He got louder, bought useless stuff and suddenly acted like advice didn’t apply to him anymore. Money didn’t change him, it just showed who he really was.
He bought a bbq for like half a salary….built a adapted deck for said bbq so my kid (he is not the dad) could easy get up there with her wheelchair….then he bought plantboxes and stuff to plant stuff. He growing his tomatos now š
He is more happy, we are lessed stress about future and we just living life.
I think a burden lifted from him. He slept easier, smiled more, and acted more like the boy I fell in love with. Money can’t buy happiness but it can alleviate stress.
I met my husband when he was completely broke and now is very comfortable. Nothing changed. Heās still the same kind, funny and goofy guy I met decades ago.
He wanted to upgrade our house to a massive one because he ādeserved itā. He started collecting a specific type of car, until he had 4 of them and I had to drive one, because he āworked hard for thisā. Then he started buying himself more clothes, going for lattes daily and freaking out about money. Whatever more money he earned, he spent. Then he started nagging me to get a better job and work more because he was hemorrhaging money. When I suggested he sell a car or two, stop going for lattes daily he would say āthatās just a drop in the bucket, it wonāt make a difference and I deserve thisā. Ok bud. Heās an ex now.
The money was going out faster than it came in. But it was to impress people and not things he actually wanted for himself or his home. He’d pickup tabs for other people, or go out trying to make rich friends with his last $50, but he didnt want to be friends, he just wanted what they had by association. He’d overshare very personal things to get people to like him, and theyd be visibly uncomfortable. He maxed himself out on loans and bought the most expensive gadgets. It was weird. It got to a point where he wanted to start using what I had for his validation kicks.
We broke up, he was emotionally unavailable, passionless outside of money, and always burnt out. And yea ……no one could advise him of anything.
He loves being able to provide more for me. He knows I grew up poor and had a lot of health issues. When we were dating and making the same before his promotion he was happy being able to provide me with the things I wanted as a child.
I grew up with really bad teeth and always wanted braces. My smile made me really insecure and in every photo I wouldnāt show any teeth. The day he got his promotion and we went out for dinner he told me that he was going to pay for my braces. Now in every photo I show off my new pearly white. He also signed me up for adult riding lessons (horses) and is always cheering me on during lessons.
Every time he gets a raise or promotion, he gets more work stressed due to the added responsibilities, and he gets happier at home due to having more money for home improvements or activities with the kids. His confidence has definitely grown at work as he is able to take on more things, but as he puts it, āgrowth is uncomfortable.ā
ETA as he gains wealth from promotions, he becomes more job focused. He feels pressured to deliver extra hours or more work travel. I told him once I feel like heās married to his job, and heās been trying very hard to do better about it. Soon Iāll be leaving my job to stay home with the kids, and Iām curious how that will affect his mental load.
His parents (EU) are pretty well off and made sure to raise him very very down to earth. They made him work as a teen and pay for his own uni+postgrad (UK). He received zero financial help from them past 16. He moved to EastAsia after graduating cus he was offered a jobā¦ he lived pretty frugally. Then as he moved up and started being able to not worry about moneyā¦ thatās about all that changed.
He thinks itās mostly a waste of money for himself to fly first/business class, but heāll pay for his parents to fly first class. Heās a good guy.
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He got louder, bought useless stuff and suddenly acted like advice didn’t apply to him anymore. Money didn’t change him, it just showed who he really was.
He got more confident, which was great! But also started putting less time for me. It felt like I became less of a priority once the money came in.
He bought a bbq for like half a salary….built a adapted deck for said bbq so my kid (he is not the dad) could easy get up there with her wheelchair….then he bought plantboxes and stuff to plant stuff. He growing his tomatos now š
He is more happy, we are lessed stress about future and we just living life.
He just being him but more money really. š
He (unemployed ex) would demand more because he knows I make more.
I think a burden lifted from him. He slept easier, smiled more, and acted more like the boy I fell in love with. Money can’t buy happiness but it can alleviate stress.
I met my husband when he was completely broke and now is very comfortable. Nothing changed. Heās still the same kind, funny and goofy guy I met decades ago.
He wanted to upgrade our house to a massive one because he ādeserved itā. He started collecting a specific type of car, until he had 4 of them and I had to drive one, because he āworked hard for thisā. Then he started buying himself more clothes, going for lattes daily and freaking out about money. Whatever more money he earned, he spent. Then he started nagging me to get a better job and work more because he was hemorrhaging money. When I suggested he sell a car or two, stop going for lattes daily he would say āthatās just a drop in the bucket, it wonāt make a difference and I deserve thisā. Ok bud. Heās an ex now.
The money was going out faster than it came in. But it was to impress people and not things he actually wanted for himself or his home. He’d pickup tabs for other people, or go out trying to make rich friends with his last $50, but he didnt want to be friends, he just wanted what they had by association. He’d overshare very personal things to get people to like him, and theyd be visibly uncomfortable. He maxed himself out on loans and bought the most expensive gadgets. It was weird. It got to a point where he wanted to start using what I had for his validation kicks.
We broke up, he was emotionally unavailable, passionless outside of money, and always burnt out. And yea ……no one could advise him of anything.
He loves being able to provide more for me. He knows I grew up poor and had a lot of health issues. When we were dating and making the same before his promotion he was happy being able to provide me with the things I wanted as a child.
I grew up with really bad teeth and always wanted braces. My smile made me really insecure and in every photo I wouldnāt show any teeth. The day he got his promotion and we went out for dinner he told me that he was going to pay for my braces. Now in every photo I show off my new pearly white. He also signed me up for adult riding lessons (horses) and is always cheering me on during lessons.
He did more planning for our future š
Every time he gets a raise or promotion, he gets more work stressed due to the added responsibilities, and he gets happier at home due to having more money for home improvements or activities with the kids. His confidence has definitely grown at work as he is able to take on more things, but as he puts it, āgrowth is uncomfortable.ā
ETA as he gains wealth from promotions, he becomes more job focused. He feels pressured to deliver extra hours or more work travel. I told him once I feel like heās married to his job, and heās been trying very hard to do better about it. Soon Iāll be leaving my job to stay home with the kids, and Iām curious how that will affect his mental load.
He became way happier since he could and wanted to buy things himself, became more dependent on himself
They quickly forgot the year I financially supported them or their family.
He used it as a way to make me feel like I owed him something. Needless to say, we are divorced.
He didnāt.
His parents (EU) are pretty well off and made sure to raise him very very down to earth. They made him work as a teen and pay for his own uni+postgrad (UK). He received zero financial help from them past 16. He moved to EastAsia after graduating cus he was offered a jobā¦ he lived pretty frugally. Then as he moved up and started being able to not worry about moneyā¦ thatās about all that changed.
He thinks itās mostly a waste of money for himself to fly first/business class, but heāll pay for his parents to fly first class. Heās a good guy.