Often times we are encouraged by other people’s poor life choices that serve as a wake up call to observe our trajectory and look inwardly making sure we don’t end up like them. What was that event & where are you now with the work to make you never turn into said individual?
What caused you to say “that will never be me” after observing someone’s life ?
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Often times we are encouraged by other people’s poor life choices that serve as a wake up call to observe our trajectory and look inwardly making sure we don’t end up like them. What was that event & where are you now with the work to make you never turn into said individual?
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Seeing homeless, drug addicts, and panhandlers in my area.
Seeing a family member become an alcoholic. Couldn’t keep a job because of it. DUI’s. Destroyed family relationships. Health issues due to it. In and out of jail.
In my mid 20s I still saw guys doing the same jobs & routine they were doing after HS. They were content getting a weekly paycheck, going to the bars and being drunk nightly with no big picture plan how they want their lives to improve & evolve. I eventually lost touch with most of them
My uncle shot himself over some woman that didn’t want him. My cousinbest friend OD’d on pills. So at this point I will never touch hard drugs or ever let someone else get me so down that I would harm myself. Maybe I wouldn’t have taken either of those roads, but now they’re absolutely blocked off.
Seeing the octogenarian’s greeting people at Wal-Mart, or really just working anywhere out of necessity.
Both my wife and I made sure to always contribute to retirement accounts until we were able to hit the annual maximum, and I also specifically switched careers to one with a pension.
Watching my 60 year old coworkers just hate life and their wives and approaching retirement with no savings and a massive mortgage, I swore down I wouldn’t end up like that and I’d keep myself in shape and not be a bitter broken person.
Going well so far.
Honestly when I saw everyone that were unnecessarily mean to their friends and acted like everyone was their competition.
A bit different, but I know a couple that’s actually happy with where they are in life (or seem that way, anyway). They live very frugally for religious reasons, and their entire lifestyle revolves around that. One step into their home and seeing how they live made me immediately think: “that will never be me.” They even once told me I care too much about money because I wasn’t willing to sell my car to be more “aligned” with their values.
It really hit me how polar opposite their life is from what I want. I want to travel, explore the world, go to concerts and festivals, live in different cities or even countries. They can’t do any of that and a lot of it comes to their values and lifestyle choices. I’ve made too many sacrifices to get to where I am today to let anything hold me back anymore. My priorities are building my life and living it fully, not tailoring it to fit someone else’s vision.
If giving 10% of their income to the church every month works for them, great, but personally, I’d rather be building a $3-4 million investment cushion so I can enjoy life on my terms before and by the time I retire.
So not “poor” life choices per se, but a different take on how to live. Just made me realize that it wasn’t for me. My father used to take me around the ghetto when I was younger though, areas with a lot of homeless people, and ask me if I wanted to end up like that. I’d always say no, and he said that staying in school and trying my hardest would help, it totally worked lol.
Watching all my friends get married and have kids has made me never want to have children and seriously reconsider ever marrying.
Even my friends who have good lives on paper seem miserable.
My best friend has a handsome husband and two beautiful children. They make really good money and are building a house, going on fancy vacations, etc.
She works 40+ hrs a week, is the primary parent, and has an alcoholic husband who is fine when he’s sober but a complete ass when he’s drunk.
Her life is the nicest of all my married friends with children.
I had a girls brunch with friends, and our married friend with a baby showed up with the baby. Her husband had the day off and could have watched him for two hours, but he didn’t want to. She literally can’t even get two hours off on a Sunday to go to brunch with friends.
Makes me feel vindicated in my decision to get sterilized.
Women who knowingly sleep with other peoples partners. The sheer lack of self worth made me realise. I can never be that woman and be happy with being the side piece.
No matter what he says if you’re the side bitch, he’s never leaving her. And if he comes to you, its because she found out and left him and your a back up. Seen this too many times, and seen it pan out in a 7 year relationship. My wife and I are separating and I will divorce her and 7 years later hes still married to her and she runs on his wifes clock to spend time with him.