I’m 23F generally pretty attractive. My friends have been encouraging me lately to approach men more in bars/parties/etc. how do men like to be approached, is there an instance that this won’t be well received?
How do men like to be approached?
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I’m 23F generally pretty attractive. My friends have been encouraging me lately to approach men more in bars/parties/etc. how do men like to be approached, is there an instance that this won’t be well received?
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A simple hi would suffice most of the times.
Most men would be floored a woman is approaching them, you can’t really do it wrong lol
As long as the approach doesn’t start with “Hey asshole” with a pointing finger, – it’s all good.
Depends on the person.
For me, I like when it seems like a curiosity type of thing. Where we are striking up basic conversation. Gives me a chance to get a feel for you. The type of conversation that leads to planning some sort of hangout or get together another day, not the type of conversation that ends in us getting frisky somewhere that night. Genuine interest in me is far more attractive than essentially seeking out some dick for the night. Plenty of those to go around.
If you are straight to the explicit/flirtatious aspect of it, I think you are someone who talks to anyone like this. You lose all romantic value and strictly fall into the discretionary category of if I’m even horny enough to go for a promiscuous stranger (I am almost never interested in a stranger).
Buy him a drink and ask for his number. Trust me, it really works on us.
Smile and say hi, I am no dummy.
Smile and say hi, that should be enough for most guys
We like to be approached the same way as you do. A simple hi, how are you? Anything casual is fine. If you think he is attractive, say so. As men we do not get a lot of compliments in the first place. So one very well placed one will win us over pretty easily
I’m more than certain just approaching and hi will do
I’ve traveled globally for 40 years. Seen it all. Just go up, introduce yourself and either compliment him on something or ask a question. “Hi, I’m Beth. I really like your denim jacket. I wish more men would wear them. Where did you get it?”
Just be normal.
Simple and direct is the best approach for us. If there is any room for uncertainty we err on the side the side of “she’s just being nice”
I hardly ever get approached. It is a nice feeling, shows the woman has confidence. A simple hi and a compliment should be a great conversation starter
Haha approach anyway you want just don’t go up to someone the second you see his girlfriend go to the bathroom
Similar to the way girls like to be approached, in that the guy shows he’s “safe”. Guys don’t get approached, so when a woman approaches a guy, the guy’s first thought is: “is she trying to sell me something or want me to join her cult”. Fair or unfair, you need to show you’re interested in him and you’re not trying to scam him.
One of the best ways you can approach a guy is compliment him, like his shirt or an accessory he has.
It will generally never be badly received, but my only caution to you is that men are often suspicious of women who approach aggressively. We get approached by women looking for things sometimes. I’ve been approached by prostitutes and on rare occasions I’ve been approached by some girl just looking for fun. If you don’t want to give off the…wait is she a prostitute vibe?…just start a little slower. Don’t go in all…hey sailor whatcha drinkin?! How’s about ya buy me a drink?…please don’t ask the guy to buy you something to start things off. Just hello, something about the venue – hi, yeah I came here with my dumb friends. I don’t really like goat impaler, but they said I HAD to come with them – that will be fine.
Make eye contact, smile, if I smile back (and it’s rare that I wouldn’t) stroll on over and introduce yourself.
“Hello. Would you like your dick sucked sometime today or this week?”
Simple and direct. Im way past my finest point, but had a lady ask me ( in French, je suis au qc) what my nationality was, then she said I should lessons on being fine. Was like damn, thank you
Men are like bumblebees – we’re more scared of you than you are of us. Don’t make any loud noises or sudden movements and you’ll probably be fine.
Shoot your shot OP.
Just go up to the guy, introduce yourself, give him a compliment, and see if he’s interested in going out on a date. Most guys appreciate women putting in effort and making the first move so your chances are high.
Guessing OPs mailbox is full of approaches now lol
Edit: make sure to post the best ones in r/niceguys
Yes, but be straight forward with what you’re looking for.
For me I’ve been screwed over a lot by girls. I would say bars and parties are not the best way to find someone that is worth your time. But personally with my trust issues I would rather be friends first then have you ask. If you ask for a snap or insta that’s a red flag and I don’t have those. My fiancé just did everything right and is open and honest with her feelings so that also helps
Generally anything is fine. Most will be happy you even tried
The obvious ones are if they are drunk, busy or already irritated
Bringing a beer and I’m all yours. 💞
“Hi, I like the way you look/dance/stand”
Bold, Direct, and Confident.
But honestly, it happens so rarely that when it does, I look around like “is this a joke? Am I on camera somewhere? What is she selling?”
I like it when they’re shy and trying their best to keep composure.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a guy or a girl, your first interaction usually isn’t going to be perfect.