So, I’m going to get straight to the point.
Today, I brought wings and fries. I didn’t finish it all so I put it in the fridge so I could have it later.
Few hours later, I go into the fridge and it was all gone. Mind you, there was 4 wings and a whole container of fries in there.
It was just me, my mom’s boyfriend (Sam) and his son so, I asked Sam where my food went and he said he gave it to his son.
Obviously, I was upset because 1. You didn’t even ask and 2. You gave all of it to him, knowing he wouldn’t finish it so now half of the food I paid for is sitting in the trash.
I told him to stop just feeding my food to his son without asking, which he does ALL the time. He’ll take my food from the fridge, and just give it to his son. He never, ever asks.
Like I don’t mind sharing but I feel like taking my things without asking isn’t nice.
He told me I’m being possessive over food and that it’s not that deep. Sam also said I’m 16 refusing to share with an 8 year old as if I’m a toddler.
So, AITA?
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So, I’m going to get straight to the point.
Today, I brought wings and fries. I didn’t finish it all so I put it in the fridge so I could have it later.
Few hours later, I go into the fridge and it was all gone. Mind you, there was 4 wings and a whole container of fries in there.
It was just me, my mom’s boyfriend (Sam) and his son so, I asked Sam where my food went and he said he gave it to his son.
Obviously, I was upset because 1. You didn’t even ask and 2. You gave all of it to him, knowing he wouldn’t finish it so now half of the food I paid for is sitting in the trash.
I told him to stop just feeding my food to his son without asking, which he does ALL the time. He’ll take my food from the fridge, and just give it to his son. He never, ever asks.
Like I don’t mind sharing but I feel like taking my things without asking isn’t nice.
He told me I’m being possessive over food and that it’s not that deep. Sam also said I’m 16 refusing to share with an 8 year old as if I’m a toddler.
So, AITA?
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NTA. Why can’t Sam provide food for his son without the aid of a 16 year old?
NTA if he can tell you not to be possessive about your food, why is any feeding the kid his food? He’s just using your leftovers as an easy lazy meal because he doesn’t wanna have to go through the hassle of making one himself.
NTA. It’s not your job to feed Sam’s son. If you get food for yourself, you have a right to eat it, not have it taken away. It’s not that deep.
He’s criticizing you for being possessive but there’s nothing wrong with being possessive about your own stuff. He’s the one in the wrong for taking your stuff. Let him come up with his own food for his son.
NTA but fries that have been in the refrigerator, honestly?
NTA. Might be time to invest in a mini fridge for your room
NTA. This freeloader should be providing for his own kid. He is calling you possessive to deflect his own actions. Does he have any stuff around the house that you can casually tip away at using? When he complains say Sam why are you so possessive of your stuff.
Of course you’re NTA. Refusing to share food you paid for isn’t “toddler” behavior. Toddlers never pay for their own food. They don’t even have jobs.
You’re NTA.
>Sam also said I’m 16 refusing to share with an 8 year old as if I’m a toddler.
And Sam is much older than you and yet he is refusing to provide food for his own child, choosing instead to take food from a teenager.
NTA. I would duct tape my leftovers after that, unless the bf recognizes that he should share from his wallet and not just yours.
No, NTA
Sam is the toddler if you didn’t notice, not his son.
Time for a mini fridge!
NTA
NTA, you bought the food, it’s your food to decide what to do with. If he wants to be able to decide he should pay for it.
Nta
Get a mini fridge for your room to keep your food in.
He stole your food. He needs to buy food for his own son. WTH?!
NTA
I wouldn’t even describe this as being “possessive” because it’s not like you are completely unwilling to share food. You just expect some common courtesy. Not only is Sam not extending that common courtesy to you, he’s also using his own son as an excuse not to. Sam sucks.
No way, NTA at all. He’s overstepping some pretty reasonable boundaries. He’s completely wrong.
I’m at the point where getting a response of ‘it’s not that deep’ is enough to make me cut someone out of my life forever. It’s dismissive assholery that serves only to DARVO, and is proof that whoever said it knew they were wrong and doesn’t care.
The only question is, does he supply you food? If it’s a two-way street, I could see it if he never brings you anything. It’s bad behavior. Not to mention that you’re a kid in a blended family…he should be on his best behavior to not upset you.
NTA. Your mom’s boyfriend sounds like a cheap mooch. It’s not your responsibility to feed his son.
It would be one thing if he brought you food and whatnot as often as he gave it away. NTA little buddy
Nta but this is something your mother needs to handle.
NTA. If it’s not a big deal, tell him that he should go get his own wings and fries.
NTA
You paid for the food. It’s your choice who gets it.
Sam is a freeloader.
NTA. Your food, your choice whether to share it. But probably better not to store it in the fridge as he will continue to do this unless your mom says something to change his mind.
“Joey doesn’t share food!”
Yeah NTA. Write your name on your stuff at the least. That probably won’t stop this but it will at least be clear as day to Sam that he’s stealing another kid’s food.
I like the idea of your having your own mini fridge.
Why is your mother letting her boyfriend steal food from her child?
Have you asked her why she is allowing this?
You are a child. You are her child. She is responsible for taking care of you first. Her boyfriend has a child. He is responsible for taking care of his child. She needs to step up and protect you, her child.
I am possessive about food THAT I BOUGHT indeed!!
So, pay up bud, so I can replace this.
What does your mom say about that? Is she sticking up for you?
NTA
Food or snacks that my husband and I buy is for the household. Food or snacks that one of our kids buy with their own money (that they get from us ofcourse, they only have allowance, no job yet)…. We sometimes buy from them lol if we want a snack but see that someone bought a tasty snack. We ask, and if it’s okay we pay for it or replace it.
It isn’t nice, it’s weird at the very least and like he’s trying to stake some kind of possessive claim over the house.
Talk to your mother about how being treated this way makes you feel insecure in your own home. (Insecure meaning literally not secure – because you shouldn’t have to be guarding food you bought for yourself like this.)
NTA
Give him a bill for the cost of the lost food. he can pay for the theft
Not the asshole, at all. He needs to buy the food to feed his son, not you
NTA he’s a dad who takes from a 16 yr old to feed his son. He’s an ahole and horrible father. Take it up with your mother and lock your food down. Feeding his kid is his responsibility not yours.
He sounds like a lazy parent. Is it hard for him to just make a sandwich for his kid?
It seems like you’d be okay with sharing if he’d ask. As an adult, he should possess the skills and respect to be able to do that. NTA.
NTA it’s not YOUR job to feed HIS child. Sounds like some lazy, freeloader ass shit.
Time to start taking his food and giving it away
NTA. Your leftovers belonged to you. You are not being unreasonable to ask him to ask you first. It really sucks when you expect to have something easy to eat and someone else ate it before you got to it. Adults doing this to someone who is underage just because they are an adult and you are not is ridiculous. This isn’t about not sharing. This is about someone taking your things without asking.
NTA! You are not being possessive over food, you are asking for people to show common decency and use their, as I used to refer to them with my kids, “good words“ and ask for what they want from you. That’s called being a decent fucking human being.
DFHB Club application has been rejected for this so-called grown man
NTA it’s not called sharing when they don’t ask, it’s called stealing.
NTA.
You could try writing Do Not Eat on your containers. In our house, if your name is on it, no one is supposed to eat any of it without asking. If no name is on it, it’s up for grabs. You could also ask your step dad if he wants to pay for something for Sam when you are picking up something to bring home.
Your step dad is being a jerk about this and I’m sorry he is unreasonable
NTA. He should feed his own son with his own money if “its not really a big deal”. Sounds like you’ll need a mini fridge for your own room now.
I would get a dorm fridge for my room.
what does your mother say when you tell about him stealing your food
NTA How embarrassing for him and sad for his son that he takes care and consideration around is own food but just feeds his kid whatever is already available. Like a pet.
If you stop brining any food into the house, does he feed his kid out of his own food? Do what you can when you can to take control back here. Look up solutions for people whose roommates steal their food. There are a ton of products out there that fit into the fridge as well as a mini fridge.
Try not to get mad. Just quietly do what you need to do for yourself and any fallout should be dealt with by your mom.