Please see previous posts for context. MIL has asked hubby to come over to discuss issues without me. We are currently low contact. My problem with this is she’ll use it to talk shit about me and my husband doesn’t even agree she is violating boundaries all the time. He won’t know what to say and just brush her off. I’m actually furious because i feel like it’s an opportunity to talk about how manipulative I am
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Huge red flag. That is absolutely an opportunity being utilized to manipulate your husband and attempt to gain some control. The issues you involve all of you— she can’t expect to demand how she wants that conversation to go. My in laws have been attempting to do the same thing— guilt and manipulate my husband into changing his mind about having a boundaries convo and/or have the convo without me. Laughable and expected of dysfunctional family systems.
No way. Not without you, and actually not at all.
She hasn’t changed and this proves it—so NOTHING has changed …and her ask is irrelevant. Ignore.