When you are/were dating, what kind of hobbies and interests did you find attractive in a partner? Did you find yourself drawn to anything unusual?
What hobbies and interests attract you to a partner?
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When you are/were dating, what kind of hobbies and interests did you find attractive in a partner? Did you find yourself drawn to anything unusual?
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I like people who are willing to travel, take road trips and like music concerts. These are activities I enjoy more with a partner.
People who read! I think it is a sign on intelligence. Also traveling and being open do discover or try new stuff, it shows me that person is open to experimenting and to other way of seeing the world.
Can’t think of any hobbies i loved, but definitely disliked it when all hobbies were bar hobbies. I dated someone who had pool night, darts night, trivia, pinball night, and liked to go out and drink the other nights. 7 nights a week in a bar drinking is not a hobby that’s conducive to a highly functioning person.
Attraction is physical. A shared hobby won’t make an unattractive man magically attractive.
Anyone who has a passion, doesn’t matter what. Passion is hot as fuck
I like men that are mechanics. Prefer auto mechanics.
I love learning from them, talking in depth about engines, and watching them work.
I really wanted to be a mechanic myself but I wouldn’t have done well. I went to grad school and became a writer instead.
But I still enjoy engines and the men that can make them run.
My most recent ex husband was a mechanic. Brilliant mind. Can fix just about anything, even diesels, small engines, appliances, etc.
If only we were compatible. We’d definitely still be together.
I don’t have anything specific. I want a person to have a hobby and i want them to enjoy it. I also want not to be pressured into sharing it. I persona like reading, video games, chess, learning languages and tennis, and would be nice to share them, but not necessarily. I had relationships where we talked about our hobbies which were completely different, and as long as we were interested in each other and wanted to share our joy it was good.
Memorable ones were things that require ongoing learning or skill, like woodworking and playing an instrument and making music. Outdoor hobbies like hiking or kayaking. Also love when someone is into cooking, learning new recipes all the time, it adds a lot of interest to the daily grind and shows a lot of intention and creativity and whimsy. And any other sort of regular artistic outlet (drawing, painting, photography). The worst is when someone’s hobbies are all screen hobbies or consumer oriented (collectors, drinkers, etc) or sex-related (the kink scene is their only hobby).Â
I like men that like travelling, reading, videogames and watching movies or tv shows together. Common things.
But if he also likes the Sims, gardening, cooking or any type of craft (don’t care if it’s more “femenine” or “masculine”, like crochet or woodworking), that’s a BIG plus.
And going to the gym is also good as far as he’s not obsessed.
People who are nerds, gamers, into TTRPGs or Warhammer 40 K tabletop, SciFi, horror, reading, map making, writing.Â
Someone who is up to do adventurous things, but also likes to do nothing!!
Used to be gaming..but now I’ve noticed a lot don’t actually have any interests besides that. A love for cooking, fitness and the outdoors is now in my top three!
Intelligence, thinking outside the box, not blindly following religion, someone who can read and think on deeper subjects and not just stare at a video game or TV all day; being creative especially musically inclined. Someone who enjoys getting outdoors and hiking/exploring nature.
I like colourful people who like to try new things, who are into music and arts, have a skill of some kind, who are willing to improve in whatever way possible and who like to travel. I’m sapiosexual so I don’t really have a specific type 😅
I tended to gravitate towards people who enjoyed reading for pleasure, traveling, and scifi.
Music. When my husband and I were dating early on we did karaoke and I think it all turned around for me instantly when I heard him sing! We both love the same types of music, so seeing bands, and hearing him strum the guitar is still very attractive nearly 20y later.
It doesn’t matter what they are. I love when people have passions.
Workaholics who excel in their fields.
People who are unashamedly passionate about their own interests, but who also get really hyped about my own passions and read up on them so they can talk about them with me
People who like camping, kayaking and hiking.
woodworking, mechanic, fixing stuff. I am into traditional roles. I also like watching DIY home-renovation stuff.
He is really into art. His house looks like a museum and we go to art shows multiple times per month and judge them together.
Hobbies that dont only revolve around social outings/drinking.
Im an outdoorsy person and so is my partner- just in different ways. I ride horses and do a lot of hiking. He rides ATVs and does lake day camping. We have combined all our hobbies since they revolve around having fun outside and its been great. Every weekend we are doing something fun.
I look for men that have similar interest as myself alt, goth, hippie, artistic, scifi, nerdy quirky, adventurous etc.They like plants/animals, they read books, dabble in crafts even if its metal or woodwork, thrifting etc
I swipe on men in the fashion industry, those that work in cosmetics like barber, tattoo artist. And then on the opposite spectrum im ok with science guys of all kind. Environmentalists, hygienists, biologists, engineers etc.
I date bi men so thats never been an issue either, just masc leaning. But overall i swipe left on khaki & polo wearing church boys. And i avoid party boys and substance users.
Fitness. Don’t be a fat ass.
Extreme sports. Outdoorsy guys who like multi day hikes and camping. Regular sports too, but the sexy ones like boxing or martial arts.
Traveling, biking, eating out
I admire creative hobbies. Art, woodworking, cooking, gardening, crafts, playing musical instruments or singing etc. I admire people who have the courage to create.
Someone that can converse with anyone and I do not have to babysit at a gathering. Someone that always has ambition. Someone that we can always enjoy each other’s company.
I find natural curiosity very appealing, so reading and traveling are attractive to me. As is anything that shows interest in the world around them. One of the things I love most about my husband is that he’s not boring. We always have something interesting to talk about because he’s read some article or listened to a new podcast or learned something new that day about the world. And then when we travel, it’s so much fun to explore together and make discoveries. I just don’t like boring (this also goes with friends.)
Computer nerds. My husband has been building his own PCs since 10 years old and I love the passion he has for all things technology.
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Any kind of self sufficiency or homesteading hobby would be very well aligned with me.