I’ve been in the talking phase with 3 different guys. Like clockwork, each one of them revealed a careless opinion about current events. When I’m talking with women, it’s no issue. We’re always on the same page. But, the guys I’ve been interested in lately are in America on student visas and understandably want to keep anti-DT opinions hidden. I 100% respect that. Anything they say could jeaopordize their status.
However, after a few days, I asked one guy about his general opinion of current events. Not just here, but elsewhere too. He “joked” about voting for DT, backtracked, then said he “knows there’s a lot going on”. Guy # 2 said Americans don’t appreciate what they have (I agreed). But then he bragged about having a high-paying tech job. His job makes him “confident nothing will happen to him”. #2 guy was also colorist so I blocked him super fast.
Guy #3 also wanted to stay “neutral”. His reasoning was his own safety (I agree), but he seemed annoyed when I explained I support civil rights. He said it was unreasonable to be divided over differences of opinion.
Shared values is important, but I don’t know if talking about these values with non-Americans so soon is insensitive. Especially considering everything. I didn’t expect so many immigrants and POC to be ambivalent about such things.