Part way through a fitness and style revamp and have noticed some changes already, but curious to hear from other guys. How did it affect dating? How did it affect people around you generally, do you get treated differently than before by colleagues, cashiers at stores, bar staff etc? How’s your confidence now?
Guys who got in shape/had a glow up – how did it affect your life and how people treated you?
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Part way through a fitness and style revamp and have noticed some changes already, but curious to hear from other guys. How did it affect dating? How did it affect people around you generally, do you get treated differently than before by colleagues, cashiers at stores, bar staff etc? How’s your confidence now?
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It didn’t make much difference until I grew the confidence and self esteem that came with those changes. People only treated me differently once I learned to treat myself differently. But it did eventually happen.
Women like my chest muscles.
All of a sudden there was a LOT more sex, when previously no one real wanted to ever hook up and or date me.
Cashiers, bartenders, etc, they didn’t really change, how they treated me, but there was a lot more attention and a lot more looks from people.
At this point this is a bit of a FAQ, but okay.
You will definitely get treated better overall. Being in shape results in a body scent that people will like more (this has been studied in blind experiments where the ones smelling the other person did not see them at all before or after the experiment), there have been findings that not only the perception but also the factual treatment of “less beautiful” treatment is less open and more guarded while being “more beautiful” people have been found to be granted more trust faster and people tend to give them a bigger margin of error – pretty privilege so to speak, which come on the other hand with a lot of disregard for the acutal personality.
As for confidence: Can stay as low as it was beforehand as the insecurity can switch from “everyone hates me because I am ugly” to “everyone is actually fake, they only like me because I am looing better than before, nobody is genuine” which contributes to the increased number of body dismorphia and relationship dissatisfaction amongst body builders.
So it can be very beneficial in almost every way to you.. unless you fail to do the mental work as well.
Instead of me just being awkward, women are also awkward around me too
It made me realize getting/being in shape was never an issue to begin with. “Whatever women look for in men, i don’t have it” . Sad part is that i always had strong need for attention from women, always enjoyed admiring their beauty but it seems that’s all i’ll ever get to do. Forget about sex, i’m utterly touch depraved and have been for decades
Night and day.
But you gotta not be ugly.
Not smell.
And actually work on your personality and fashion.
I honestly don’t think people treat me any differently. Easier to get laid, but even when I was a fat fuck I never really had a problem with that.
My physique is not natty so take that for what it’s worth. But everyone around me looks at me with respect. Because you wear that dedication on you at all times. It’s a good feeling. But also it’s the topic of conversation with me ALL the time. Which at times gets a little annoying depending on my mood. But hit the gym. Get that glow up. I’m 31 and didn’t think I could achieve what I have achieved. It takes time knowledge discipline and consistency. Enjoy the process. Don’t focus on the goal. The man who enjoys walking will walk further than the man who enjoys the destination. Do this shit for you
No change whatsoever how people treate me.
However, it did certainly affect my life positively, which is also the main reason I continue working out. Getting buffed is but a nice side-effect. For my mind feels far sharper, more at peace, more relaxed and more stable when working out consistently. I’m also far more productive compared to weeks where I don’t work out.
But considering human contact it does nothing for me. Never got noticed; same now. If anything I feel like I’ve grown less approachable since I’m a pretty big guy and sometimes it feels like some people scare of me.
Got a lot more attention from women and found it much easier to date/get laid. Years later when I was single again and had put a bunch of weight on but hadn’t lost the confidence I had gained and still found it much easier to get dates/sex. So it turns out it was about confidence all along. Cliché I know but cliché for a reason
I’d consider myself having a “glow up”. The only difference is that I have a fiancé now but she got with me before I had my “glow up” so I don’t consider my appearance to be a valid reason on why she chose to be with me. However, my “glow up” hasn’t changed how people treated me.
I’m still lonely, don’t get much attention outside of my fiancé, I still feel invisible & i’ve been starting to think that maybe i’m not really appealing to anyone & I feel as if my looks play a huge part in that.
In conclusion, I thought I had a glow up, and maybe I had one but thinking I do & getting no attention from absolutely anyone has made me feel worse, so i’m deciding to stay in my little corner & stop thinking too highly of myself.