I think a lot of guys can relate to being hesitant to making themselves vulnerable to women again after that “one” that did them dirty. Remain hopeful gentlemen.
Nowadays I make it pretty clear early on in the dating process that while I’m not Sober, I don’t drink or smoke and I find it annoying to be around in any contexts other than very occasional social use.
Ignore red flags thinking they would resolve themselves once that person got away from a toxic environment. Sometimes that person is the cause of the toxic environment.
You never really know what someone is like until you live with them day in day out.
I’ll flip this and make about myself, but I’m learning to be less selfish. I feel bad because in my previous relationship, I was used to doing what I wanted. I realized upon breaking up this was something I need to be better with. I’m applying this now in my current one and it’s led to much more balance
Be in a relationship just for the sake of it or because I’m lonely.
I’ve learned being alone isn’t so bad. Especially when compared to being with someone you aren’t attracted to or they make you feel like shit for existing.
Be too self-sacrificing for her happiness. I’ve learned to my dismay that efforts at making your partner happy aren’t always reciprocated and can come to be perceived as obligations or entitlements.
Maturity in a relationship means defining what’s fair and sustainable for both of you long-term. It’s hard to fight against the romantic impulse to love bomb someone you’re infatuated with but that level of one-sided work can’t last forever.
I will never date a woman for the sake of proving something to myself despite her not being suitable for me. I will also never date a woman who demonstrates all the telltale signs of narcissism. It never ends well, and you will suffer if you try.
Expect an adult to change their mind about no sex before marriage. I thought she just needed some time to come around to it but nope. I resolved to never waste my time with such people again.
I won’t pay for everything. I won’t be a doormat. I won’t keep my complaints to myself to keep peace. I won’t allow communication to break down. I won’t date someone who isn’t my approximate equal in either direction.
What I want is a partner, a teammate. Somebody who shares my values and my dedication towards the team we are building. Someone who is equally invested in our success.
Accepting silent treatment or bad communication. Had an ex girlfriend that whenever something bothered her “if you don’t know what you did wrong I can’t help you” made me feel like absolute shit just to find out she misinterpreted something I said in a way I would have never thought of.
People like that need therapy immediatly.
Never ever gonna deal with that shit again. Either tell me or shut the fuck up and piss off. I’LL NEVER ACCEPT TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT AGAIN. Went through fucking hell for 2 years of a dead relationship cause I kept on clinging to the image of the person I was in love with for 3 years prior to that, just to finally accept she’s gone.
Trust that she has a close guy friend who is “like a brother” too many times its ended up being more than that.. either she wanted it to be more, or he did. Either way it went further.
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Date a bipolar woman.
Change fundamental parts of who I am just to please someone who, at the end of the day, never really cared about me.
Date a narcissistic woman.
I will never do a relationship again, been there done that and lost the dam tee-shirt.
Trust someone.
I get it, we meet someone’s representative, the real person doesn’t come out until you put skin in the game.
I’m never doing a long distance relationship again
I think a lot of guys can relate to being hesitant to making themselves vulnerable to women again after that “one” that did them dirty. Remain hopeful gentlemen.
Put myself in the backseat and allow my SO to disrespect my choices… No sir, never again.
Find myself in a situationship, hoping for safety and security one day
Be a doormat.
My dating list no longer includes women with:
Put up with excessive drinking or pot smoking.
Nowadays I make it pretty clear early on in the dating process that while I’m not Sober, I don’t drink or smoke and I find it annoying to be around in any contexts other than very occasional social use.
Stay with someone who cheats.
Ignore red flags thinking they would resolve themselves once that person got away from a toxic environment. Sometimes that person is the cause of the toxic environment.
You never really know what someone is like until you live with them day in day out.
I’ll flip this and make about myself, but I’m learning to be less selfish. I feel bad because in my previous relationship, I was used to doing what I wanted. I realized upon breaking up this was something I need to be better with. I’m applying this now in my current one and it’s led to much more balance
pretty much anything
Be in a relationship just for the sake of it or because I’m lonely.
I’ve learned being alone isn’t so bad. Especially when compared to being with someone you aren’t attracted to or they make you feel like shit for existing.
Be too self-sacrificing for her happiness. I’ve learned to my dismay that efforts at making your partner happy aren’t always reciprocated and can come to be perceived as obligations or entitlements.
Maturity in a relationship means defining what’s fair and sustainable for both of you long-term. It’s hard to fight against the romantic impulse to love bomb someone you’re infatuated with but that level of one-sided work can’t last forever.
Get married
I will never date a woman for the sake of proving something to myself despite her not being suitable for me. I will also never date a woman who demonstrates all the telltale signs of narcissism. It never ends well, and you will suffer if you try.
That.
Dutch oven
Have joint anything.
Put up with hell hoping that they will change.
Expect an adult to change their mind about no sex before marriage. I thought she just needed some time to come around to it but nope. I resolved to never waste my time with such people again.
Bother
Give more than they do.
Trust
Apologize for imaginary wrongs.
Having joint anything and getting married in the eyes of the State. Also, letting a woman bring animals into a home I occupy.
Women who can’t pay their own way in life.
Hold back, if I feel something I’ll say something. There’s always a way to say what needs to be said and everything needs to said.
I won’t pay for everything. I won’t be a doormat. I won’t keep my complaints to myself to keep peace. I won’t allow communication to break down. I won’t date someone who isn’t my approximate equal in either direction.
What I want is a partner, a teammate. Somebody who shares my values and my dedication towards the team we are building. Someone who is equally invested in our success.
Get married
Fall for someone who isn’t available. 3 times. Same woman.
End up with a boring person with a lack of interests
Trust,
Accepting silent treatment or bad communication. Had an ex girlfriend that whenever something bothered her “if you don’t know what you did wrong I can’t help you” made me feel like absolute shit just to find out she misinterpreted something I said in a way I would have never thought of.
People like that need therapy immediatly.
Never ever gonna deal with that shit again. Either tell me or shut the fuck up and piss off. I’LL NEVER ACCEPT TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT AGAIN. Went through fucking hell for 2 years of a dead relationship cause I kept on clinging to the image of the person I was in love with for 3 years prior to that, just to finally accept she’s gone.
Trust that she has a close guy friend who is “like a brother” too many times its ended up being more than that.. either she wanted it to be more, or he did. Either way it went further.
Get married
Get married.
Not because it’s a bad thing, but it did it once and I’m kinda locked in for life.
My wife would be super mad if I got married again.
Open up to someone
Give my full heart and trust to a woman
Rely on her for motivation and support
Expect that she will never leave me
I will never settle with someone out of fear of being alone. I’d rather have nobody around than feel alone with someone right there.
Get married
Using that relationship as another dopamine hit. It’s just bad for the relationship.