Guys who have completely checked out of dating- how did you fill that void in your life?

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Guys who have completely checked out of dating- how did you fill that void in your life?

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  2. TooSmartForBullshit Avatar

    I haven’t found anything that works. I’m more or less going through life in a dissociative state. I’m just tired of so many women I’ve been interested in normalizing deceitful behavior

  3. Hastaelgorro Avatar

    Men have been left out of my life. I have zero lies in my life, zero control and zero manipulation. So happy.

  4. DingleberryJones_ Avatar

    There is no void. I fill my life with positive supportive people and exclude those who aren’t. I work on becoming the best version of myself I can, taking time to understand why I felt or reacted a certain way so that I learn from it.

    I’ll never give that up for another bad person ever again.

  5. WellReadFredSaid Avatar

    I don’t get why anybody would check out of dating. There are so many wonderful women out there. Get back in the game fellas. Be the best you can be and go find your gal. Just sayin’.

  6. _WiggaInParis_ Avatar

    I can’t. I workout, am starting to get into running, full time university getting my bachelors in Comp Sci and I work a full time internship, and I still cannot fill that void.

    Online dating is ass, and I have no social media so likelihood of me meeting someone is low. I just take it day by day, hoping that one day I’ll wakeup and that thought of wanting a relationship will fade away. For now, I just try to keep myself as busy as I can, and I’m trying to socialize with people more often to create new friends!

  7. bracingthesoy Avatar

    Nothing will fill that void. Nothing will repleace a gentle young romance during the white nights.

    Books, media, games – all crap. Platonic socializing kinda helps, but ultimately, it is also a distraction from what you’ve been made by nature to do.

  8. CringeDaddy-69 Avatar

    I take a LOT of medications to keep my emotions blunted and under control. Numb. Otherwise I’d be a wreck.

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  10. towerandhorizon Avatar

    Work. I was woefully behind on my retirement goals. Still behind, but not as much.

  11. Pristine-Career520 Avatar

    Got married. Been checked out of dating for years! 🙂

  12. Mr_Ham_Man80 Avatar

    It was never a void. I can have good meals and good conversation with friends… and not have any additional pressures.

    In terms of being single, still not a void. I’m good in a relationship and I’m good single. I’ve had enough relationships that I don’t yearn for the unknown or experience and I can enjoy both states of being.

  13. CliffordKoDR Avatar

    Not really a void but I dig into my craft and find a lot of joy in solitude

  14. TenThousandSniffs Avatar

    I will share with you a little a technique I’ve learnt: buy a full length body pillow, stuff a hot water bottle inside of it, and squit a tiny amount of female perfume near the head of the pillow. Get into bed and press it up against your back, and it starts to feel like you’re being snuggled by a real human female.

    For bonus points, load up some ASMR girlfriend experience videos on your phone to complement the experience.

  15. Charming_Library_201 Avatar

    Yeah don’t worry about dating. Get hobbies, you meet sexy ladies if you have hobbies that make you meet people.

  16. ADrunkMexican Avatar

    Hobbies, playing hockey. I keep busy lol.

  17. improbablesky Avatar

    I healed the void. Not perfectly, and I have a lot more to go, but I don’t need a partner to enjoy my time.

  18. AyahaushaAaronRodger Avatar

    Either working or hiking new trails/seeing new places

  19. torgobigknees Avatar

    By doing things that I actually enjoy

  20. Sola_Fide_ Avatar

    I got a dog.

  21. MidDayGamer Avatar

    Keep busy with hobbies and enjoy my solitude on my me days.

  22. PaddywackShaq Avatar

    Friends, hobbies, interests, exercise, porn, sex workers

  23. Agile_Vanilla_1802 Avatar

    What void? I can do whatever i want, whenevr i want, and i dont have to worry about someone nagging me. Life is good.

  24. Agile_Vanilla_1802 Avatar

    Learn to enjoy being alone. Pick up some hobbies that allow you to enjoy solitude. For me its videogames, the gym, going on walks.

  25. LimeGreenDuckReturns Avatar

    3 days a week I have my kids, 2 days i climb, 2 I hit the gym.

    Any other free time I get, I go out on my motorcycle (when it stops raining), work on some projects at home or maybe even treat myself to a chill gaming session.

    My life is plenty full, I’m not entirely certain where I would fit time in to date.

  26. ZZoMBiEXIII Avatar

    I was an only child anyway. So being alone is neither uncomfortable nor unfamiliar to me. Plus I’m Gen-X, so I’ve been basically self sufficient since age 12.

  27. Maquina90 Avatar

    By doing whatever I want.

  28. MauPow Avatar

    It was never a large enough part of my life to leave a void when I gave up

  29. stevembk Avatar

    Video games.

  30. 216_412_70 Avatar

    Ah, yet another ‘forever alone’ post. Let’s hear about those projects and how much you’re saving by being away from those evil women who ‘only want your money’ … how fucking pathetic

    Edit: yeah, we get it, you’re home alone with all that money you’re saving. Downvote me all you want neckbeards.

  31. Von-Bek Avatar

    You don’t miss what you never had.

  32. NathanCollier14 Avatar

    Self improvement, and Procrastination.

  33. Firerain Avatar

    Motorcycles

  34. Troll_Slayer1 Avatar

    Music Groups – Learn an instrument and join a community college. Community Colleges are built with community money for everyone, including adults to learn music and find friends.

    Outdoor Recreation – Mtn Biking, Hiking, kayaking, fishing, etc.

    Support Family – If you’ve got a large family there’s someone elderly or someone with kids who could use help.

  35. MartialBob Avatar

    You’re assuming dating was ever a major part of my life to begin with.

  36. Timely-Description24 Avatar

    Didn’t feed the need for it in the first place. Can’t miss something you never really had, it just feels normal.

  37. C137-Morty Avatar

    I’m tired of seeing this question asked literally every day

  38. GreatBayTemple Avatar

    That Void in my life, lmao!? Music, movies, books, gaming, doom scrolling, weight lifting, hobbies, work. Spending time with family and friends. You know a life. Once you realize how fulfilling your life can be without a relationship you’ll stop trying to add a relationship to your identity.

  39. justaheatattack Avatar

    you’re lookin at it.

  40. brightfruiture Avatar

    Sports, friends, concerts, Baldurs gate. The loneliness creeps in every now and then but then I remember that thus far, every relationship I’ve been in has not been worth the loss of my peace in the long run

  41. Ecto-1981 Avatar

    I have so many projects.

    • Learning marketing and social media to promote my novel. My publisher subbed to some helpful online seminars that I’ve been watching.

    • Adapting my novel into a screenplay. Then I’ll upload it to an online marketplace for independent production companies looking for scripts and start pitching.

    • I’m a freelance book editor.

    • I make videos with my friend. Usually humorous stuff around Halloween, but we want to do more. I film on my iPhone, and I used to edit videos at an old job. Got a couple of cheap mics and a tripod.

    • Learn AI to help with the videos. We’re still going to film and use our friends as actors. But no one is a musician. We got an AI program to make a soundtrack. Also, graphics for the background when we film in front of the green screen we bought.

    Plus, I have a regular 40 hr a week job.

    So I have plenty of things I enjoy more than trying to chase uninterested women.