Besides the fact that women tend to pretty much just look/stare at you as a way to let you know, what other signs do y’all look for? When you see those signs, does it give you more confidence to just go for it and ask her out?
What signs do men look for to gauge if a woman is interested in them?
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Besides the fact that women tend to pretty much just look/stare at you as a way to let you know, what other signs do y’all look for? When you see those signs, does it give you more confidence to just go for it and ask her out?
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Men don’t understand the signs. You need to explicitly tell us you’re interested.
When I see her six or so months later, after she lost interest and got with somebody else, she’ll usually tell me “I used to have a huge crush on you.” That’s how you know.
I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again. Take your tits out.
I look at how they interact with other guys vs me. If they give me more eye contact/attention/positive body language, that makes me feel they could potentially be into me. I don’t usually act on it just in case I’m wrong, though.
Physical touch,body language,how much you laugh at my stupid jokes,eye contact(how long we hold it) and how you say specific things(eg,I can’t believe I’m gonna have to call a cab this late…) knowing I drove there or you saw my keys etc…
Laughing at my jokes, touching me, and hinting that we should go out.
Also touching and playing with her hair when around me.
But honestly, its way better to just assume that she is interested in you and just go for it.
I don’t look for signs. If I’m interested in a woman, that’s all I need to ask her out. I don’t need to figure out if she wants me to or not. I’ll find out when she says yes or no to my invitation.
First thing to know is men do not usually pick up on hints.
If you want to make it obvious, stay close to them. Make good eye contact. Soft smile when he engages in conversation with you. The subtle, lingering hand on his arm when you’re speaking to him. Those are the clues.
To cement the deal, you give him your number and ask him to call you. Straight up ask him to call you.
I use one simple rule: If a woman is choosing to talk to me when she could be doing literally anything else on God’s green Earth, she wants it.
This, of course, only works if you’re the kind of guy who doesn’t otherwise insert yourself around women. This way, women basically have to go out of their way to message me. I have no “female friends” to confuse this data set. I don’t maintain platonic relationships with women so, like, when she messages me after 9pm there’s only one agenda at play. No woman in her right mind messages me for friendly banter.
Womens’ “signs” are like subtitles in a foreign language. Even if we notice them we don’t know what they mean.
Play with your hair while laughing, or touch arm/body multiple times.
Women “flirt” by sending “signals”. The thing is women are so scared shitless from rejection, that they surpress those signals to the point that you need a team of forensic analysts to decipher those “signals” from their regular behavior.
But from their point of view they think those “signals” are as bright as day. Newsflash – to the side observer they are not! That makes the average woman HORRIBLE at flirting. There’s a funny, exaggerated but accurate video about this phenomenon here 🤣https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8MWBQy4/
So for all the women reading this – use TOUCH. We understand touch. If she touches us and she’s near us – she likes our presence.
Flirty touches that worked on me:
She comes to my desk to “show me something”. She leans, grabs the mouse and her great smelling hair rolls over my shoulder. I think to myself “I got you, babe, let me take over!”. Works with a phone or a book too.
The old “touch me on the arm while laughing at my not so funny joke”. Classic.
We stand in a semi circle listening to someone. My hands are crossed and my elbows are sticking out. She stands near me and pushes my elbow with her tit so my elbow is 3 inches deep in her boob. A sig al you can see from space!
Not running away, not calling the police
I don’t read into anything. I’ve gotten it wrong too many times when I was younger. If a woman is into me, she’ll have to come out and say it.
Same way anyone shows interests, if the conversation shows interests instead of dry and short answers. If she mentions wanting to try or do something. Just as you took the effort to strike up a conversation and getting to know her, if it’s reciprocated, then she’s interested.
Well, this weekend’s sign was that she took my hand, and asked for my instagram. But I don’t know… maybe she’s just being friendly /s
Extended eye contact, laughing at your jokes that are not that funny, physical contact (bumping into you for no real apparent reason), twirling her hair.
Some men like direct, some men like subtle.
When I was young, I went to uni and had multiple jobs to support myself. Subtle didn’t work because i didn’t have time for it. So you’ll have to consider what type of communicator he is as well as what he’s motivated by.
Putting her hands on you while laughing a bit too hard at seemingly everything you say.
Female here. Probably eye contact but I never was good at that.
A genuine smile can speak volumes more than any words. And yes, confidence is definitely boosted when you spot that smile!
Lmao I thought being friendly and doing activities together was a sign but I just struck out big time after trying to invite her to more activities like hiking and stuff. Guess it wasn’t meant to be. She was really nice.
Is using your ability to speak words too much to ask?
We don’t look for signs. Either you’re super clear, or we assume it’s all platonic.
None.
A genuine smile with long eye contact. Had 2 that waved me over which I thought to myself if only more women did this. Both times the girls were sitting with a group of friends.
We don’t have to look; women make it painfully clear if they’re interested or not.
INTERESTED: Initiates conversations and hangouts from time to time.
UNINTERESTED: Trying to hold a conversation or make plans with her is like pulling teeth.
INTERESTED: Looks at and engages with you when talking or doing stuff together.
UNINTERESTED: Constantly on her phone or looking bored no matter what you do.
INTERESTED: Laughs with you and can enjoy silly or fun moments with you.
UNINTERESTED: Everything you possibly do or say will get nothing but silence or a look of contempt from her. A particularly nice woman won’t glare at you, but she’ll make sure her eyes are fixed on anything in her surroundings but you.
And so on and so forth…
We don’t read signs. Just tell us.
I have no idea.
After our first date I kissed my wife on the cheek goodbye and the look she gave me made me feel like she wanted to kill me. I thought the date went fine, but then I had to rethink and thought maybe I misread her.
I did misread the situation. She wanted a real kiss. After 14 years I’ve learned the look she gave me was honestly just her face. Her pissed off face is much scarier.
On our 2nd date she climbed on top of me, took her shirt and bra off, and grinded on me while making out. I said, “thanks,” and drove her home.
My penis is still mad about that one and that’s the first time I saw her actual angry face. I had no idea she wanted to go all the way and have sex.
Now obviously my situations are extremes, but it’s a good way to measure how oblivious some men can be.
Use your words for the love of God.
There’s four categories of guys. Guys who see signs of interest everywhere and are right, guys who see signs of interest and are wrong, guys who don’t see signs of interest even though people are trying to send them and guys who don’t see signs of interest with nobody trying to send them. Pretty much none of this has any relationship to actually recognising interest consistently and everything to do with levels of existing internal confidence, either misplaced or not. Mind reading isn’t real, and any women’s “signs of interest” are all other women’s innocuous “just the way I act, why would you take that as me being into you” up to and including actually flirting. The idea that just looking at someone a lot reliably communicates anything – let alone something potentially humiliating to get wrong – is nonsense. A lot of women want to believe that looking at a guy and maybe touching their hair occasionally is them taking initiative in pursuing what they want, but nothing is actually happening there, they’re leaving everything up to the guy.
Idk because what some women use as “choosy signals” is another woman’s natural personality or just being nice
I must’ve missed that class in school. The only signs I ever learned how to read were traffic signs, and building postings.
I don’t look for signs. I look for people who are clear in their communication.
You got me mate idfk.
I typically look for if they ask targeted questions like when are you here again. They smile when they see you and joke around a bit. They do favors for you that don’t quite make sense. Literally tell your mutual friends they are into you.
I still don’t really know.
You got me mate idfk.
I typically look for if they ask targeted questions like when are you here again. They smile when they see you and joke around a bit. They do favors for you that don’t quite make sense. Literally tell your mutual friends they are into you.
I still don’t really know.