Yes, while I was unhealthy & having heart Arythmia so the Universe really gave me a cold one here but it was a sign to better my health tbh. We don’t talk anymore but I use it as a lesson now, always be prepared or lose it
My current partner was for the first few years. It was fun, but sometimes man you just want to sleep in the morning you know. But then you throw in a child, age, real life and start to feel pretty nostalgic for the days when you’d be late for things because you’d be fucking.
She wanted to get pregnant and I wore a condom all the time.
She would be wanting it all the time. After awhile I was going broke buying condoms and getting motel rooms.
Sigh… Yes, in college, I was dating someone who wanted it all of the time. It was great. I was also her first. But I was an idiot and felt like that was all we did and broke it off. Instead, I should have expressed that I wanted more than just that and worked on it. But oh well. We were young, it probably wouldn’t have lasted anyway, and I’m happily married now anyway.
A few times. I’m supposedly pretty good at sex, I think because I have a lot of empathy, enjoy giving pleasure, and always make sure she has at least one orgasm. That’s apparently sort of rare with men. I’m not small while also not being so big that it hurts her. You’ll know you did good when her legs are trembling so hard she can barely walk after. My last ex wanted to stay fwb after we broke up. I guess it can be hard to find a guy who actually cares about the woman’s pleasure.
My sex drive isn’t super high though, I’m good with once every day or two which makes it hard to keep up if she wants multiple times a day. Women tend to not take being rejected for sex very well at all in my experience. It makes them feel bad/angry/annoyed/not pretty enough/etc which is the worst part about having a lower sex drive than your girlfriend. I wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of men are the same way when they get rejected for sex though, it’s not something people tend to like. Sometimes you do it just to make her happy even if you aren’t in the mood.
My wife. I’m on Sertraline so it’s hard to keep up with her, but I’m slowly weening off of it (lowered my dose from 200mg to 150mg last month). My sex drive has already improved but man, I got a long way to go to be caught up to her lol
Ex girlfriend, not complaining because it was the best sex of my life but geez there were times where I was so thankful she had passed out drunk so I could just chill for a while. She also once gave me a BJ for a solid hour while driving because “what else am I supposed to do”.
There’s been periods where my gfs drive was way higher than mines which is already high but I NEVER complained about it considering that’s some men’s dream
I had a brief relationship with someone with an insatiable drive. The first few times we had sex it lasted 8-12 hours. After a few weeks she would fall asleep satisfied after about two hours at night. In a day we would have sex 2-3 times.
Once. I should have married her. I remember laying face down in bed as a defense mechanism and she’d reach her hand under to grab me to get me going again. I was pretty much in pain because we had done it so much and it made me angry at the time. We fought, and did it again.
We were at my family’s house and I didn’t want to do it because my family was in the other room and it made me uncomfortable. She got mad and I fucked her angry quietly. We broke up 4 times but kept crawling back because we couldn’t stop seeing each other. It was like drugs. Honestly I don’t recommend.
It’s not a problem until they start getting bitchy. Then my sex drive goes down cause you know, who want to have sex with someone who’s mean to them. It turns into a positive feed back loop until the relationship ends.
She’d wake me up a 4am, and the first thing I saw every morning was her boobs in my face
Nice, right ? Not for long.
After a week, you begin to be dry. Tired. Exhausted.
Then, you realise that for her you’re just a meat stick. You don’t want ? She’ll use you as a dildo. It hurts ? She doesn’t care. Then you don’t get any pleasure anymore because you’re just numb, and she doesn’t care : all she cares about is her pleasure.
(Side note : this is generally what women live, so think about it)
I ended up breaking up with her but we stayed in touch and sometimes, we went to swingers clubs together, as the only way to get her satisfied for a while was for her to be in a threesome or gangbang, and she trusted in me to be able to select guys that wouldn’t treat her badly.
One day, she finally met a guy with a sex drive as high as hers and now they’re married, have children and a soundproofed bedroom
Was dating this girl that always wanted sex. I didn’t always want sex, but I’d agree to have it when she wanted (most of the time) because I knew it was what she wanted.
Funny enough, she was the only woman I ever faked an orgasm with (I just wanted to be done already after so long of having sex… she had finished a few times before then)
Never, it was always me who was too driven, I’ve calmed down as I’ve gotten older but when I was younger I’d go over to my gfs place we’d bang like 4-5 times over a few hours and then I’d go home and jerk off.
People are joking in this thread, but I’ve dated one person who could probably be diagnosed with a sex addiction, and it wasn’t great. The sex itself was fun, but realistically, that’s less than 10% of the time you spend in a relationship, even in the early horny days. When we went out, she’d be scrolling her phone through videos of her sexcapades, hoping somebody would look over her shoulder. It was all she wanted to talk about. And when we got off the sex topic, stuff got dark. We made it about a month before I had to end it. But the first time we met she blew me four times in four hours… so I guess that’s cool? It’s fun in the short term, but you can tell the long term is doomed.
I’m a sex addict, so her drive being high wasn’t the issue. The problem was her timing and desire over-riding her common sense.
She wanted it the most first thing when she woke up and she wanted it so badly she just wouldn’t bother waking me first. I love sex but waking up with her on top of me was just a bit… unnerving. Best I could figure was it removed my ability to control climax and she wasn’t on BC but it really bothered me. When she decided her desire for sex was more important than my feelings I was just done.
No, because I was still able to… match her needs. But yes, because she had NPD, which came with a side of what’s called Histrionic disorder. It basically was like one of those people who didn’t have a filter, but with sex(uality). She was both a unicorn and bi, which obviously was cool, but half the time would wear the most revealing outfits in public. Also she could (and would) sexualize *everything.* From a banana while shopping together at Target to filling up her cup with soda at McDonald’s, everything was accompanied by simulated sex or a verbal moan/joke/etc. I can remember maybe only to times where she didn’t strip completely naked within two minutes of being in my apartment for the entire day or night (she was one of those women who “didn’t like wearing clothes”). Again, all cool, but sometimes you just want to chill and watch a movie without her doing nude yoga in front of the TV.
Overly long story short, I ended up dumping her because again, I eventually learned she had NPD, and I’m not sure I would wish a relationship with that on my worst enemy. It took two protection petitions (restraining orders) and a lawsuit after she burglarized my place to get her away from me.
It’s only ever happened once and it was annoying. If it was the weekend, she basically wanted to have sex 5+ times a day. If she could get me hard, she wanted to go again. I would be sore and have literally nothing left in the tank…and she’d be disappointed if I couldn’t come.
I love having sex but that’s not how I want to spend my whole weekend. I have hobbies and shit.
My opinion is that she can’t have one that is too high so long as if you aren’t having sex with her as often as she would like, it doesn’t result in her being angry fighting or accusations (real accusations, that is. Jokes are fine) that you don’t love her/don’t find her attractive, or being used as an excuse to step out on you.
One of my ex’s had a sex drive much higher than mine, and all 3 of the things i mentioned above were a recurring problem and she even would sometimes hit me until i conceded and slept with her and it made life hell. Meanwhile my current partner has a higher drive than me, but none of those problems exist in our relationship aside from her making light hearted jokes about it which are honestly alright with me.
Yep, years ago i dated a girl who wanted sex daily. we were both in our late 20s, so we had some energy. I am fine with once a day, but she kept insisting on two or three times. I couldn’t keep up honestly, i can never do 3 times, my penis won’t stand up, even if the desire is there and im horny. So she started to get upset that I couldn’t keep up and eventually she met someone else and broke up with me
Yeah I had one relationship like this. It was great when it was great but when it was 3am and I’m waking up to her sucking my dick because she needed it, that was also great lol. Seriously though, sometimes you need the sleep.
My current gf is nearly a decade younger than me and has a wild sex drive, my sex drive isn’t what it used to be but I try to keep up. She understands but still is a little let down when I tell her no. I can’t fuck every night anymore bruh.
My last partner was exactly this. And of course, when I couldn’t keep up, it was because I was “fucking someone else” (I wasn’t).
She couldn’t fathom I just didn’t want to do it sometimes, and it was always a huge issue. God forbid if I sighed on the one occasion that she said no. Then it’s all, “No means no, and you need to respect that.”
But because OTHER GUYS want sex 24/7, it’s something wrong with me when my body says no.
I thought I had an std and went to see the doctor (we had recently had a friend of hers join us) turns out it was a friction burn and hours of sex day after day don’t give your Johnson the time to heal. The doctor took some pictures to send to dermatology and he and the nurse more or less laughed me out of the room telling me to take it easy.
My college girlfriend had several red flags, but the kicker was her lack of awareness/understanding of my needs. She wanted to bang most every day and sometimes twice. A session would last about an hour on average. Eventually I showed her that my dick was bruised and inflamed and I asked her for us to take a break from the sex. She was still blowing me the next morning “because that’s not sex”
I went from a deadbed room with my first gf to my now wife which must have been the largest change recorded in human history. My ex and I had sex maybe 7-10 times over 4 years. We broke up and I started dating my wife. She was insatiable. I was over the moon after always wanting sex but not wanting to make my ex upset.
I kept up with her for a glorious month and then I started getting worn down. We would go 2-3 times in a row and she would still want more. We found a compromise to try for every night and she found a vibrator.
As I got older my job got more stressful and I was up for once a week. It started causing issues between us and we got a sex therapist. It was hard for me to communicate with her because internally I always felt I should say yes but I physically couldn’t. This made me start resenting sex. Which created a whole set of other issues that led to us not having sex for months.
In the end we actually tried non monogamy and she found a partner and tbh to my surprise it actually worked well after getting through jealousy and stuff. Our marriage is really good now and we started having sex more and it’s better than it’s ever been.
Yes! It was good at points but it became complex when I said no. It opened up a huge can of worms when it came to her self worth and emotional state. She used sex as a coping mechanism to take her out of her current emotional state and that was really tough when we were going through shared grief.
She would hate me for periods because I said no and that was her believing she wasn’t attractive or good enough.
It was only when we broke up that I saw that there was times where it was genuine but there was a lot of times where I was just used as her coping mechanism or validation without much regard for me.
Lol I love how I found this thread after I just wrote down a whole list of “sex coupon” ideas for my husband for fun. I, like other females with this issue, have enjoyed reading the comments. I will say that when I get too horny, the vibrator works just fine. 😂
The two girls I’ve dated that come to mind only had high sex drives when they were self conscious. So they’d wanna smash in the bathroom at a party after a girl looked at me, or after a night out when their friends get hit on they’d come to my place after. That sort of “high sex drive” was not fun because it never felt like it was about me or us, it was always about them
My ex wife. We both had a high sex drive and it was awesome. Whole days where that’s all we did but we both come from abusive families. The longer we were together the more we recognized and healed our own traumas. This lead to lower sex drives but we got really good as sex after five years so when it happened it was good. Unfortunately, as we healed we were finally becoming our authentic selves and who we each were under all our trauma was not compatible. It was like our mental illnesses liked each other and once we started to heal we lost connection.
Wish I had figured it out before she cheated on me but these things happen. Nothing is forever.
being a woman with a high sex drive and multitude of weird kinks is hard. everyone wants you on the paper, but in reality just a couple of them can really catch up to the quality and quantity you want.
a lot of men think they have high sex drive, when in reality they have an average drive with a lack of sex. once they catch up on that, they get quite mild.
I have and honestly, it’s exhausting. People, men and women, who claim they NEED sex everyday or multiple times a day usually have some underlying issues they are coping for. Sure, there’s people who have higher libido than others. But we have to be careful not to blame our compulsive desire for sex on libido alone because it could potentially rob ourselves from the opportunity to learn what’s actually driving the behavior.
On the receiving end, it creates an immense amount of pressure to constantly be ready and perform. You might be ridiculed for your masculinity if you can’t keep up. You might get accused of losing feelings. You have to deal with the disappointment that comes from needing a break or worry if her needs are being met elsewhere.
Don’t get me wrong. Sex is such a beautiful exchange of pleasure and emotion. But it can lose its spark when it transforms from an expression of love to some sort of obligation that your partner throws upon you to feel emotionally secure because they haven’t figured out other ways of dealing with and healing their unmet, or sometimes unrealized, emotional wounds.
I’ve always been the one with the high sex drive. 😔 It’s torture because I know they’re tired, but torture for me because I have to go solo until they’re finally in the mood (2 weeks+). It’s like I’m understanding, but also frustrated because I get so depressed from lack of. I try to calm myself down, but there’s only so much I can do. 😭
She ran away from all of her problems and her place to go was naughty time. She was… barely able to function. The though of having to open a mail could throw her either into a panic attack or super horny mode.
My ex was crazy for it. She lived about forty mins drive away, when she wasn’t with me and banging she was sending me videos all day long at any chance she could. She’d send me videos of herself in her car before work, on her lunch break, in her car on the way home, in the bath, the shower. Then when she’d get to mine it’d be constant, when I was cooling off she’d be going at herself if she wasn’t asking me to.
It use to be the only thing she could think of or talk about too, you name it we did it. It was great for a while but I’m glad we’re not together now, if she didn’t get sex she’d turn slightly psychotic and when on her period borderline fucking mental.
In my experience, the women in my life have all had higher sex drives. I really think theyre more sexual than men really. perhaps the societal thing / religion/ shame that keeps them on the downlow about it
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yes. it was the best. there were drawbacks though.
Yes, while I was unhealthy & having heart Arythmia so the Universe really gave me a cold one here but it was a sign to better my health tbh. We don’t talk anymore but I use it as a lesson now, always be prepared or lose it
Yeah, every one of my ex-wives had a super high sex drive.
It was so high they all needed to sleep with a bunch of other guys besides me!
I tell ya, I don’t get no respect.
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No respect at all!
Yes. She wore me out😂. High sex drive, and a crazy head game (makes you throw up gang signs with your toes
No such thing. Death by snu-snu!
That’s the only kind of women there are just make sure you’re shifting into at least a forward gear instead of reverse or neutral
I hope to one day have this problem
Usually they have some emotional trauma driving it… My experience at least
My current gf
My current partner was for the first few years. It was fun, but sometimes man you just want to sleep in the morning you know. But then you throw in a child, age, real life and start to feel pretty nostalgic for the days when you’d be late for things because you’d be fucking.
Yes
She wanted to get pregnant and I wore a condom all the time.
She would be wanting it all the time. After awhile I was going broke buying condoms and getting motel rooms.
people be like wow so lucky to have one, but never realize how tiring it is and your energy literally being drain like how succubus suck men dry
Sigh… Yes, in college, I was dating someone who wanted it all of the time. It was great. I was also her first. But I was an idiot and felt like that was all we did and broke it off. Instead, I should have expressed that I wanted more than just that and worked on it. But oh well. We were young, it probably wouldn’t have lasted anyway, and I’m happily married now anyway.
No, but I have been with a man who did. Fella was insatiable.
Current GF. No complaints except sometimes I do want to go out and do other things. lol. We make plans but end up in bed all day.
A few times. I’m supposedly pretty good at sex, I think because I have a lot of empathy, enjoy giving pleasure, and always make sure she has at least one orgasm. That’s apparently sort of rare with men. I’m not small while also not being so big that it hurts her. You’ll know you did good when her legs are trembling so hard she can barely walk after. My last ex wanted to stay fwb after we broke up. I guess it can be hard to find a guy who actually cares about the woman’s pleasure.
My sex drive isn’t super high though, I’m good with once every day or two which makes it hard to keep up if she wants multiple times a day. Women tend to not take being rejected for sex very well at all in my experience. It makes them feel bad/angry/annoyed/not pretty enough/etc which is the worst part about having a lower sex drive than your girlfriend. I wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of men are the same way when they get rejected for sex though, it’s not something people tend to like. Sometimes you do it just to make her happy even if you aren’t in the mood.
My wife. I’m on Sertraline so it’s hard to keep up with her, but I’m slowly weening off of it (lowered my dose from 200mg to 150mg last month). My sex drive has already improved but man, I got a long way to go to be caught up to her lol
Oh hell yeah! Like waking up in the morning she’s down on you and then ride you
Ex girlfriend, not complaining because it was the best sex of my life but geez there were times where I was so thankful she had passed out drunk so I could just chill for a while. She also once gave me a BJ for a solid hour while driving because “what else am I supposed to do”.
Yes but I think I’m the asexual spectrum so it’s not hard for that to be true
One of my ex girlfriends used to fuck other guys behind my back. She never got enough.
There’s been periods where my gfs drive was way higher than mines which is already high but I NEVER complained about it considering that’s some men’s dream
I had a brief relationship with someone with an insatiable drive. The first few times we had sex it lasted 8-12 hours. After a few weeks she would fall asleep satisfied after about two hours at night. In a day we would have sex 2-3 times.
Once. I should have married her. I remember laying face down in bed as a defense mechanism and she’d reach her hand under to grab me to get me going again. I was pretty much in pain because we had done it so much and it made me angry at the time. We fought, and did it again.
We were at my family’s house and I didn’t want to do it because my family was in the other room and it made me uncomfortable. She got mad and I fucked her angry quietly. We broke up 4 times but kept crawling back because we couldn’t stop seeing each other. It was like drugs. Honestly I don’t recommend.
Not in a long time. Everyone of them taught me to appreciate the power of a woman.
My ex was borderline a nymphomaniac
You ever have a sore dick from it being overused? It’s more painful then you are thinking
Every single one.
It’s not a problem until they start getting bitchy. Then my sex drive goes down cause you know, who want to have sex with someone who’s mean to them. It turns into a positive feed back loop until the relationship ends.
Not a man… but as a woman I have had a higher sex drive than all my male partners lol
Yep.
My first gf
It was nice at the beginning, really
She wanted to have sex 5 rimes a day
We would miss classes to go home
She’d wake me up a 4am, and the first thing I saw every morning was her boobs in my face
Nice, right ? Not for long.
After a week, you begin to be dry. Tired. Exhausted.
Then, you realise that for her you’re just a meat stick. You don’t want ? She’ll use you as a dildo. It hurts ? She doesn’t care. Then you don’t get any pleasure anymore because you’re just numb, and she doesn’t care : all she cares about is her pleasure.
(Side note : this is generally what women live, so think about it)
I ended up breaking up with her but we stayed in touch and sometimes, we went to swingers clubs together, as the only way to get her satisfied for a while was for her to be in a threesome or gangbang, and she trusted in me to be able to select guys that wouldn’t treat her badly.
One day, she finally met a guy with a sex drive as high as hers and now they’re married, have children and a soundproofed bedroom
legit made me feel bad about my refractory period lol
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No but I wish
Was dating this girl that always wanted sex. I didn’t always want sex, but I’d agree to have it when she wanted (most of the time) because I knew it was what she wanted.
Funny enough, she was the only woman I ever faked an orgasm with (I just wanted to be done already after so long of having sex… she had finished a few times before then)
Yeah. First night we went until 4 AM. Nonstop for hours. Insanity. No limits.
Never, it was always me who was too driven, I’ve calmed down as I’ve gotten older but when I was younger I’d go over to my gfs place we’d bang like 4-5 times over a few hours and then I’d go home and jerk off.
People are joking in this thread, but I’ve dated one person who could probably be diagnosed with a sex addiction, and it wasn’t great. The sex itself was fun, but realistically, that’s less than 10% of the time you spend in a relationship, even in the early horny days. When we went out, she’d be scrolling her phone through videos of her sexcapades, hoping somebody would look over her shoulder. It was all she wanted to talk about. And when we got off the sex topic, stuff got dark. We made it about a month before I had to end it. But the first time we met she blew me four times in four hours… so I guess that’s cool? It’s fun in the short term, but you can tell the long term is doomed.
I did a few years ago. Taking her to pound town gave her more energy. I just wanna sleep, babeh.
Absolutely. I’m old now, 40+, and my wife changed her medication up. She got off something that was depressing her libido.
Two weeks later I was seriously wondering if my dick was gonna fall off from overuse. I could not keep up.
Thankfully things leveled out a bit and things returned to a place I could keep up with, while still being more often than it was before the med swap.
I’m a sex addict, so her drive being high wasn’t the issue. The problem was her timing and desire over-riding her common sense.
She wanted it the most first thing when she woke up and she wanted it so badly she just wouldn’t bother waking me first. I love sex but waking up with her on top of me was just a bit… unnerving. Best I could figure was it removed my ability to control climax and she wasn’t on BC but it really bothered me. When she decided her desire for sex was more important than my feelings I was just done.
Yes and no.
No, because I was still able to… match her needs. But yes, because she had NPD, which came with a side of what’s called Histrionic disorder. It basically was like one of those people who didn’t have a filter, but with sex(uality). She was both a unicorn and bi, which obviously was cool, but half the time would wear the most revealing outfits in public. Also she could (and would) sexualize *everything.* From a banana while shopping together at Target to filling up her cup with soda at McDonald’s, everything was accompanied by simulated sex or a verbal moan/joke/etc. I can remember maybe only to times where she didn’t strip completely naked within two minutes of being in my apartment for the entire day or night (she was one of those women who “didn’t like wearing clothes”). Again, all cool, but sometimes you just want to chill and watch a movie without her doing nude yoga in front of the TV.
Overly long story short, I ended up dumping her because again, I eventually learned she had NPD, and I’m not sure I would wish a relationship with that on my worst enemy. It took two protection petitions (restraining orders) and a lawsuit after she burglarized my place to get her away from me.
My BF says that I’m too high on sex drive I have to control my lust 🙃 even though we stay all day together but I still crave for it…
No 😔, I’ve always had the higher sex drive
It’s only ever happened once and it was annoying. If it was the weekend, she basically wanted to have sex 5+ times a day. If she could get me hard, she wanted to go again. I would be sore and have literally nothing left in the tank…and she’d be disappointed if I couldn’t come.
I love having sex but that’s not how I want to spend my whole weekend. I have hobbies and shit.
My opinion is that she can’t have one that is too high so long as if you aren’t having sex with her as often as she would like, it doesn’t result in her being angry fighting or accusations (real accusations, that is. Jokes are fine) that you don’t love her/don’t find her attractive, or being used as an excuse to step out on you.
One of my ex’s had a sex drive much higher than mine, and all 3 of the things i mentioned above were a recurring problem and she even would sometimes hit me until i conceded and slept with her and it made life hell. Meanwhile my current partner has a higher drive than me, but none of those problems exist in our relationship aside from her making light hearted jokes about it which are honestly alright with me.
As a woman with a high sex drive.. I’ve throughly enjoyed reading the comments.
Yep, years ago i dated a girl who wanted sex daily. we were both in our late 20s, so we had some energy. I am fine with once a day, but she kept insisting on two or three times. I couldn’t keep up honestly, i can never do 3 times, my penis won’t stand up, even if the desire is there and im horny. So she started to get upset that I couldn’t keep up and eventually she met someone else and broke up with me
Maybe? At a certain point I think it got old hearing “you’re so attractive “, “you’re so handsome “ etc.
Yeah I had one relationship like this. It was great when it was great but when it was 3am and I’m waking up to her sucking my dick because she needed it, that was also great lol. Seriously though, sometimes you need the sleep.
Kind of … Dated a woman who said she hadn’t met anyone who could keep up with her … I did.
My superpower is not having to wait between rounds, lol
My current gf is nearly a decade younger than me and has a wild sex drive, my sex drive isn’t what it used to be but I try to keep up. She understands but still is a little let down when I tell her no. I can’t fuck every night anymore bruh.
My last partner was exactly this. And of course, when I couldn’t keep up, it was because I was “fucking someone else” (I wasn’t).
She couldn’t fathom I just didn’t want to do it sometimes, and it was always a huge issue. God forbid if I sighed on the one occasion that she said no. Then it’s all, “No means no, and you need to respect that.”
But because OTHER GUYS want sex 24/7, it’s something wrong with me when my body says no.
I thought I had an std and went to see the doctor (we had recently had a friend of hers join us) turns out it was a friction burn and hours of sex day after day don’t give your Johnson the time to heal. The doctor took some pictures to send to dermatology and he and the nurse more or less laughed me out of the room telling me to take it easy.
My college girlfriend had several red flags, but the kicker was her lack of awareness/understanding of my needs. She wanted to bang most every day and sometimes twice. A session would last about an hour on average. Eventually I showed her that my dick was bruised and inflamed and I asked her for us to take a break from the sex. She was still blowing me the next morning “because that’s not sex”
I went from a deadbed room with my first gf to my now wife which must have been the largest change recorded in human history. My ex and I had sex maybe 7-10 times over 4 years. We broke up and I started dating my wife. She was insatiable. I was over the moon after always wanting sex but not wanting to make my ex upset.
I kept up with her for a glorious month and then I started getting worn down. We would go 2-3 times in a row and she would still want more. We found a compromise to try for every night and she found a vibrator.
As I got older my job got more stressful and I was up for once a week. It started causing issues between us and we got a sex therapist. It was hard for me to communicate with her because internally I always felt I should say yes but I physically couldn’t. This made me start resenting sex. Which created a whole set of other issues that led to us not having sex for months.
In the end we actually tried non monogamy and she found a partner and tbh to my surprise it actually worked well after getting through jealousy and stuff. Our marriage is really good now and we started having sex more and it’s better than it’s ever been.
Yes! It was good at points but it became complex when I said no. It opened up a huge can of worms when it came to her self worth and emotional state. She used sex as a coping mechanism to take her out of her current emotional state and that was really tough when we were going through shared grief.
She would hate me for periods because I said no and that was her believing she wasn’t attractive or good enough.
It was only when we broke up that I saw that there was times where it was genuine but there was a lot of times where I was just used as her coping mechanism or validation without much regard for me.
Lol I love how I found this thread after I just wrote down a whole list of “sex coupon” ideas for my husband for fun. I, like other females with this issue, have enjoyed reading the comments. I will say that when I get too horny, the vibrator works just fine. 😂
The two girls I’ve dated that come to mind only had high sex drives when they were self conscious. So they’d wanna smash in the bathroom at a party after a girl looked at me, or after a night out when their friends get hit on they’d come to my place after. That sort of “high sex drive” was not fun because it never felt like it was about me or us, it was always about them
Ohh no, that sounds awful
My ex wife. We both had a high sex drive and it was awesome. Whole days where that’s all we did but we both come from abusive families. The longer we were together the more we recognized and healed our own traumas. This lead to lower sex drives but we got really good as sex after five years so when it happened it was good. Unfortunately, as we healed we were finally becoming our authentic selves and who we each were under all our trauma was not compatible. It was like our mental illnesses liked each other and once we started to heal we lost connection.
Wish I had figured it out before she cheated on me but these things happen. Nothing is forever.
Yes. She wanted it everywhere all the time, it was great. Til I found out she wanted it everywhere all the time even if I wasnt there.
being a woman with a high sex drive and multitude of weird kinks is hard. everyone wants you on the paper, but in reality just a couple of them can really catch up to the quality and quantity you want.
a lot of men think they have high sex drive, when in reality they have an average drive with a lack of sex. once they catch up on that, they get quite mild.
I have and honestly, it’s exhausting. People, men and women, who claim they NEED sex everyday or multiple times a day usually have some underlying issues they are coping for. Sure, there’s people who have higher libido than others. But we have to be careful not to blame our compulsive desire for sex on libido alone because it could potentially rob ourselves from the opportunity to learn what’s actually driving the behavior.
On the receiving end, it creates an immense amount of pressure to constantly be ready and perform. You might be ridiculed for your masculinity if you can’t keep up. You might get accused of losing feelings. You have to deal with the disappointment that comes from needing a break or worry if her needs are being met elsewhere.
Don’t get me wrong. Sex is such a beautiful exchange of pleasure and emotion. But it can lose its spark when it transforms from an expression of love to some sort of obligation that your partner throws upon you to feel emotionally secure because they haven’t figured out other ways of dealing with and healing their unmet, or sometimes unrealized, emotional wounds.
I feel like my bf thinks this about me, I ask for it everyday. A lot of men like it in theory but can never keep up.
I’ve always been the one with the high sex drive. 😔 It’s torture because I know they’re tired, but torture for me because I have to go solo until they’re finally in the mood (2 weeks+). It’s like I’m understanding, but also frustrated because I get so depressed from lack of. I try to calm myself down, but there’s only so much I can do. 😭
My wife when she was in depression.
She ran away from all of her problems and her place to go was naughty time. She was… barely able to function. The though of having to open a mail could throw her either into a panic attack or super horny mode.
She got better.
My ex was crazy for it. She lived about forty mins drive away, when she wasn’t with me and banging she was sending me videos all day long at any chance she could. She’d send me videos of herself in her car before work, on her lunch break, in her car on the way home, in the bath, the shower. Then when she’d get to mine it’d be constant, when I was cooling off she’d be going at herself if she wasn’t asking me to.
It use to be the only thing she could think of or talk about too, you name it we did it. It was great for a while but I’m glad we’re not together now, if she didn’t get sex she’d turn slightly psychotic and when on her period borderline fucking mental.
In my experience, the women in my life have all had higher sex drives. I really think theyre more sexual than men really. perhaps the societal thing / religion/ shame that keeps them on the downlow about it