TIFU By showing my husband of 3 years a picture of my father.

So this wasn’t today but a couple months ago I fucked up by showing some photos of my father to my Husband of 2 years. So I guess to start this off I should start from the beginning me and my husband have been dating for about 3 years and our 2 year marriage anniversary is coming up in October. However he has never met my father and has only met my mother and 2 sisters once. I’ll also mention my parents are “happily married” (dad’s an abusive drunk, moms favorite color for her glasses are rose.) Then have been married since 1997. They have never split or taken breaks in there marriage. Also this may not make much sense now but I promise its important later but i wouldnt say my family was rich or anything but my mom worked a pretty good goverment job and the same with my grandmother on my mom’s side also worked a pretty good government job as well. My father how ever was on and off jobs. Now that bit of information is out there here’s where a simple Facebook doom scroll changed everything.

So around February of this year me and my husband were sitting on the couch watching impractical jokers and I was scrolling on my phone looking at old pictures of my family when I decided to look and see if my dad posted anything out of pocket on Facebook. Just so everyone can get and idea on how out of pocket im talking trump supporter and pretty sure he identifies as a sovereign citizen. Well my husband who we will call Quill looked over my shoulder and asked me what I was up to so I told him I was looking thru my father’s Facebook. Well we then decided to look at his facebook together now just a reminder to everyone reading this my husband has never seen my father in person just old picture I have of my father when he was around my age (Im 26 my husband is 23). So now that we are scrolling thru his pictures I hear my husband make a gasp as we scroll past a picture I took of my father underwater when I was like 12. I looked up at him and he looked pale. I asked him what was wrong and then he looked me right in the eye and said I know that man pointing to the picture of my father. I asked what he ment and this was the conversation that followed (A is for me Q is for my husband.)

Q: “I have seen that picture before a couple years ago when I just turned 18.”
A:”What do you mean. Are you sure your not remembering wrong my dad doesn’t have social media besides facebook.”
Q: “honey im telling you I know him. But your not gonna like how I know him.”

So at this point my stomach is doing flips like im gonna throw up.

Q:”Soooo you know how I used to be on a bunch of suger baby websites.”
A: “ya they used to buy you like food and stuff right.”
Q:”ya well I dont know how to say this but that picture was on a sugar baby website. And if that is your dad in the picture hes on sugar baby website. I have spoken with him on the phone. He would give me money to order doordash.”

Now at this point my brain is fried. Now I trust my husband with my life so of course I start asking questions. I played a couple recordings of men’s voices then played my father’s voice from one of this YouTube videos and when I tell you my husband picked my dads voice out of a line up made me wanna puke.

After an hour talking here’s everything. When my husband turned 18 he found my dad on a sugar baby website and started talking. My husband was getting enough money from my father that he could order sushi like 5 times a
Day and was talking to him on the phone. My husband was able to describe my child hood home with flawless accuracy from the decor to the window curtains. Now im sure everyone has reached the same conclusion No my husband never physical slept with my father but yes my father did send him photos which is VOMIT inducing. But now im stuck with pictures of my father’s profile on the sugar baby websites and the knowledge he was cheating on my mother with my now husband.

TL;DR TIFU by finding out my father was my husband’s suger daddy before we met.

Update to clear things up Forgot to add both me and my husband are men my father is supposed to be straight also got how long we have been married for wrong i got married October of 2023 its been two years married 3 years together im terrible with dates and husband looked over this after I posted it.