i feel like once i cum once im DONE. it kinda hurts to come out if i try again a second cus i cant cum as much. what are you guys doing to have no refractory period??
how are you guys having multiple rounds
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i feel like once i cum once im DONE. it kinda hurts to come out if i try again a second cus i cant cum as much. what are you guys doing to have no refractory period??
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i feel like once i cum once im DONE. it kinda hurts to come out if i try again a second cus i cant cum as much. what are you guys doing to have no refractory period??
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It just happens
There are times you’ll feel you don’t need to stop and can still continue. Then times you need to catch your breath before going again. There isn’t any trick in my opinion. You just gotta want it.
I’m built different. My Dad told me that I was born with a little baby boner. I’ve had one ever since.
It’s one of those things that’s mostly genetic.
You can move it around a little, standard “it will be easier the healthier you are” things but you’re not going to go from a long one to none.
I don’t know, I feel like my refractory period is like 60 seconds or something lol, with a little bit of stimulation and psychological effort to be aroused I’m hard again. Not quite as hard as the first time initially but over time I can even work up to the second orgasm being better than the first.
Maybe it’s a biological difference, I’ve never felt like I had a refractory period of more than a few minutes or half an hour tops. Unless I’ve done it 3-4x in a row which I try not to.
I don’t usually, but sometimes you just want more. Happens like once a year lol.
I’m 56, and I can still do double dips. Maca Root helps. I take it daily, twice the recommended dosage. It’s cheap, and it helps. After the first time, I normally go to the bathroom and then take a quick shower. Someone shared this a long time ago. After that, I go back to my wife, and we start working on round 2.
I’m only 24, so maybe age plays a factor, but 2-4 rounds definitely isn’t unheard of
For me if the women I’m with is really into it and she’s puts in the effort I’m up for it pun intended, also have you tried taking a pre work out before hand, bro it’s a game changer, I go to the gym so i always have some but try it I’m using Hyde’s nightmare bro try it lol
I’m 36. It doesn’t even feel the best till I cum at least once. Then it gets crazy sensitive and it’s just a waterfall of pleasure from that point. It was too much when I was younger but I’ve come to love it. It also takes a woman I’m crazy attracted to. To the point even after orgasm I have 0 desire to stop pleasuring her. Usually it ends because it’s been 2-4 hours and we are both exhausted thirsty and starving.
Take good care of your body and brain, and heart.
Be in good relative shape (strength train) work your PC muscles, if you are over 35 supplement with something that will stimulate your NATURAL production of testosterone, hydrate very well, breathe deeply and be patient with yourself.
Round two should start with more stimulation; after I finish the first time, I focus on my partner and stimulate her. Focusing on her even though I may be tired or feeling depleted, kicks into some animalistic desires in me and her arousal sparks mine. Im good for 3-4 with this with a small break in between each (5ish min)
You just need better pussy imo
I used to have my refractory really low. I’d just slow down when finishing till “the wave hit” then pick up the pace again before you soften. Takes practice.
I honestly was always like that as far back as I can remember. Doctor said it might be a chemical imbalance but not really a health concern.
And I’m always more sensitive each time, I just don’t care lol.
Think its just luck of the draw honestly. 42m and I can pretty much just keep going. Always been that way, nothing I’ve done to make it that way
Nah I’m with you op. One and done since I was young and even with masturbation. Not to be graphic but the volume was….a lot. Why I always figured I was like that…. I emptied myself first time.
Idk. I just can and do.
I’m as good once as I ever was. But with round 2 I can take care of her needs but I’m not ejaculating again.
No clue, I’ve just always been able too if I’m really into the woman. It’s not instant, but if I go pee and grab a drink, I’m good to go again.
Few years ago when I met my second wife, she was 20 years younger than me. I was 42. She was 22. A friend of mine turned me onto these pills called volume. They’re from Europe. You can get them here from one distributor. They’ll help you go a few more rounds if you want the link, I’ll send it to you.
If i tried that now, at my age(54), there’s no way i could. When i was 18-25ish, when my body was flooded with hormones, it was easy.
Round 1 is for you or both
Round 2 is for her
Round 3 because why not
Round 4 she still likes it
Round 5 can still go so might as well
Round 6 she’s probably getting tired by now no?
Round 7 she might get sore so might as well tone it down
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Round 8 TBD
Cialis
In my 40s and going twice in one day is very rare, but when it happens it surprises me
Do her doggy style and when you pull out, spit on her back if you want her to think that you have stamina….. 🤪
The motivation to cum a 2nd or 3rd time
Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn’t. You’ve mentioned that it hurts to come out if you try again, maybe you need some lube? It’s okay to take a break and do something non-PIV in the bedroom for a bit, too. Do something else to keep you two engaged and then try to come back for another a little later.
Blue chew and the rounds average 15 min max so I’m not wasting all my energy but do well enough for the lady
Most of the people who tell you they are going multiple rounds are:
Or.
Too old for that shiz
I dunno I really love having sex and a naked woman 🤷🏻♂️
Being healthy and do some cardio workouts
Stop jacking off, do cardio, take a multivitamin with zinc (or just eat healthy food that has zinc), stop looking at porn, have sex with someone you love
Coke my dude. Sniff it off her tits or Crack.
It hurts to cum on the second round? Never heard that one before.
The occasional time a second round has happened its usually cause we just keep playing in one way or another and suddenly i notice its got some sort of life back in it.
I’ve lways had short refractory period for erections. Coming a second time within a few hours is more difficult. I experience a slight ache in my balls going again.
Some people are just born stupidly lucky. For most of my life, I seriously thought most people exaggerated refractory period times. It must be a myth.
Then one day…bam! I have to wait to recharge from now on.
Take a honey pack. You will be able to do them rounds EASILY 😏
Using Trimix, After I ejaculate, I can keep going until my wife has had enough.
Often when she hits the big O, I have another power orgasm myself.
It just comes natural, I’m not able to go a second round while in the moment but I can stay strong and finish her needs, give me 10-15 and I’m good to go again. I thought it would slow down as I got older but almost 40 and still feeling 16.
This really should have a nsfw tag btw
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In my experience, some huge facts would be age, sexual attraction, mood (foreplay, roleplay, dirty talk, etc.), and thrill (public vs in a private place like home).
Everyone is different.
Those aren’t in any specific order.
I have good days and bad days as well.
Depends on the situation really.
I’m one and done typically. But also my one is at minimum 45 minutes to an hour. I’ve just always been that way. Long sessions.
Have an intermission break
(Girl here who has experimented with helping with his)
Horny goat weed,
Black maca, (not red, red is for women)
Aswaganda
Zinc
Vitamin c
(There’s other supplements too you can just look into them, I have other comments abt this I’ll go back and look for the exact mixture I’ve found worked best, but you do have to tinker with this bc different stuff for different guys)
(I take some of this stuff myself)
(You can get libido mixes for this online just be careful and read through what your getting and get it responsibly)
You could also use delayed o creams,
Or whenever your getting close stop penetrating and go back to forms of foreplay, (take a quick break switch positions, finger and kiss her a little, nipple stim if she’s into it,
Or any other androgens zone there’s tons on women,
(Armpits, Knees, stomach, legs, ears, feet, lower back, neck,)
(Or you getting more foreplay as-well as-long as it wouldn’t push you over the edge)
Stop, pinch the tip to delay feeling, give her some enjoyment,
Then go back to it,
(If she’s comfortable with it you can both literally just take a water break till your good and ready to go again, like genuinely have sex till your close, and just stop for a bit) (this is nice if you are 1 and done)
Then get back to it,
Just some options I didn’t see mentioned as much here,
Aslong as ur pleasuring her other ways and communicate, she’s not gonna care,
ORAL ON HERE BEFORE YOU SCREW! (If she’s an oral girl, you can also employ toys, get her off before you get off and she won’t care lol)
(Good oral not half assed oral, ask her what she likes pay attention, watch tutorials whatever you needa do)
This is mostly normal. What helps is when you have a partner who doesn’t let you call it a night.
Take a little but of mushrooms and you’ll go all night
Weed
Will sound strange, but for those who can feel what I am talking about and can bear with me to the end:
Focus on her, connecting in every way possible until you can…sense? What she is feeling
Connect different parts of her body to her normal areas that would make her cum, slowly dragging fingertips…or nails lightly between back of legs to clit or opening, telling her to relax and feel “this” on your clit, move your fingers just above her clit (as in a quarter of an inch and start pushing energy around her clit the same way you are fully connected elsewhere) while giving more stimulation elsewhere.
Hopefully she will start meditating on what you are doing and saying (hold on, I am getting to you). If you can feel her and she can feel you , she can start having continuous light rolling orgasms.
Practice that until you can touch any part of her and generate orgasm (case in point, she was a one and done girl, but eventually I got 30 out of her toes alone while sitting in a tub. One each lips, one each tongue and one each teeth. Doesn’t include all those that happened from other places.
If you have done this right, you can feel every wave, contraction, breathing ripple and moan (you have to, to switch up from soft to sharp with fingertip or nails lightly between or lips and teeth dragging out the sensation to get her to keep rolling).
Guess what, if you do actually feel it, you start to have those feelings, lighter, but in you. It teaches you how to have light rolling orgasms your self. Weird little ejaculations and waves, just like her.
Of course now you have the problem of having a full blown ejaculations after hour or hours of little ones and you are worn out. So you have to time when you are going to go hard to get a big one before you are exhausted.
And for those who cry bullshit…you only know what you know. I have only scratched the surface of what is possible, or what we have actually done.
It is truly crazy. We have been practicing for over a decade now. I can sit her in a chair, look in her eyes, tell her what to feel, voice low and slow and aligned to her and watch her have orgasms without ever touching her. Interesting in a restaurant, but not as fun otherwise.
Just depends who I’m with. I’ve gone up to 13 times in a 24 hour period.
I don’t make it a goal. There is no reason for that. When the time is right it kind of happens on its own. Let your body do the talking. We’re not training for the Olympics. To be honest most women want to be done once them fun is over but when you are really vibing with someone and the night is long just go with the flow.
With practice and focus, you can separate cumming from the orgasm. So I can usually cum multiple times but it’s mostly over for a while if I orgasm
Genes play a part, health plays a part, practice plays a part
It’s not really any one neat trick.
I have a high sex drive, I have a healthy diet, and I am in good shape. Very easy for me to just keep going for more rounds back to back or spread out through the day. When I was dating my wife in college, it was a blizzard all day on Sunday. We were at my offcampus house, and my roommates were all out. No one was going to travel that day, and instead we just hung out around the house all day banging every other hour, it was marvelous. We keep the tradition going when weather permits.
You can wait 20 min-1 hour to go again.
There’s a lot of factors – age, health, motivation, natural predilections, etc. Some guys just naturally have a high sex drive, some don’t. Teenagers can go all day, guys past 40 need a bit more motivation. A hot girl can really get you going, as will novelty, but monotony or a feeling that they’re not doing it because they genuinely want to will drag it down. Lots of guys go on TRT and find that they’re almost teenagers again. It’s a whole lot of things.
I’m actually orally bi and have always had a few straight buddies that I blow (having it all one way makes it super uncomplicated), and many of them have found that because I’m a guy and there’s no performance anxiety and nothing to live up to, they can go a couple rounds just for the fun of it. Taking the pressure off can really open things up. A lot of guys don’t realize that they’re horny as they naturally are until there’s a no consequence environment where blowjobs are delivered with all the intimacy and drama as a game of darts.
Bottom line, there are all kinds of variables that influence libido and refractory periods. It’s up to you to experiment with various solutions and see what works for you.
Depression and booze. Once, I started to sober up all the dopamine started to hit so I could go multiple times. Also, different partners helped to keep it interesting. It’s not healthy or sustainable.
Hey I’m 60 and can cum 30 times !
In a month
Ive found that taking regular breaks and staying hydrated helps reduce refractory period, but its not a guarantee.
1 and done. I gotta life to live.
I have no idea why, but after my vasectomy I have a very low reset timer with the ability to “power the the climax” for lack of a better way to put it.
ETA: I am NOT recommending you get a vasectomy just to potentially get the ability to bust sequential nuts.