Divorced men of Reddit, what’s something your wife didn’t do that could have saved the whole relationship?
Divorced men of Reddit, what’s something your wife didn’t do that could have saved the whole relationship?
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Divorced men of Reddit, what’s something your wife didn’t do that could have saved the whole relationship?
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Me.
Loved me for who I am, not for who she wanted me to be. Admitted that she had mental health problems instead of claiming everything was my fault. Realize that I’m not here father and she’s not her mother. Told me, before marriage, that sex was only to have children and not for pleasure.
Nothing, I just ended up really disliking her.
Got out of bed and lived life. She sure has since the divorce.
Kept her word. Assumed accountability and responsibility for her actions.
Not had an uncontrollable temper. Not complain about me constantly.
Keep another man out of her pants.
Addressed her mental health
Just back off. Let me enjoy things without giving me shit.
Told me how she was feeling.
Couldn’t stay out of the casino.
Stop talking to her parents if she had a problem, before talking to me about it 🤷🏻♂️
Have self-awareness, compassion, grace, and empathy.
These qualities are now required from the get-go when I evaluate potential partners. If they don’t show these qualities within the first two dates I am not having a third. I ask questions aimed to allow her to reveal this.
As you get older, especially after a divorce, you come to realize how rare it is for someone to just be a good person. And when you have a good person beside you, they tend to also bring peace and happiness along with them.
She was a covert narcissist. So quit doing that..
Nothing. In time, we just grew apart. We grew into different people. At first we loved each other and we were right for each other. Eventually we weren’t. Fortunately, we were wise enough to recognize this and split up rather than try to force a lifetime together Beyond what made sense
Me
Being more direct, that she was unhappy and less interested king to leave. That we both stopped doing the small things for each other. That she didn’t feel like I was there for her.
So her complaining all the time was her trying to get any attention from me. Which guys do not understand.
We just don’t see it.
Before you close the door have a last shot talk or your leaving. Otherwise a guy feels sucker punched and you both have lost your last shot. Be straightforward, he won’t see it. Because of complacency.
It wasn’t worth it. I’m glad I’m done.
But… If she just sucked my dick all the time, and let me go do my thing from time to time, I would have stayed.
Oooh. A question i am qualified for.
1st marriage. She could have not opened our relationship without discussing it with me as well as addressing some mental issues she had. I wasn’t allowed to ask.
2nd marriage. Sex more than once every couple of years. Cared enough to see how I was doing mentally.
Yeah I know. It’s all me. Personally, I just dont care what anyone thinks anymore. That was when I was young. Who cares anymore.
Be remotely nice, appreciative, and not in a rush to have a list of material things by age 25. 🤷♂️
Communicate and not think her family were royalty.
Gluck gluck 3000
Tried to save it.
She didn’t want to save it, though. I asked what I could do to help our relationship, and she said, “Nothing, It’s over.”
Not pretended to be a lesbian for six months. Actually, that probably wouldn’t have mattered. I think our relationship ran it’s course, regardless.
My buddy’s wife absolutely refused to acknowledge & apologise when she was wrong and he became fed up at being the only one who made concessions to keep the peace.
He left. She’s now on her 3rd marriage. Sigh….
Stay away from cheating? That probably would’ve helped! She fell into the trap of seeking attention. She didn’t communicate with me and I am not a mind reader.
Try to use her brain
She could have taken the time to listen to me about how important the three for me at Chili’s is. Now, she’s homeless. #theholyhoneychipotletrinityislife
Saying sorry
It’s crazy reading these answers compared to the r/ask women version. Half of those answers were “he could’ve not beat the crap out of me “
Definitely could have done with less of the “fucking other dudes” part. And the drugs.
Fought for it
Greeted me with kindness when I came home, as if she was happy to see me
Communicate and making it all about her
She didn’t not sleep with the neighbor.
Lift a finger when i was working all day to provide for our family. Oh, and also not blow some random dude on a trip to her hometown.
Care about the relationship
My ex always had to be the victim or the hero. She frequently rewrote history in her head because she couldn’t be wrong.
Not accidentally having other men’s cocks enter her vagina.
TBH, nothing. I was done with it and didn’t love her any more… actually, if she had won the lottery I would’ve stayed.
Not cheat and steal
Treated me as an equal and not just the breadwinner
Communicate, compromise and have empathy.