I’ve noticed I’m only invited or talked to when others aren’t available. I rarely get included unless I reach out first. They can be chilling 5 mins from my home and they will not even bother reaching out to me so i can join. Tried to not call them or text them to see what they are going to do. 6 months passed without hearing ANYTHING from them. But whenever im chilling with them they seem to appreciate my company. So now im confused i dont know the reason for their actions.
I feel like everybody are apart of their group and im here all alone i know everybody but its like i camt be apart of any group.
Just wondering if other guys go through this and how you deal with it.
Guys, how do you deal with being the one who always has to reach out first?
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I’ve noticed I’m only invited or talked to when others aren’t available. I rarely get included unless I reach out first. They can be chilling 5 mins from my home and they will not even bother reaching out to me so i can join. Tried to not call them or text them to see what they are going to do. 6 months passed without hearing ANYTHING from them. But whenever im chilling with them they seem to appreciate my company. So now im confused i dont know the reason for their actions.
I feel like everybody are apart of their group and im here all alone i know everybody but its like i camt be apart of any group.
Just wondering if other guys go through this and how you deal with it.
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Eventually I stopped reaching out
Not saying it’s a bad/good thing but that’s how I lost many friends/dates
At the end I’m okay with that
Tiring, I stopped doing it. I don’t care anymore.
I DON’T
I’ve been in similar situations and one-sided friendships like this and I reflected on that today and realized you can’t make people love you, you gotta take care of yourself. I agree, you don’t have to reach out to people like that.
It’s fucking tiring!! Trying to stay friends as a guy is difficult especially once kids come along
I have been there. It sucked. I stopped reaching out. Found new people