Hi guys, ima male and 16, and I want to find a relationship with someone and to have a partner, I need help in trying to do so and how to, I don’t go to school, I am homeschooled, I don’t get out much except for work which is just the weekend and 2 weekdays, I don’t really do anything other then be at home or go to work.
I’m just really lonely and hurt, and idk if that’s super normal for being 16, I just want company and a partner to be with and the whole yada yada. Idk how to do that nor achieve it and I came on here to see if anyone could help or anything else. And I don’t really trust online dating bc it’s usually online only and not irl. I want a irl relationship someone I can see and be around and to talk to a lot, idk what to do and idk if I’m doomed or not, plz help. TL;DR what do I do
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It’s hard to advise ya here other than general stuff. Make friends and go from there. Be genuine, kind, etc. But not pushy.
You need to become more active and do more extracurricular activities. Put yourself in situations to meet people.
I remember feeling exactly how you felt when I was 16, and I know it might feel like everybody else your age is getting into relationships but I would put money on those people being the minority. Please don’t put yourself into a relationship just because you want one.
you say you don’t go out much, are there any clubs or sports you could join?
you’re lonely and hurt. Firstly, why are you hurt? Secondly, like I said before, don’t get into a relationship just because you are lonely. That will be a huge strain to put on your partner. You are much better off building a group of friends first off. Third, it absolutely is normal to feel some kind of that way at 16, you possibly feel more lonely because you are homeschooled.
don’t try online dating until you are at least 18 (the age requirement for all of the apps). But it’s not all that bad and not always “online only” – I met my partner of 3.5 years on Bumble, we spoke for a couple of days online before our first date and the rest is history.
You absolutely are not doomed. You are still so so young, dating and relationships have changed so much since our parents were doing it! I started dating at 18, thought my first 2 boyfriends would be my forever. Had a bit of a breakdown when the second one didn’t work out as I thought I was doomed then, but realised I was only 20. I met my current partner at 21/about to turn 22. My sister broke up with her bf 2 months before she turned 30 and is now happily dating again after a year. People do things at different paces, you are all good buddy
I suggest looking for friends first. You say you’re lonely and hurt but that’s not good to bring into a relationship at a young age. Find out who you are first, find some friends and become active. Then look for a relationship.
Something that is really good to learn how to socialize more is to join a hobby group or play some team sports. I would be looking into teen-centric activities and groups in your area.