I recently had a follow request from a man we’ll call Josh. I left Josh on requested for a week or two cause I didn’t have a clue who he was and I don’t want any random Tom dick or Harry following me but I asked the girl, who we’ll call Susan, I’ve taken out a couple times if she knew him. She said not to worry about it even though I never mentioned I was I just asked if she knew. Not 5 minutes later I noticed his request had been removed. Fast forward to after I’ve taken this girl out for the night I get home and get curious, so I request him back. He accepts and within seconds dms me saying what happened with Susan that night. Obviously immediately arousing suspicion. So I ask as anyone would, how do you know Susan?
He replies they’ve been together for 3 months. I’ve been talking to Susan for 7 months. I bought her valentines flowers and asked if we were exclusive and got a yes. So what followed was me drilling him about how long he’s been talking to her and with her. Long story short he’s been told I was just a friend despite her actively saying she loved me and frequently asking me to go round to hers. So as I was not in right mind she received several voicemails and texts telling her she’s a horrible person and I hope she rots, she led me on for 4 months and lied and deceived me for no reason.
I asked her why she did it and you will not believe balls she had in what she said, she said and I quote “I respected you too much to tell you” force me to live the rest of my life with this girl if I’m wrong but I don’t think that’s something done out of respect. So she cheated on him with me, led me on for this whole time and says she respected me.
I was not letting her hide behind her screen for this so I made her say it to my face as well. And my hod have I ever seen crocodile tears like those. They’d start when I got upset and as soon as I wiped mine and came back they’d continue until I said she wasn’t getting sympathy from me. They dried faster than a desert and suddenly became the most calm psychopathic voice I have ever heard. I trusted so little of what she said I actually called this guy up midway through her lying to me still, I had a fucking fact checker who sat there and gave me more respect than her, the guy who’d been blindsided as well was sat there telling her to tell the truth to me because
I told her I wanted an apology with sincerity and she’s said she’s still in the midst of dealing with it all. What on earth does she have to deal with here? The emotional impact of losing the guy she kept as an option, who she started texting more cause she felt like she forgotten about him, the pain she heard in me asking her why she did it or watching me smoke an most of a pack of cigarettes whilst trying to understand a smidge of what she said about it being done out of protecting my emotions or respecting me or not wanting to ruin our friend group, all of whom have said she can actually do one if she thinks they’re going to be polite about it because they know what I put in for her.
She is the reason I’m back in depression because it really just shows you how 7 months of continually trying to be there and supportive and kind means fucking nothing when you can rip someone’s whole world apart in 20 minutes.
So now I’m here having sacked off 7 months of talking to someone whilst she goes home and lays with him and has the guts to text me still and put x’s at the end of her messages.
TL:DR found out I was getting cheated on because of a follow request