Ex boyfriend had spyware on my phone?

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So to make this story easier to understan im gonna call my first ex George and my second one Liam.

Me and George dated for around 1 year and didnt end our relationships on good terms. The relationship was overall not good and he had some narcissistic tendencies. We didn’t keep in touch and then I started dating Liam.

During mine and Liam’s relationship George contacted me once. Ofcourse i didnt entertain any sort of contact with him because i was in a relationship. And now looking back at it he contacted me when I changed my phone. Which might be relevant now.

Later when me and Liam broke up I reached out to George and we met up. I started noticing my phone acting up but I was just ignoring it. Then I started thinking that I might have some sort of virus on my phone.

I downloaded a bunch of virus scanners. They all gave me green light that everything was good no viruses found etc. But I found out that spyware might be hidden from those virus apps. So I had my main suspect Liam because he’s pretty tech savvy. I kept thinking that he might have done something with my phone. Downloaded something i cant find etc.

Few months have passed so to ease my overthinking i factory reset my phone. Right away the next day who do I get a message from? George. We haven’t talked for months since the last time we met up and my phone started acting up. He immediately started asking to meet up again. And now two day in a row has been asking me to meet up.

And now I’m thinking that he might be the one that’s putting spyware on there. During my relationship with Liam he only contacted me once I changed my phone. After I met up with him my phone started acting up. As soon I factory reset my phone he’s asking to meet up completely out of nowhere.

I don’t know if I’m overthinking things or not? What do I do?
Sorry for any spelling mistakes english isnt my first language.

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    Backup of the post’s body: So to make this story easier to understan im gonna call my first ex George and my second one Liam.

    Me and George dated for around 1 year and didnt end our relationships on good terms. The relationship was overall not good and he had some narcissistic tendencies. We didn’t keep in touch and then I started dating Liam.

    During mine and Liam’s relationship George contacted me once. Ofcourse i didnt entertain any sort of contact with him because i was in a relationship. And now looking back at it he contacted me when I changed my phone. Which might be relevant now.

    Later when me and Liam broke up I reached out to George and we met up. I started noticing my phone acting up but I was just ignoring it. Then I started thinking that I might have some sort of virus on my phone.

    I downloaded a bunch of virus scanners. They all gave me green light that everything was good no viruses found etc. But I found out that spyware might be hidden from those virus apps. So I had my main suspect Liam because he’s pretty tech savvy. I kept thinking that he might have done something with my phone. Downloaded something i cant find etc.

    Few months have passed so to ease my overthinking i factory reset my phone. Right away the next day who do I get a message from? George. We haven’t talked for months since the last time we met up and my phone started acting up. He immediately started asking to meet up again. And now two day in a row has been asking me to meet up.

    And now I’m thinking that he might be the one that’s putting spyware on there. During my relationship with Liam he only contacted me once I changed my phone. After I met up with him my phone started acting up. As soon I factory reset my phone he’s asking to meet up completely out of nowhere.

    I don’t know if I’m overthinking things or not? What do I do?
    Sorry for any spelling mistakes english isnt my first language.

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  3. Proteus61 Avatar

    You aren’t overreacting. You are a very aware person for figuring this out. Don’t make an issue out of it, just don’t go anywhere near George again.

  4. I_Saw_The_Duck Avatar

    What kind of phone is it? I’m assuming higher availability of spyware for android but could be wrong on that.

  5. _PeachyPleasure_ Avatar

    yo, sounds like George is straight outta a spy movie, sneaking around with your phone like it’s his personal gadget. block that dude ASAP and don’t even think about meeting him — unless you wanna star in “how to get hacked 101.” maybe get a pro to check your phone for real spyware, or just buy a new phone and ignore his creepy ass, way easier.

  6. Suitable_Doubt7359 Avatar

    Yes there is something weird going on. Stop talking to your ex boyfriend. Block their numbers. Do another factory reset and live your life. If you are in the US check your credit also to make sure your ex didn’t do anything there.

  7. Normal-Impression772 Avatar

    That’s sketchy af. Don’t go anywhere near George for any reason!

  8. mktgmstr Avatar

    Meet up with him, but don’t bring your phone.

  9. Blonde2468 Avatar

    If you want to find out the truth, meet with George IN PUBLIC but have your phone OFF and face down on the table. See how he acts. If he asks why it’s face down, just put it in your pocket and tell him you didn’t what this time to be interrupted but phones. His reaction will tell you everything you need to know.

  10. gisted Avatar

    You’re not overthinking things. Factory reset your phone again and ignore this dude.