When I was younger I dated a couple girls I thought were way outta my league and I kinda self sabotaged a couple of them
One of my best gal pals pulled me aside after the first two and goes “you realize these girls aren’t dating you out of pity, right?”
Took another like 2-3 years of those words bouncing around my head before I finally pulled my head out of my ass and started acting like I had been there before instead of waiting til they left me eventually
I love to eat so I became a regular at this one sandwich shop. One time when it was dead the lady behind the counter was like “Here, its on the house. You’re like my favorite person.”
Not only did that feel like a compliment but shit, a free sandwich? Fuck yeah.
I’m a bigger guy, and I was talking about getting in shape to a girl I had a short thing once with (it’s complicated). She told me I shouldn’t because I look better this way. It was sweet, but I rather lose weight anyway
I’ve had a couple, “you smell good” which is one that I’ll get from time to time.
When I was in college, my Phys Ed. class was co-ed and we had about 20 weight machines. For the class, we’d have to hit each machine (machines were numbered). One day a cute girl was the person behind me (she’d have to visit each machine after me) and told me that she hated using the machine after me because she always had to lower the weight. At the time I didn’t see it as a way to start talking to her, I just took it as a compliment and went about my way. I was so clueless back then that I didn’t even bother to either add much more weight, or use less weight as a way of teasing her….doh!
Shit. Just about any genuine compliment.
“I LOVE your arms”
“I LOVE your chest”
“Damn you’re big”
“I don’t think I can walk right now”
“You’re a great writer”
“I wish my husband could do (whatever hands on stuff) like that!”
“You’re such an amazing father”
Really, any genuine compliments that play to desirable traits are a huge ego boost. But the flip side is, any compliments that are not genuine, are untrue, or the man believes to be untrue, will do far more damage than good. Tell a guy with a 3” dick that he’s huge, he’s going to take that as a very backhanded compliment. Tell a guy who thinks he’s weak that he’s strong (even if he is), will be taken as mocking.
And ladies reading this… use caution in faking orgasms. Yes, a lot of men cannot tell. Those of us that can, take it as an insult when you fake it. We know every time isn’t going to be a grand slam, home run, or even a base hit. No one bats 1000. Tell him you enjoyed the intimacy (or say nothing) and move on. Don’t fake it.
Last point for the ladies…
If a guy would rather be told he’s hung, than how he’s the best in bed you’ve ever had…. Run.
Was picking up my newly purchased (it was a year old, used) Trans Am, bright red 2001 WS6 6 speed. Girlfriend at the time dropped me off and as I pulled it out she said Damn I’ve heard of the car making the man but you really make the car. Lol I don’t think my ego has ever been that big before lol
Black women in a car catcalled me while riding my bike and stopped at a light. Something about my ass looking like two well done hams she wanted to gobble up.
At Lowe’s buying stuff for a project. Had my then 2 year old son with me. Had him in one arm, and my other arm filled with what I was buying. The cashier called out, “That’s some kind of man.”
I was walking past my sister one day talking to one of her friends i never met before. Her friend as soon as she saw me said out loud to my sister (so i could hear) “,Your brother is so fit” and I remember feeling really good about myself
Fit is a British word for sexy or really good looking. I had a very low view of my self image back then as a teenager. So that one random comment really made me happy.
Or my sister one day when we were teenagers getting annoyed at how low of opinion i had of my self image that she confronted me saying “I don’t know why you think you’re ugly. Nearly all my friends like you and think you’re cute”. That gave me a ego boost. I have 3 sisters and all 3 of told me that some friends of theirs have told them how attractive they thought i am. Even 2 of my mums friends tell me im a good looking man. All of those comments give me a ego boost.
My wife and I had a threesome. I went down on the third and after she climaxed, she asked if she could return the favor. I agreed, stood, and she pulled me out of my underwear. Then she looked back at my wife and went “Damn!”.
Long distance relationship, so this is surely fueled by us only seeing each other once a season. Yet still, probably the hottest person I’ve ever been with, literal porn star. Normally with women only but makes an “exception” for me. Said they wished all they had to do in life was suck me off. I still think about it
My wife refers to me as Batman. The first time she did it I laughed it off and thought she was joking but she’s done it a few times since then and has told me in all seriousness that’s how she thinks of me. It feels good that she pictures me that way.
I was about to go in and give a technical talk in front of a couple hundred peers and a female peer who had never seen me in a suit and tie took one look and said “Wow! You look presidential!”. That talk went well.
I’m halfway sure they were stroking my ego to help keep my mind off the pain, but the nurses expressing how impressive my pain tolerance is was very boosting for some reason.
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“You’re gorgeous.” I was completely thrown off when she said it.
“I’ve never been able to squirt before. I can’t believe you made me squirt!!!!”
“Would you like more coffee?” — waitress
Ego boost. Come one. Work on your self esteem.
Does Family count because my mom once said that I’m handsome.
“I love your ugly face”
When I was younger I dated a couple girls I thought were way outta my league and I kinda self sabotaged a couple of them
One of my best gal pals pulled me aside after the first two and goes “you realize these girls aren’t dating you out of pity, right?”
Took another like 2-3 years of those words bouncing around my head before I finally pulled my head out of my ass and started acting like I had been there before instead of waiting til they left me eventually
For a little white boy, you sure can tear it up.
Said by a ~6′ black woman I dated off and on in my 20s.
I love to eat so I became a regular at this one sandwich shop. One time when it was dead the lady behind the counter was like “Here, its on the house. You’re like my favorite person.”
Not only did that feel like a compliment but shit, a free sandwich? Fuck yeah.
A car load of girls drove passed me and one leaned out the back window and yelled “you’re hot” at me.
Does mom count?
“I love you” – a non family member female
I’m a bigger guy, and I was talking about getting in shape to a girl I had a short thing once with (it’s complicated). She told me I shouldn’t because I look better this way. It was sweet, but I rather lose weight anyway
“Hi”
“I never had anyone as big as you.”
I’ve had a couple, “you smell good” which is one that I’ll get from time to time.
When I was in college, my Phys Ed. class was co-ed and we had about 20 weight machines. For the class, we’d have to hit each machine (machines were numbered). One day a cute girl was the person behind me (she’d have to visit each machine after me) and told me that she hated using the machine after me because she always had to lower the weight. At the time I didn’t see it as a way to start talking to her, I just took it as a compliment and went about my way. I was so clueless back then that I didn’t even bother to either add much more weight, or use less weight as a way of teasing her….doh!
“Good dick” as she moaned from her 2 minute continuous orgasm. Gonna be riding high on that one for the rest of my life.
I think I’ll call her today.
It hurts…..
You were perfect
So big ! Too big !
Shit. Just about any genuine compliment.
“I LOVE your arms”
“I LOVE your chest”
“Damn you’re big”
“I don’t think I can walk right now”
“You’re a great writer”
“I wish my husband could do (whatever hands on stuff) like that!”
“You’re such an amazing father”
Really, any genuine compliments that play to desirable traits are a huge ego boost. But the flip side is, any compliments that are not genuine, are untrue, or the man believes to be untrue, will do far more damage than good. Tell a guy with a 3” dick that he’s huge, he’s going to take that as a very backhanded compliment. Tell a guy who thinks he’s weak that he’s strong (even if he is), will be taken as mocking.
And ladies reading this… use caution in faking orgasms. Yes, a lot of men cannot tell. Those of us that can, take it as an insult when you fake it. We know every time isn’t going to be a grand slam, home run, or even a base hit. No one bats 1000. Tell him you enjoyed the intimacy (or say nothing) and move on. Don’t fake it.
Last point for the ladies…
If a guy would rather be told he’s hung, than how he’s the best in bed you’ve ever had…. Run.
An ex, almost 20 years after we broke up, saying “You ruined sex for me.”
I kind of froze and asked her how so.
“Well, after having sex with you, nobody else really made me feel the same way in bed.”
(And yes, I went around with a grin on my face for the next week or so.)
I’ve been told by a few women that I could do porn.
Was picking up my newly purchased (it was a year old, used) Trans Am, bright red 2001 WS6 6 speed. Girlfriend at the time dropped me off and as I pulled it out she said Damn I’ve heard of the car making the man but you really make the car. Lol I don’t think my ego has ever been that big before lol
“We’re not dreaming, right? This feels like I’m going to wake up in my shitty life again and you were just a figment of my imagination.”
When my wife says “You made me cum way too fast” and “You’re so handsome.”
Anytime a woman gives me a compliment about my looks, I’m immediately on cloud 9.
When my step daughter asked me to walk her down the aisle at her wedding. (Not in addition to, but instead of her biological father.)
A masseuse gasped and said I had a beautiful c0ck. From a professional, I took that as heartfelt.
Black women in a car catcalled me while riding my bike and stopped at a light. Something about my ass looking like two well done hams she wanted to gobble up.
At Lowe’s buying stuff for a project. Had my then 2 year old son with me. Had him in one arm, and my other arm filled with what I was buying. The cashier called out, “That’s some kind of man.”
I was walking past my sister one day talking to one of her friends i never met before. Her friend as soon as she saw me said out loud to my sister (so i could hear) “,Your brother is so fit” and I remember feeling really good about myself
Fit is a British word for sexy or really good looking. I had a very low view of my self image back then as a teenager. So that one random comment really made me happy.
Or my sister one day when we were teenagers getting annoyed at how low of opinion i had of my self image that she confronted me saying “I don’t know why you think you’re ugly. Nearly all my friends like you and think you’re cute”. That gave me a ego boost. I have 3 sisters and all 3 of told me that some friends of theirs have told them how attractive they thought i am. Even 2 of my mums friends tell me im a good looking man. All of those comments give me a ego boost.
“You are the most emotionally mature man I’ve ever met”.
When at a family event my son was hosting at my house my ex-wife made the comment to me and my new wife “you two are beautiful”.
The pain in her eyes was rewarding on several levels LOL
“Something about your body makes me want to run my fingers over every inch of you like a map I need to memorize. It’s so attractive.”
I was called exotic. I’m a Midwestern white boy so that pumped my ego up a bit haha. I’ve also been told my face is a 10/10, that one stuck haha.
A Starbucks barista told me I looked like a young sober Colin Farrell and I say that to myself in the mirror quite often.
Edit: also am sober and was born in ireland (grew up in states), so it was even better
“I can feel it in my stomach!”
The first time I got a compliment from a strange woman at 43. She said I was handsome and funny.
A random lady told me she liked my tie once. That stuck
My wife and I had a threesome. I went down on the third and after she climaxed, she asked if she could return the favor. I agreed, stood, and she pulled me out of my underwear. Then she looked back at my wife and went “Damn!”.
You’ve taught me so much about my body and what brings me pleasure.
I had a woman say that’s not the smallest one she’s ever seen.
Long distance relationship, so this is surely fueled by us only seeing each other once a season. Yet still, probably the hottest person I’ve ever been with, literal porn star. Normally with women only but makes an “exception” for me. Said they wished all they had to do in life was suck me off. I still think about it
My wife refers to me as Batman. The first time she did it I laughed it off and thought she was joking but she’s done it a few times since then and has told me in all seriousness that’s how she thinks of me. It feels good that she pictures me that way.
I was about to go in and give a technical talk in front of a couple hundred peers and a female peer who had never seen me in a suit and tie took one look and said “Wow! You look presidential!”. That talk went well.
She said that I looked good.
I overheard someone I recently slept with bragging to my coworkers about how good I was in bed.
You’re the first one who knows my body and how to make me come. She was 38, I was 25.
One was “I love your shoulders”
The second was a woman trying to tackle me by jumping on me and I caught her and she just said “oh.”
I’m halfway sure they were stroking my ego to help keep my mind off the pain, but the nurses expressing how impressive my pain tolerance is was very boosting for some reason.