small things. Like how was your day, what happened with that situation at work and really care.
What makes me unhappy. He doesn’t like to dance and hates squash (the food), I love squash.
I am genuinely happy in my marriage as well. We have been married for almost 12 years and what I think makes our marriage so great is that as a second marriage for both of us and we both are very supportive of each other but yet we both are different in ways that complement each other.
I am happy with my husband. People say marriage is hard work. I think they’re wrong. I think life is hard work, and who you marry can make it easier or harder. The person I married makes it easier.
I’m so happy with my husband of 4 years, together for 10. We have two kids and one on the way. We were close friends before we started dating, so even when things are tough, the kids are driving us crazy, one of us is sick, we’re overstimulated and exhausted, we’re still best pals. We make each other laugh so much that it annoys our oldest sometimes. Sorry kid, we’re hilarious. When we argue/fight, it’s more like a debate where we’re both trying to get to the bottom of our feelings together. No name calling, no mean words. Just heated debate where we’re always still on the same team. Being on the same team is what keeps us going through life’s challenges.
I’ve had to learn he’s not a mind reader. If I want it, I ask for it. He steps up every time. He’s had to learn that I’m not attacking him if I tell him he hurt my feelings. We’ve grown together and our communication is awesome.
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I’m thrilled for all of you who are happy. I wish I could say the same. I fought for years to get him to see that his avoidance (and emotionally immature behavior when called out on the avoidance) and apathy was net negative for everyone in our family.
He is full of excuses. Arguments. Blame. Not change. It’s like being married to a toddler, and also like I do not exist unless I’m entertaining him.
Life is on his terms only (because that’s how it works with avoidant people and people who are apathetic and emotionally immature) and I hate every second of it. I want to be seen and heard and have an actual PARTNER, I want a life that I’m excited to live and proud of, not one that I just endure. I want someone to notice that I’m utterly miserable, take the feedback that simple changes in their behavior would make things SO MUCH BETTER, and instead of invalidating and arguing and half assing (or completely avoiding), if they would just DO the things.
Maybe someone desperate, with a savior complex and an extremely low bar would be happy with him. I loathe my life when he’s around.