Be it picking a better friend or a romantic partner. This is one narrative that I’m getting sick of online, that every bad friend or partner was just so cunning that you could never tell. The reality is that you CAN increase your chances of picking better people in your life by changing how you view what it means to be a good companion and sticking to those standards. Nothing is foolproof, but there’s nothing empowering about telling people who have been severely hurt by others that they just won’t be able to do anything about encountering a bad company again other than a reactive measure (leaving after the fact) as opposed to a proactive measure (choose people wisely).
And no, I don’t believe that most online advice accounts actually give any good advice about how to pick better people in your lives. These people just keep therapists in business.
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Yeah but that won’t impact the gender wars discussion because you’ll leave and go live your life, while the gender wars are fought by those who date terrible people or nobody.
You can, but a lot choose poorly and never accept accountability
More often than not when it comes to romantic partners people choose toxic qualities or they ignore toxic qualities due to attractiveness
Psychopaths Are More Attractive, Study Warns – Newsweek
Those who play games and use dark triad traits do well because of the reward cycle, it makes it exciting https://medium.com/illumination/critical-signs-youre-caught-in-an-intermittent-reward-relationship-acb65fd809c4
Women often complain about safety in regards to men, yet they go after criminals https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQR7L0_4K-U
https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/wildest-female-prison-officer-flings-35232320
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gw1SbBxx518
Yeah as a person who treats predatory sociopaths, you have no idea how clever they can be. I’mma say you are incorrect.
if i chose to pick better people off of the bad person i experienced in a relationship, i would be horrendously stereotyping those with similar interests, looks, hobbies, mannerisms, etc. i do that now because of the trauma which i’m trying to not do. i don’t want to assume something about something due to my own traumatic relationship, yet it seems that’s what you would want of us in order to pick better people?