So like two months ago I randomly met this girl and we hit it off like so well. I don’t think I’ve ever met a girl and insanely felt like I’ve known her for a long time like that.
We were both so into each other and we did move pretty fast. But like even just hanging out with her I felt such a connection and I could’ve swore she felt the same way.
But anyways I ruined it and since I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. Like when I’m busy or at work it’s not a problem but when I’m alone or like trying to go to sleep it’s constantly on my mind.
I feel like I messed up something that could’ve been special. I just don’t know how to get over it, I’ve met other girls but none of them make me feel the same way.
It was just such an authentic connection it almost felt like it was meant to be. And she didn’t do anything wrong it was all my fault.
How do I stop thinking about it ? I’m not trying to it just like creeps into the back of my mind at night.
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So like two months ago I randomly met this girl and we hit it off like so well. I don’t think I’ve ever met a girl and insanely felt like I’ve known her for a long time like that.
We were both so into each other and we did move pretty fast. But like even just hanging out with her I felt such a connection and I could’ve swore she felt the same way.
But anyways I ruined it and since I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. Like when I’m busy or at work it’s not a problem but when I’m alone or like trying to go to sleep it’s constantly on my mind.
I feel like I messed up something that could’ve been special. I just don’t know how to get over it, I’ve met other girls but none of them make me feel the same way.
It was just such an authentic connection it almost felt like it was meant to be. And she didn’t do anything wrong it was all my fault.
How do I stop thinking about it ? I’m not trying to it just like creeps into the back of my mind at night.
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Time and try to learn from whatever mistakes you made.
You’ll get over it eventually. Learn your lesson, and keep your eye out for the next one.
I dunno I never even had a gf at 40. But I do remember things I regret going back over 20 years to jr high, so I assume some regrets will stay with me until I am ded
Just have to try to remember the lessons and don’t let it happen if there is a next time
If it’s meant to be, fate will find a way. Focus on being the best you that you can so you’re ready. Sometimes we have lessons to learn. If you’re into the airy fairy wooey-hoo things, look into twin flames.
The best way to move on is find another one.
Truthfully, is the connection was legitimate, it’ll find a way to work out, or it wasn’t all that meaningful after all.
Apologize to her but don’t expect to restart the relationship unless she asks you to by herself. The guilt should leave you alone by then and you can start concentrating in yourself.
If you made a mistake, correct it, make sure you learn from it and won’t repeat it, and hope for the best.
Sure, she might still be mad and not want to do anything with you, but at least you did what you could to undo the harm/wrong you caused. Be aware some things can’t be undone however you try, then you’ll need to live with it, learn from it and strive to be better. And that’s also a possibility. In this way, yoh’ll be able to forgive yourself, even if she does not.
First, you need to understand that you very literally barely knew her, even on a surface level, and you are obsessed with the idea of who you built her up to be in your head. The reality of it is thst the version if her you have in your head is nothing like who she really is. Once you have done that, just accept the mistakes you made and do your best to not repeat them again in the future.
What did you do to fumble her? You use the word “ruin”, what does that mean exactly? If you slept with someone else that seemed more exciting/hotter at the time, I’d just forget about her – any woman valuing herself will think that’s a deal breaker. But if it was miscommunication or managing your time poorly, find her again and explain that you can do better! Nuance matters here
Meet another woman and fumble it with that one.
After just going through the same thing. It’s been a year since we met and 6 months since I’ve seen her. I mostly just cringe at myself now, but I still feel frustrated at myself about it.
2 choices, understand your mistake and become a better polished person for the next girl. OR realize you were being your authentic self and it wasn’t a mistake…she was ALMOST the perfect one. You would have eventually made a “mistake” and she would have left anyways.
Either way time and putting yourself back out there is the solution
You didn’t really know her, man. Two months? I’m sure she was cool and all, but you’ll meet someone better.
Increase forearm grip by doing preacher curls in the weight room, grab with the nose tucked tightly in hand, and the other end firmly under your arm… wait I’m thinking of a different kind of fumbling…. as you were.