That I need to use or share my life on any social media platforms. It just feels performative now. I really only use Reddit these days. It’s been happening gradually for a few years now. I stopped updating my Facebook page years ago, and my Instagram posts have dwindled to a handful of updates a year (if that). I never used Twitter/X or TikTok. I watch YouTube, but I’ve never uploaded content there.
Nobody really cares about anything I want to talk about and things other people seem interested in, I’ve stopped feeling obligated to post about.
All that’s left are memes and does the world really need another page with a bad collection of just memes? Not from me, anyway.
I chose not to be in a relationship from the start, and now I’ve fully decided to spend my early to mid-twenties focusing on becoming a doctor, traveling, picking up new hobbies, and making new friends. If marriage never happens, at least I’ll have built a meaningful life for myself.
Also, being nice and pleasant. I’ve been putting myself first these last few months and i’ve noticed a huge glow up, mentally and physically.
Food. I know it’s first world problems but figuring out what to eat everyday can become so tedious (I want to be clear that I do practice gratitude daily and I know I’m fortunate…but I’m just being honest)
Listening to people complain. I actively listen, nod and give wholehearted feedback to try to help solve other’s issues, but my advice is rarely considered and then I’m frustrated to watch them fail.
Corporate career advancement. I really believed in this providing financial safety, but layoffs in my industry even for the successful video game studios have been insane. I just want to contribute to something meaningful and focus on my life and dog.
Good friendships are a blessing, but I find the older I get and people get busier with their lives such as work and relationships, the harder they are to maintain
Working. I had a kid 4 months ago and my partner tells me we could be okay if I stopped working but I’m scared to completely resign myself into being a SAHM mostly just my anxiety about the future. But in the meantime, I just cannot believe how much I have to drag my mind into being strategic about my career when all I really just want to do is give it all up.
Lazy friendships.. that whole “dropping off the face of the earth for six months or more but picking up where we left off” thing is getting old.
Everyone is stressed, everyone is busy. We just have to make time for the people that we love regardless.
Being constantly inaccessible isn’t cool. People go through shit and need their loved ones. Their problems don’t go on hold until we’re ready to show up. All that happens is that friend ends up being unsupported.
So, I’m slowly not standing for that anymore. From my own friends and from myself.
Comments
The idea that I “should” be doing this and that because my peers are. Comparison is the thief of joy
Everything. I’ve been living the same day for six years. Life is exhausting and boring.
Being sincere.
All socially media. It’s not slow it’s immediate. I don’t want to consume anything.
Being sweet and kind.
People’s opinion about me, my life and the choices I made.
Men
Corporate lifestyle and jobs
Going out clubbing at night. Recently I went to this event called day shift. It’s clubbing during the DAY. It was awesome.
Pleasing others
Life, work and everything in between
That I need to use or share my life on any social media platforms. It just feels performative now. I really only use Reddit these days. It’s been happening gradually for a few years now. I stopped updating my Facebook page years ago, and my Instagram posts have dwindled to a handful of updates a year (if that). I never used Twitter/X or TikTok. I watch YouTube, but I’ve never uploaded content there.
Nobody really cares about anything I want to talk about and things other people seem interested in, I’ve stopped feeling obligated to post about.
All that’s left are memes and does the world really need another page with a bad collection of just memes? Not from me, anyway.
Men.
I chose not to be in a relationship from the start, and now I’ve fully decided to spend my early to mid-twenties focusing on becoming a doctor, traveling, picking up new hobbies, and making new friends. If marriage never happens, at least I’ll have built a meaningful life for myself.
Also, being nice and pleasant. I’ve been putting myself first these last few months and i’ve noticed a huge glow up, mentally and physically.
Getting into a committed relationship. I’m fine.
Waiting
Food. I know it’s first world problems but figuring out what to eat everyday can become so tedious (I want to be clear that I do practice gratitude daily and I know I’m fortunate…but I’m just being honest)
Listening to people complain. I actively listen, nod and give wholehearted feedback to try to help solve other’s issues, but my advice is rarely considered and then I’m frustrated to watch them fail.
Men
marriage/dating. i would love to be in a relationship but i don’t like men (as humans not romantically).
My will to leave. I’m drinking more and more every day
Corporate career advancement. I really believed in this providing financial safety, but layoffs in my industry even for the successful video game studios have been insane. I just want to contribute to something meaningful and focus on my life and dog.
relationships.
I’ve built a lovely life for myself. in my experience, I am often told that they have done the internal healing, when they have not.
my peace is my priority, therefore I have lost interest in anything that could destabilize that, namely relationships.
Finding a relationship.
Men
Friendships.
Good friendships are a blessing, but I find the older I get and people get busier with their lives such as work and relationships, the harder they are to maintain
Makeup and having a perfect face.
Working. I had a kid 4 months ago and my partner tells me we could be okay if I stopped working but I’m scared to completely resign myself into being a SAHM mostly just my anxiety about the future. But in the meantime, I just cannot believe how much I have to drag my mind into being strategic about my career when all I really just want to do is give it all up.
Lazy friendships.. that whole “dropping off the face of the earth for six months or more but picking up where we left off” thing is getting old.
Everyone is stressed, everyone is busy. We just have to make time for the people that we love regardless.
Being constantly inaccessible isn’t cool. People go through shit and need their loved ones. Their problems don’t go on hold until we’re ready to show up. All that happens is that friend ends up being unsupported.
So, I’m slowly not standing for that anymore. From my own friends and from myself.
work and alcohol