How did you manage if you got divorced later in life after decades of marriage?

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Like did you worry if you’d be able to pay your bills, your health, or anything else that would have been easier if you were younger?

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  1. psdancecoach Avatar

    Split after 18 years. I thought I couldn’t survive without him. He was the breadwinner and I spent most of those 18 years as a SAHM. I was terrified.

    But I made it. I have an amazingly wonderful group of friends. A nice three bedroom apartment all to myself (and my dogs) decorated the way I like. And I am so much happier and healthier. Sure, I got lucky as hell with some job opportunities. It wasn’t purely grit and determination. But I got through it. And I wouldn’t go back for anything.

  2. Low_Mongoose_4623 Avatar

    Divorced after 14 years. I ended up working multiple jobs to pay my divorce lawyer and it took me 4 years to finalize the divorce. Now I’m doing well financially and working way less. It would have been easier to just never get married when I was younger

  3. 0utandab0ut Avatar

    After 20 years of being a stay home mom, I reentered the workforce. I started in an office at $15 an hour and It took 6 years and a lot of hustle before I earned a comfortable wage. I got through that time with the help of alimony.

  4. 143019 Avatar

    Money is a lot tighter but I get by. My life is now happier and more peaceful than I ever thought possible.

  5. No-Question-3593 Avatar

    I’m newly divorced, just a year. I worried about the bills, organising the place (He made me move out), and handling joint residency (he insisted on 50:50). But so far it’s been OK. I can’t spend quite as much on the girls as I could, before, but my personal spending hasn’t changed as I never had all that much money for myself.

    I’m not shouted at any more and the Cat is happy. I’ve found some nice friends to hang with now I’m not getting dirty looks for having people over. I would never go back. I don’t think I would even live with a man again.