Recently I had a huge letdown with a girl and mistakingly thought i’d get her easily and got my hopes extremely higj but turns out she didnt like me much. I’ve done all of the things, I’ve been hitting the gym. And currently typing this at my job. I cant stop thinking about her or distract myself at all. I need help bad
How to get over a girl
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Recently I had a huge letdown with a girl and mistakingly thought i’d get her easily and got my hopes extremely higj but turns out she didnt like me much. I’ve done all of the things, I’ve been hitting the gym. And currently typing this at my job. I cant stop thinking about her or distract myself at all. I need help bad
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Get under another one
Progressive overload, six days a week, drink water, and keep two reps in the tank.
Just keep up with your routine. There is no any pill that you can take and forget her, just continue your life. Dont let other things fall apart.
One huge lesson I had to learn was that there are always other girls out there. You should pick up a hobby like hiking or something similarly free and active, and let timing do It’s thing. The most important thing is that you try, rather than dwelling on the past. It’s one of the rougher lessons.
FTOW. Iykyk.
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The answer is time. Your experience sounds like an infatuation because it doesn’t sound like you really knew this girl all that deeply. Infatuations tend to burn really strong but don’t really last that long, especially when you remove yourself from being exposed to her. So just give it time. There is no magic instant cure, you’re gonna have to tough this one out for a bit until the desire wanes.
You thought you “would get her easily”? Get help
Just accept it hurts and let the pain take its course. Be conscious about your thoughts and reassure yourself that it’s gonna be ok. You are tough enough to handle it and this process will make you stronger in the face of rejection.
Accept that this difficult patch is literally building you up and it’s supposed to be a bit painful for awhile until you start feeling ok.
Spend time catching up with mates. Call a men’s line if you have no one you can talk about it with and be heard for your struggles. Journaling your feelings and thoughts can help and most importantly just be kind to yourself.
It will pass
One day you will meet someone else and you’ll be happy things didn’t work out with this first girl
Delete her or block her from all social media and focus on yourself
It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. -JLP
You’ll get over her one day. It’ll take time. Happens to everyone.
“get her easily” sounds like you were looking at her as a conquest and not trying to make a meaningful connection with her, which might explain why she turned you down. Maybe with the next one, don’t try to objectify her but show her genuine interest that is more than skin deep. There’s a good chance that she brushed you off because you like a lot of guys just see her as a conquest and do not care to get to know the person. Stop thinking with the thing between your legs and use your other head. A woman has more to offer than just what is seen. Learn that, and maybe the next time it’ll be more than just infatuation.
I had this happen recently. She meant the world to me as I got to know her. We went out a couple times and it seemed nice, but she pulled away while making excuses about it, resulting in an awful month of me trying to be patient while still showing interest. The conclusive answer later resulted in a rough period which I got over by immediately entertaining another woman. While at first I was just doing it to feel better, I’m beginning to think of her now instead of the previous person, which I’m grateful for.
To be honest with you, as long as she still holds importance in your brain, you won’t outgrow her. You have to demolish that ideal image you have of her in order to rewire your mind so that she becomes insignificant. The only way to achieve this is to let your awareness rise, to understand her, and to see her as she is, not as you saw her.
Weed helps
Unfortunately, you can’t forcibly change your emotions. However, what you can do is to start being social. Meet new people and over time you will think less of her and focus on the new connections you will make.
Anytime I needed to get over a girl I really liked, like an ex girlfriend
I would imagine her sucking other dudes dicks.
After a few times it helped
Put down the booze and pick up the weights, and don’t stop until you become the guy who would’ve rejected her instead.
Stop seeing her, talking to her.