I built a small app for myself to better understand my girlfriend’s moods and energy levels — mostly because I kept unintentionally doing or saying the wrong thing at the wrong time.
The idea is to (with her agreement) track her cycle and get small, respectful tips on how to show up better that day — like “today might be more sensitive,” or “great day to plan something fun.”
Now I’m wondering:
Does this come off as thoughtful or just over-involved?
Would you want your partner to do something like this?
Genuinely curious what people think. Not trying to pitch anything, just built it for myself and wondering if others see value in it or not.
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I built a small app for myself to better understand my girlfriend’s moods and energy levels — mostly because I kept unintentionally doing or saying the wrong thing at the wrong time.
The idea is to (with her agreement) track her cycle and get small, respectful tips on how to show up better that day — like “today might be more sensitive,” or “great day to plan something fun.”
Now I’m wondering:
Does this come off as thoughtful or just over-involved?
Would you want your partner to do something like this?
Genuinely curious what people think. Not trying to pitch anything, just built it for myself and wondering if others see value in it or not.
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She should run.
Hey(M21), bro in my opinion you are the fucking best LOL. This is one of the best ideas in my little life haha. this is not an exaggeration, its a great idea. Now we see you rly love her I guess.:DDD I know I never was in relationship but its a good idea
This isn’t improving communication, it’s reducing it and replacing it with technology. I think it’s a terrible idea.
The correct approach would be to build the type of trusting relationship where your girlfriend communicates with you openly and directly.
Would be interested in what sort of responses you’d get in r/AskWomen
I get public pushbacks from woman and private DM support from men 😂
I just don’t see how this is bad, since woman do use apps to track their own cycle,… if my idea is bad since I should feel my partner, then what are those apps for?
Brother if you need an app to deal with your partner you aren’t a good match
Tf is wrong with you , you got the good end of the deal , and you want to submerge yourself , you dodged a bullet just keep your head down , weirdo
I personally wouldn’t bother with an app for it, but I’ve always at least had an understanding of my gf’s cycles, and my g-f’s often find I have a rough idea of their cycles, which I guess is my inner app lol.
I’ve heard a lot of girls interested in app trackers that have the ability to share info, and with my previous ex we did look into something like this, but ultimately didn’t end up finding anything that gave her the benefits she already had, along with the sharing functionality.
That said, I also hear the polar opposite a lot, and exactly the responses you’ve already got in this thread, from women.
For reference, my ex wanted to track cycle and meds/mood with an app, and used her existing one’s notes feature quite a lot, if you’re interested in actually making a product out of it.
I’m pretty sure your girlfriend is a human person and not an animal to be managed. Her cycle does not dictate who she is on a day to day basis.
Being aware of her cycle and say, having chocolate on hand? Sweet. This is crazy shit though. Tracking it with an app?? Seriously are you trying to reduce your girlfriend to being a product of her menstrual cycle??? Stop watching the Big Bang theory you’re getting the wrong message if you think Sheldon is always right.
I just communicate with my partner to understand these things.
Being aware of her cycle is fine and how it might affect her is fine. Tracking it so you can ‘manage’ her by the sounds of it is slightly dehumanising. Why not just ask her if there’s anything you can do to make PMS/periods more comfortable? If she says no then believe her and leave it.
I’ve been so tempted to install one myself. Ideally I need one to track my wife, manager, a few colleagues and a friend or two.
Sorry – women here but I’m responding anyway. I had a boyfriend who kept track of my cycle and I see no issue with it. In fact he knew my cycle better than me and was the one who clued me into how distinct each week of my 4 week cycle is. He nicknamed them “do me week” ” don’t touch me week” “snuggle week” and week four was just a neutral week with no real swings either way. I wasn’t bitchy or anything during don’t touch me week, it was more of an emotionally distant feeling and he always thought I was pulling away and that’s when he put together it was related to my cycle. It’s been about 8 years and I still find that information extremely useful so I’m grateful he took the time to keep track. Also, yes, obviously I kept track of my periods, he was just the one who noticed the emotional cycles. I’ve since had a hysterectomy (but still have my ovaries ) and those swings are still very distinct but I mostly have to guess now since I no longer get periods to know for sure what “week” I’m in.
Can’t believe I’m reading this rubbish
Forget about the app. No sane woman is affected to the degree where she keeps taking it out on you because you “unintentionally did the wrong thing.” If that’s the case, she needs to speak to a doctor.
These are soaring red flags, my friend.
Going super out of your way to accommodate your partner being a bitch because she’s on her period is some seriously lame shit dude.
She isn’t a toddler and this isn’t the first time she’s had her period. If she can’t be a pleasant adult with you that’s her problem, not yours. Being extra nice to her (not ‘just because’, but to keep her from getting angry with you) is doing nothing but enabling bullshit.
Can’t say I would do it but, go ahead I guess
If she won’t communicate a man must adapt.
You could always just open each day with “hi Love, how are you?”
If the answer is more snarl than usual, slide chocolate under the door.
Lol
You should probably date an adult who is aware of accountability.
My wife was a bitch when she was on her period. Her 20 yr old daughter used to pull her up and explain exactly how that was unacceptable.
You´re blaming yourself for your girlfriends immature/abusive behavior.
It´s an old myth that women on their periods can´t do anything about their emotions and just blow up spontanuously, are moody or just mean. I know it´s a myth because they don´t do the same to random strangers or to collegues at work. That means they can control their emotions, some just choose not to do that when they´re around their partners/family.
Around well adjusted adults you don´t need to walk on eggshells. They will just tell you what´s up and give you the small, respectful tips.